I played in bars every weekend all over the east coast of florida from the late 70' s to the late 80's until i settled down to family life. Rules were always the same until i started encountering different rules in the late 80's.
I never got in a fight...some arguments here and there though and run out of a bar one time after being called a hustler by a room owner after i lightened his pockets by a couple hundred.
The reason i never got into a fight was i had 4 rules i lived by.
1. Never argue over whose quarter is up. I always used a half dollar to mark my turn.
2. Never argue over rules. I usually managed to turn their rules to my advantage.
3. Never ask to gamble . i always turned them down saying that i just liked playimg and let them talk me into gamblimg and set the wager.
4. Never raise the stakes . well i did break this rule once in a while in certain situations which i will explain below.
Those 4 rules kept me out of a lot of trouble with sore losers when i reminded them i didnt want to gamble in the first place. It just was not worth the chance of being hurt....hurting some one and getting sued ...or put in jail and have a criminal record over a 5 or 10 dollar pool game.
The craziest rule i ever encountered was whwn my opponent scratched and i had the 8 in the kitchen. I valled a corner pocket and kicked at the 8 and missed connectimg with the 8 by a couple of inches. My opponent jumps up and said you lost . i said...what ?? He said you missed the 8...you gotta hit it or its a loss. My first jmclimation was to go ballistic on his azz but i managed to keep cool and stick to rule number 2.
I started gambling nightly the night I turned fifteen. Got my driver's license that day so a lot of things changed. At that age I might have been a wee bit too willing to fight. Wish I had thought to mark whose challenge was up like you did. I can only remember one fight over that but quite a few heated discussions!
Number two was part of smoothing out my act after the first couple of years. I said screw it, let them make any rules they want, I'll just make them play by the same rules! I was going to come out in the black in a bar almost every time anyway and it was kinda fun to beat them with the rules they made up on the spot.
Number three, like you I generally found that the challenge tables involved gambling. My rule was never to raise the bet over five dollars. Kept me from abusing the working stiffs and the would be hustlers would raise the bet themselves. This covers four also.
I forgot about must hit the eight ball. That was a common rule around town. Almost everybody practiced kicking just out of the kitchen crossbank and back to the eight ball with a lot of spin.
I rarely fought or even had harsh words once I adopted the above policies. On the road alone I just went with the flow, whatever and however they wanted to play was fine. In years of rambling I can remember one place with the rules posted on the wall in a large sign big enough to see, four by six or something like that. Seemed like a good idea but a room owner said such signs were bad for business.
Rules for eight ball in the 60s in St. Louis varied from neighborhood to neighborhood and sometimes room to room but typically as I remember if your opponent sank the cue ball you got the ball behind the head string and if all your balls were there too you could spot one of them. Balls sunk in the wrong pocket were also spotted. That's why being able to shoot a spot shot was so important and people practiced spot shots a lot. Also in a lot of places no safety play was allowed and you had to demonstrate to your opponent and the spectators that you were making a legitimate offensive shot. And you had to call all the balls, and in some places, whether the shot was to be "clean" or "off the rail"-- i.e. the ball wouldn't or would touch a cushion on the way in. I got in a lot of arguments over the rules in those days but always seemed to work it out.
Fortunately my regular haunts weren't call everything. If you made a ball in the wrong pocket it was loss of turn. No safeties allowed, a lot of accidental safeties though! We mostly played on the honor system but banks, kicks, combinations, and caroms were expected to be called. Things went pretty smoothly with the regulars around town but we always had a lot of travelers in the oil patch too. It was a killing field for hustlers at almost anything.
I knew a half-dozen or so guys that never worked for a living, just lived on the fringe. One guy had his child support raised up and up until he was paying $2000 a month in child support in the early seventies! This was rock star and major league ball player levels back then. Eddie was doing it with no visible means of support. He was in the courtroom with his wife trying to raise his child support once again when the judge asked him what he did for a living. He couldn't tell her so she told him that he either got a job or was locked up for contempt of court. He got a job, and within hours bet a guy $1500 that he could hold it for six months!
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