I hate to start another thread about this, but was asked by Brian and Jack, the tourney directors to make this post for them. Neither can post here at this time, but wanted to let everyone know their take on the incident. He emailed me this morning, and hopes that we can stop all the speculation, as to who was right, and who was wrong. Here's their point of view..
By the way, I do not intend to answer a bunch of questions about this situation. I was not there, and from the points made to me, from people who were, the whole thing could have been avoided in several different ways.
"Speaking as the tournament directors, the incident
> that ocurred at the tournament at John Waynes on this past
> Saturday with regard to Jeanette Lee and the young man that
> brought her in the calcutta. We would like to 1st say, we
> regret anytime anyone that participates in a tournament we
> run would ever have anything less than great time. The
> situation that ocurred between them is a situation that we
> believe could and should have been handled better.
>
> We must begin by saying we did not observe everything nor
> did we overhear everything said between these 2
> individuals. So to say this is the end all story and will
> put an end to the ongoinging speculation would be inaccurate
> on our part. Our purpose is to provide our observations
> only, not to direct blame. Those observations may be made
> by others, we prefer to think the best about both
> individuals.
>
> The following is our entire observations and the
> ONLY comments we will have concerning it.
>
> Since it is impossible to recreate time we will not even
> attempt to provide a point by point moment by moment
> description. What we will do is try to illustrate our basic
> observations.
>
> The situation as it progressed was monitored by us
> AFTER it was realized that a disagreement between them had
> ocurred and we did in fact encourage them to discontinue
> their interaction as it would provide no remedy to either
> of them. It was apparent that Jeanette clearly felt
> insulted and the young man clearly felt he was in the
> right. The entire conversation between them was not
> overheard by us. So we can not speak as to the the entire
> content of their conversation between them. However we
> did take steps to control the situation so it could not
> escalate. We will say we did not hear, anything from
> either of them to one another that could be considered to be
> overtly disrespectful or provocative enough to warrant
> anyone's removal from the premises or being barred from
> the tournament. The sole reason we did step in and say
> something was to prevent any escalation. We will say
> that there was no evidence that we observed it could
> occur but we wanted to ensure all issues are avoided that
> is why we did speak up.
>
> There came a time after their discussion that Jeanette
> decided to forfeit out of the tournament, she did so
> voluntarily and voiced her opinion as to why she was taking
> that action. It was accepted by us as her decision and
> how she honestly felt. We will offer no opinion on it,
> only to say that each person is different and their
> perception of a particular situation may not be always
> be 100% right. But as individuals we all have
> experienced instances that what we feel is happening at
> any particular time is real to you. It was clear that
> Jeanette was doing what she felt was the right thing for
> her to do.
>
> We will also say, that it was communicated by us to the
> young man that we were not trying to take sides but that
> Jeanette was clear in her resolve and the situation would
> serve no purpose to continue. He accepted our observations
> as a gentleman and during the remainder of the tournament
> displayed no behavior that wasn't consistent with that
> of a gentleman. We will further say, we have observed this
> young man at our tournaments before and at other locations
> and he has always comported himself in a manner consistent
> with being a good sport and friendly competitor.
>
> We will say that the entire situation could have been
> avoided had it been taken care of earlier at the time of
> the calcutta. In the future we will be making a
> announcement that each player/buyor is responsible for
> settling their calcutta participation to whatever
> degree, prior to the commencement of the tournament.
>
> We hope this puts an end to all the wild and
> expanded speculation about this incident, it was
> unfortunate and we regret it occurred at one of our
> tournaments. We furthermore hope it will allow an end to
> all this speculation and neither of these individual's
> reputations be compromised. This was a situation where
> sadly the parties did not communicate timely nor
> effectively and the end result was a poor one for all all
> concerned.
>
> We however, would like to congratulate Frog (Jeremy) the
> winner of the tournament, Nesli O'Hare on her fine
> performance finshing 2nd, with Brian Gregg and Danny Glass
> finishing 3rd and 4th respectively.
>
> Thank you all for your time and attention, we sincerely
> hope this will put an end to this incident and allow both
> individuals to put it behind them. It would have been our
> preference that it never have occurred. We would leave you
> all with 1 parting thought, these 2 people truly believed
> they were right and stood on principle. We would submit
> that all can find blame on anyone at anytime if we look
> hard enough for it, it is our preference to believe the
> best about both these individuals."
>
By the way, I do not intend to answer a bunch of questions about this situation. I was not there, and from the points made to me, from people who were, the whole thing could have been avoided in several different ways.
"Speaking as the tournament directors, the incident
> that ocurred at the tournament at John Waynes on this past
> Saturday with regard to Jeanette Lee and the young man that
> brought her in the calcutta. We would like to 1st say, we
> regret anytime anyone that participates in a tournament we
> run would ever have anything less than great time. The
> situation that ocurred between them is a situation that we
> believe could and should have been handled better.
>
> We must begin by saying we did not observe everything nor
> did we overhear everything said between these 2
> individuals. So to say this is the end all story and will
> put an end to the ongoinging speculation would be inaccurate
> on our part. Our purpose is to provide our observations
> only, not to direct blame. Those observations may be made
> by others, we prefer to think the best about both
> individuals.
>
> The following is our entire observations and the
> ONLY comments we will have concerning it.
>
> Since it is impossible to recreate time we will not even
> attempt to provide a point by point moment by moment
> description. What we will do is try to illustrate our basic
> observations.
>
> The situation as it progressed was monitored by us
> AFTER it was realized that a disagreement between them had
> ocurred and we did in fact encourage them to discontinue
> their interaction as it would provide no remedy to either
> of them. It was apparent that Jeanette clearly felt
> insulted and the young man clearly felt he was in the
> right. The entire conversation between them was not
> overheard by us. So we can not speak as to the the entire
> content of their conversation between them. However we
> did take steps to control the situation so it could not
> escalate. We will say we did not hear, anything from
> either of them to one another that could be considered to be
> overtly disrespectful or provocative enough to warrant
> anyone's removal from the premises or being barred from
> the tournament. The sole reason we did step in and say
> something was to prevent any escalation. We will say
> that there was no evidence that we observed it could
> occur but we wanted to ensure all issues are avoided that
> is why we did speak up.
>
> There came a time after their discussion that Jeanette
> decided to forfeit out of the tournament, she did so
> voluntarily and voiced her opinion as to why she was taking
> that action. It was accepted by us as her decision and
> how she honestly felt. We will offer no opinion on it,
> only to say that each person is different and their
> perception of a particular situation may not be always
> be 100% right. But as individuals we all have
> experienced instances that what we feel is happening at
> any particular time is real to you. It was clear that
> Jeanette was doing what she felt was the right thing for
> her to do.
>
> We will also say, that it was communicated by us to the
> young man that we were not trying to take sides but that
> Jeanette was clear in her resolve and the situation would
> serve no purpose to continue. He accepted our observations
> as a gentleman and during the remainder of the tournament
> displayed no behavior that wasn't consistent with that
> of a gentleman. We will further say, we have observed this
> young man at our tournaments before and at other locations
> and he has always comported himself in a manner consistent
> with being a good sport and friendly competitor.
>
> We will say that the entire situation could have been
> avoided had it been taken care of earlier at the time of
> the calcutta. In the future we will be making a
> announcement that each player/buyor is responsible for
> settling their calcutta participation to whatever
> degree, prior to the commencement of the tournament.
>
> We hope this puts an end to all the wild and
> expanded speculation about this incident, it was
> unfortunate and we regret it occurred at one of our
> tournaments. We furthermore hope it will allow an end to
> all this speculation and neither of these individual's
> reputations be compromised. This was a situation where
> sadly the parties did not communicate timely nor
> effectively and the end result was a poor one for all all
> concerned.
>
> We however, would like to congratulate Frog (Jeremy) the
> winner of the tournament, Nesli O'Hare on her fine
> performance finshing 2nd, with Brian Gregg and Danny Glass
> finishing 3rd and 4th respectively.
>
> Thank you all for your time and attention, we sincerely
> hope this will put an end to this incident and allow both
> individuals to put it behind them. It would have been our
> preference that it never have occurred. We would leave you
> all with 1 parting thought, these 2 people truly believed
> they were right and stood on principle. We would submit
> that all can find blame on anyone at anytime if we look
> hard enough for it, it is our preference to believe the
> best about both these individuals."
>
