I don't really agree, but I'm not sure I disagree completely. I think this is all in your perspective. The OP sees an opportunity to point out to the APA haters that regardless of what you might think of the APA it isn't all bad. Perhaps his timing was a little off, but I'd have tothink that the person that was the object of the benefit would have not seen this thread as being disrespectful as he was an APA member and a big enough part of his league that he was known and admired enough by the folks there for the benefit to have been a successful event. I'm sure no disrespect was intended.
As to loriders comments a couple of posts prior to this one, I couldn't agree more. I've read many threads bashing the APA and the members and wether you think so or not, yes, some are that bad, but to be fair every league, organizations, and gambling agreement has it fair share of assholes, sandbaggers, whiners, .... in the APA the brand of APA bad guys might be a little different than the BCA bad guys or money league bad guys. In the APA generally there is never really any money on the line, but when you put money on the table a whole different breed of asshole appears and the "money" asshole can be far worse than the "my skill level is to high" asshole, but both are intollerable and neither is good for the game.
That being said, to be fair each has it's share of good guys too. I doubt that every player at the poolhall that weekend was an APA player. But everyone was there to honor a fellow player and his family, so for something like this we can come together, most of the rest of the time the relationship is adversarial, and that's too bad.
The fact is that each has players and they are really good players, each has bangers, assholes, whiners, drunks, sex fiends, crooks, etc...
So lets all own it. We all have a goal, even if that goal is just to get drunk, laid, and have some fun, and lets all admit that now with state pool is in in the United States we all need each other, and lets see if we can find other ways to come together for the good of the game without it involving the death of a fellow player.