I have problems 
I need a preshot routine, that takes care of all my problems, but at the same time is possible to remember..
1. I lift my elbow when I stroke because I tighten up the muscles in the body in the stroke(not in pre-strokes which I am trying to eliminate by doing the pre-strokes in the same speed as the stroke will be, and by not taking a short pause before the final stroke) THIS fault in my game is my nemesis, I can't seem to shake this bad habit..
2. My aim does not look right(I have the move my head left and right over the cue until it looks like I am hitting the right place, and only then can I start aiming. I am not sure what to do about this?? I am right eye dominant, that is all I know)
3. I am tall, I am not sure, if I should keep the cue next to my hip when shooting, or turn a bit which makes it possible for me to hold further ahead on the cue.
4. I just can't seem to get use to not holding a firm grip on the cue. But this make me slow down the cue speed, and killing all my cb action. I have experimentally tried to hold the cue in a ring made of my thumb and index-finger, and with a swing in my wrist, and this produces a lot of draw and other cueball actions. Sometimes I can also do a fair amount of effect with a more firm grip, but I can't seem to decide on what is most useful.
All these things destroys my self-esteem and my believe in being able to pocket balls. And all these things go through my head when shooting pool. And at the same time I need to concentrate on making the pocket.
I have been playing for 3 years now, and I am getting annoyed, angry, sad, ashamed and very depressed. Subconsciously I must have changed something in my game. And now I am suffering the consequences. Why can't I just get better? I make drills and practice matches.
Any and all help is appreciated. I wish we had an instructor in Denmark...

I need a preshot routine, that takes care of all my problems, but at the same time is possible to remember..
1. I lift my elbow when I stroke because I tighten up the muscles in the body in the stroke(not in pre-strokes which I am trying to eliminate by doing the pre-strokes in the same speed as the stroke will be, and by not taking a short pause before the final stroke) THIS fault in my game is my nemesis, I can't seem to shake this bad habit..
2. My aim does not look right(I have the move my head left and right over the cue until it looks like I am hitting the right place, and only then can I start aiming. I am not sure what to do about this?? I am right eye dominant, that is all I know)
3. I am tall, I am not sure, if I should keep the cue next to my hip when shooting, or turn a bit which makes it possible for me to hold further ahead on the cue.
4. I just can't seem to get use to not holding a firm grip on the cue. But this make me slow down the cue speed, and killing all my cb action. I have experimentally tried to hold the cue in a ring made of my thumb and index-finger, and with a swing in my wrist, and this produces a lot of draw and other cueball actions. Sometimes I can also do a fair amount of effect with a more firm grip, but I can't seem to decide on what is most useful.
All these things destroys my self-esteem and my believe in being able to pocket balls. And all these things go through my head when shooting pool. And at the same time I need to concentrate on making the pocket.
I have been playing for 3 years now, and I am getting annoyed, angry, sad, ashamed and very depressed. Subconsciously I must have changed something in my game. And now I am suffering the consequences. Why can't I just get better? I make drills and practice matches.
Any and all help is appreciated. I wish we had an instructor in Denmark...