Parental advice for Jennifer here......

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mrpool06

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My advice......love your kids.....simple as that. But, be prepared, there will be moments when you'll be overwhelmed, even with 1 kid. The free time you had to yourself will be reduced drastically...suddenly it will become about them....which is good. I had a serious adjustment to having kids, but eventually I learned to be less selfish, and now I pretty much live for them (I have 2 kids, ages 3 & 7). My wife & I spend lots of quality time with our kids. But, I still make "me" time when I can.....I practice pool during my lunch hours during the work week.

Good luck as a parent, I think you'll do great!!
 
Enjoy

all the fun joyous moments when they are little because they will bring many smiles to your face when you get older.
 
mrpool06 said:
The free time you had to yourself will be reduced drastically...suddenly it will become about them....
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Ah, there is nine months to prepare so it isn't that sudden. :rolleyes:
 
Never Lie

Never lie to your kids. Always be truthful to them. They will appreciate it greatly when they get older, and you will be much respected by them.

That is probably the best thing any parent could do for their kids.
 
I like kids because they laugh at my dumb jokes that everybody else has heard.

My advice, run thru the sprinkler with your kids. You won't regret it.

and enjoy the ride.
 
Thanks for all the great advice! I haven't really seen any sprinklers here in NY so I think we'll have to find an open fire hydrant. Sounds like fun, though!
 
Read to them.

Do what you have to do to sleep at night.

Unconditional love sometimes means pissing them off.

Going to the football game or homecoming dance is way more important than homework.

Make sure your kid ain't the stinky one.

Be the kid's mother, not their best friend. If you act like his/her friend, they'll treat you like a child.

Tell them the truth about Santa Clause before they get surprised.

If you make it taboo, they'll want it more.

Teach diversity and acceptance early on.

Every kid is different. Take everyone's advice with a grain of salt.

Don't ever for one second let anyone accuse you of spoiling your own kid.

Try your hardest to not let your first child's childhood slip by while you tend to your second child.

You will dote on the little things with your first child, and let go the same things with your second. This results in different personalities. I don't know if that can be avoided.

Don't make McDonald's the reward.

Start saving for college now.

Do not try to make your lost dreams your children's future.

Remember your childhood, but don't condone such behavior.

There has to be discipline. Without discipline today, there will be no disciplined decision making tomorrow.

Parents should try their best to be on the same side when it comes to discipline, permission, etc. If not, that gives the "but Mommy said I could" Syndrome.

IMO, sexuality shouldn't be a touchy subject.

In the end, you won't know if you did it right until it's too late.

And so on....

HTH,

Fred
 
Cornerman said:
If you make it taboo, they'll want it more.
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Frayud,

Great advice. How many PK's (Preacher's kids) or otherwise sheltered individuals have gone hog wild at their first taste of freedom? First year of College comes to mind.

Cornerman said:
Remember your childhood, but don't condone such behavior.
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Yeah we all smoked pot or worse (well maybe Jennifer didn't ) but that does make it acceptable and as a parent you are not obligated to admit to it.


One other thing. Set a good example. Be honest. Pay your bills. Be judicious about your work. Hopefully the example you set will have some effect.
 
JennBarretta said:
Thanks for all the great advice! I haven't really seen any sprinklers here in NY so I think we'll have to find an open fire hydrant. Sounds like fun, though!
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Jenn, I never saw the slides and jungle gyms in the Place des Vosges, either! But your kid, I guarantee, has a homing device for this stuff. And don't worry, there's a sprinkler in just about every NYC park to run screaming thru!
 
While this is not really parening advice, it is related:

In about 10 months you will anally spend every free second sweeping, mopping, and vacuming your floors so that your crawler will not, 1.) get those $25 for only 3 months of wear pants all nasty and 2.) find that ONE peice of dirt in your enitire house and put it in his mouth. This is an even harder feat with a dog and a husband.

And then and only then will you realize what disgusting slobs your friends and family actually are, as when you are on the floor with your kid at their house you will have the best seat to see their obviously lacking abillity to keep thier floors free of dirt!!!!

PEOPLE SWEEP YOUR FLOORS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Landshark77<~~~ has a new pet peeve.
 
landshark77 said:
While this is not really parening advice, it is related:

In about 10 months you will anally spend every free second sweeping, mopping, and vacuming your floors ....
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Just remember these two from my other post:

Try your hardest to not let your first child's childhood slip by while you tend to your second child.

You will dote on the little things with your first child, and let go the same things with your second. This results in different personalities. I don't know if that can be avoided.
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HTH,

Fred
 
Cornerman said:
Just remember these two from my other post:

Try your hardest to not let your first child's childhood slip by while you tend to your second child.

You will dote on the little things with your first child, and let go the same things with your second. This results in different personalities. I don't know if that can be avoided.
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HTH,

Fred
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Was this advice for me? :confused:

Landshark77 <~~~ only has one.
 
JennBarretta said:
Thanks for all the great advice! I haven't really seen any sprinklers here in NY so I think we'll have to find an open fire hydrant. Sounds like fun, though!
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Jenn - just noticed your avatar - put the tongs away. You'll soon get used to the smell and the baby will enjoy the eye contact.

Boro Nut
 
The best moment about new babies is their 1st giggle or laugh. My sister told me that she wouldn't never have another kid but when her 1st giggled to her she knew then she wanted another. Just thought i would share that with you=) Good luck with all that you do and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!=)
 
not much of an expert here with only 2 kids (2y8m and 7m) but if anything...don't do what so many parents these days do....let the television become a babysitter. It's so sad to see so many kids these days just staring at the box for hours on end with that blanked out expression on their face.
Take them out, play ball, play catch, go to swings, slides, jump in puddles...fall from trees... Get them to be active and creative and I can almost guarantee you will have happier and healthier kids in the long run.

cheers,
Kimmo
(Finland/Netherlands)
 
Hey Kimmo,

Don't worry about that...my hubby and I are extremely active people and don't watch much TV. That drives me nuts when I see kids watching endless amounts of TV and playing video games!
 
Yeah - one and only parenting book you'll ever need, its tools did wonders with our kids - How to Listen so Kids Will Talk, and Talk so Kids Will Listen, by Faber and Mazlish. You'll be a great mom, Max is very lucky, best wishes! And Merry Christmas.

Kurt in Oregon
 
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