Podcast - Trouble shooting your pool game, two types of joy, ego addiction

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I just posted a podcast I really enjoyed. Discusses how to balance joy in the moment with the joy of goals and achievement, and how people can end up ineffective and miserable if they get out of balance. Bonus content on some common mistakes people make when trying to fix leaks in their pool game. Have fun.

 
I was just enjoying one of your other podcasts last night, I'll have to listen to this one, too. There's always interesting, thought provoking and valuable content.
 
I was just listening to this today. I really enjoyed it. Though I do think on the topic of diagnosing errors Josh may be a touch too dismissive of fundamentals. But the point is well made that players can apply fixes based on their biases rather that accurately diagnosing the problem. I personally regret adopting a snooker stance when I switched to snooker when all I should have done was adjust my body to allow for a three point contact.
 
Thanks all!

There are some other areas we want to dive deeper. One thing that I just addressed with my training group (former students) had to do with why people insert negative emotion in between an observation and a response. For example, if I have a problem in my pool game I observe it, then plan a response. Most people observe it, punish themselves for it, then form a response.

There are two faulty premises here. One is that the punishment will provide essential motivation needed for improvement. Another is that there is something wrong with mistakes.

That makes no sense to me. We chose a game that was difficult because it is fun to test ourselves and be challenged to grow. Yet then we resent the fact we aren't perfect and aren't at the finish line? I said that would be like if I wanted to run a marathon someday because I thought that would be a tough challenge to take on, then on my first run I got mad at myself for getting short of breath after a mile. I took this on specifically to be challenged, so why would I immediately be upset that I'm being challenged?!?

We had some back and forth discussion and I just replied to someone with this post:

Input=output and it's too easy to get caught up in the output piece of this.

I just got an email from a future student that contained this line: "My current fargo (humor warning) is 504". In my reply I said: "This idea of being rated a 504 as humorous is our pool culture telling us we are our fargorate, we ought to be better and it's pathetic to the point of absurdity that we are only where we are on our journey."

I get where this originates to a point. People that have high fargorates have demonstrated some impressive qualities like determination, work ethic, discipline, etc. When you see someone that plays well we can say "That person really did a lot to get to that point". So we can respect that accomplishment because we admire those qualities.

So on the flip-side it's easy to think "Well then, if I don't have a high Fargo I'm broadcasting to the world that I'm a directionless pile of crap".
From this perspective it makes sense how people think. "There are piles of crap and disciplined driven champions, and a fargorating is what determines which is which. I am currently a pile of crap and want to be a champion instead, so I need to increase my fargorating. I can't be satisfied with my crap self so I need to hurry up and change what I am."

This leads to self loathing of who and what we are, fear we won't ever become someone worthy of self respect, and resentment of the adversity between us and that goal we believe we need to feel content. It leads to habitually evaluating our progress with every shot and every match, then globalizing those evaluations ('what a bad shot, I'll never be worth anything if I can't do better than that...').

The problem is this isn't really true. I know people who don't play pool and have no FargoRate that are great individuals, and 800s who live pretty miserable lives and are unpleasant to be around. This is a complicated multi-dimensional world and while it's true professional players have demonstrated some impressive achievements in some specific areas, they are often just people who bought into this "I am my rating role" and from a feeling of insecurity lived incredibly imbalanced life where they neglected all areas and tried desperately to become important and relevant by shooting balls into a pocket. In some ways it's admirable some of the accomplishments they've achieved and certain character aspects they've developed to achieve them (and we can be inspired and follow their lead), but in other ways it's kind of sad.

I know because I was there once upon a time. I feel I walked a really bad path for years when I started playing and caused myself a lot of pain both in pursuit of my pool goals and by excluding other areas of my lif
e that I would've enjoyed. I am back from that path to warn you not to buy into it.
 
Thanks all!

There are some other areas we want to dive deeper. One thing that I just addressed with my training group (former students) had to do with why people insert negative emotion in between an observation and a response. For example, if I have a problem in my pool game I observe it, then plan a response. Most people observe it, punish themselves for it, then form a response.

There are two faulty premises here. One is that the punishment will provide essential motivation needed for improvement. Another is that there is something wrong with mistakes.

That makes no sense to me. We chose a game that was difficult because it is fun to test ourselves and be challenged to grow. Yet then we resent the fact we aren't perfect and aren't at the finish line? I said that would be like if I wanted to run a marathon someday because I thought that would be a tough challenge to take on, then on my first run I got mad at myself for getting short of breath after a mile. I took this on specifically to be challenged, so why would I immediately be upset that I'm being challenged?!?

We had some back and forth discussion and I just replied to someone with this post:

Input=output and it's too easy to get caught up in the output piece of this.

I just got an email from a future student that contained this line: "My current fargo (humor warning) is 504". In my reply I said: "This idea of being rated a 504 as humorous is our pool culture telling us we are our fargorate, we ought to be better and it's pathetic to the point of absurdity that we are only where we are on our journey."

I get where this originates to a point. People that have high fargorates have demonstrated some impressive qualities like determination, work ethic, discipline, etc. When you see someone that plays well we can say "That person really did a lot to get to that point". So we can respect that accomplishment because we admire those qualities.

So on the flip-side it's easy to think "Well then, if I don't have a high Fargo I'm broadcasting to the world that I'm a directionless pile of crap".
From this perspective it makes sense how people think. "There are piles of crap and disciplined driven champions, and a fargorating is what determines which is which. I am currently a pile of crap and want to be a champion instead, so I need to increase my fargorating. I can't be satisfied with my crap self so I need to hurry up and change what I am."

This leads to self loathing of who and what we are, fear we won't ever become someone worthy of self respect, and resentment of the adversity between us and that goal we believe we need to feel content. It leads to habitually evaluating our progress with every shot and every match, then globalizing those evaluations ('what a bad shot, I'll never be worth anything if I can't do better than that...').

The problem is this isn't really true. I know people who don't play pool and have no FargoRate that are great individuals, and 800s who live pretty miserable lives and are unpleasant to be around. This is a complicated multi-dimensional world and while it's true professional players have demonstrated some impressive achievements in some specific areas, they are often just people who bought into this "I am my rating role" and from a feeling of insecurity lived incredibly imbalanced life where they neglected all areas and tried desperately to become important and relevant by shooting balls into a pocket. In some ways it's admirable some of the accomplishments they've achieved and certain character aspects they've developed to achieve them (and we can be inspired and follow their lead), but in other ways it's kind of sad.

I know because I was there once upon a time. I feel I walked a really bad path for years when I started playing and caused myself a lot of pain both in pursuit of my pool goals and by excluding other areas of my lif
e that I would've enjoyed. I am back from that path to warn you not to buy into it.
Interesting perspectives here. I think one of the reasons we work to eliminate errors entirely and get down on ourselves for those mistakes is that if you consider many player view the 700+ Standard as being the ultimate end goal, that’s not a very clearly defined goal. By that I mean, it’s easy to view those players as being people who never miss and never get out of line so that is the standard that amateurs target. But of course that is an unrealistic expectation. Even so, we start thinking that something must be wrong if we are still missing that full table length draw shot.

I also find your note about skill level and self worth interesting. This goes back to the discussion on social media and pool but it’s easy to forget that a 500+ rating is actually pretty good considering that they are an above average player in the great scheme of things. Forums, YouTube and Facebook however have convinced us that 650+ (or higher) is the definition of good. But statistically only a small percentage of players are at that level. Imagine if we applied that level of thinking to the rest of our lives? I know some do and fall into a depression because they think everyone is more successful and richer than them.
 
Thanks Cameron!

Man, I'm having a blazing conversation on my private FB group about this. I can't copy it all over. I'll have to wait until the dust settles and probably do a follow up pod.

I think these conversations are important. As I mentioned my last student would miss easy shots routinely due to lack of focus and effort. We can watch hundreds of youtube videos on stance, aiming, position, etc, but if we don't have the right outlooks and purpose intact we lack the fuel we need to perform. The more I compete and train the more I realize pool is comprised of simple things set up and working together correctly, mentally as well as physically.

Cheers!
 
Thanks Cameron!

Man, I'm having a blazing conversation on my private FB group about this. I can't copy it all over. I'll have to wait until the dust settles and probably do a follow up pod.

I think these conversations are important. As I mentioned my last student would miss easy shots routinely due to lack of focus and effort. We can watch hundreds of youtube videos on stance, aiming, position, etc, but if we don't have the right outlooks and purpose intact we lack the fuel we need to perform. The more I compete and train the more I realize pool is comprised of simple things set up and working together correctly, mentally as well as physically.

Cheers!
Thanks Demetrius, I look forward to your follow up podcast.
 
Interesting perspectives here. I think one of the reasons we work to eliminate errors entirely and get down on ourselves for those mistakes is that if you consider many player view the 700+ Standard as being the ultimate end goal, that’s not a very clearly defined goal. By that I mean, it’s easy to view those players as being people who never miss and never get out of line so that is the standard that amateurs target. But of course that is an unrealistic expectation. Even so, we start thinking that something must be wrong if we are still missing that full table length draw shot.

I also find your note about skill level and self worth interesting. This goes back to the discussion on social media and pool but it’s easy to forget that a 500+ rating is actually pretty good considering that they are an above average player in the great scheme of things. Forums, YouTube and Facebook however have convinced us that 650+ (or higher) is the definition of good. But statistically only a small percentage of players are at that level. Imagine if we applied that level of thinking to the rest of our lives? I know some do and fall into a depression because they think everyone is more successful and richer than them.
There are a couple of SL6s in my APA league who can shoot all the shots, run out off opponent's mistakes, break up clusters, and just generally play a solid game of pool (granted, this on a 7' table). Out of curiosity I looked them up on Fargo Rate, and they are both 480ish with high robustness. So yeah, cresting 500 in the grand scheme of things puts you at "pretty good" in terms of the overall pool-playing population. A 525ish player is an SL7 in 8-ball in many APA territories.
 
Thanks Demetrius, I look forward to your follow up podcast.
I think our thread is dying down so I might as well copy paste the last exchange. Here it is below.

This was the reply to my post above:
This is super interesting, and it makes me think of two questions I've pondered for a while:
1. In terms of sheer enjoyment of the game and living a balanced life, is it better to be a big fish in a small pond in pool? The "Super 7/9" who is respected and feared in his APA league, but may not even be the best player in his town and isn't really a threat to cash regionally. He goes to league and local tournaments, he wins most of the time, and he displays pretty solid competence at the game and feels good. But he's dead money in bigger tournaments, or is generally unlikely to win more than one or two matches. Obviously this is a highly personal question, and many people continue to find satisfaction attacking their weaknesses forever, but then that brings me to my next question.

2. At what point is the juice no longer worth the squeeze in terms of improvement, especially assuming that you aren't a 13 year old prodigy with designs on going pro and having 8+ hours per day to practice? Again, highly personal question. But just looking at rapidly diminishing numbers of pool players over 700 Fargo Rate, it appears that getting there is extremely rare and difficult, so is there a "reasonable" hard stop in skill where you decide that maybe your pool game is good enough for now/forever and you just enjoy the game you've built and take whatever minor improvements come your way over the comings years?

I think every player who gets serious about pool eventually has to grapple with the second question. When you're starting out and rapidly improving, it feels like you can continue improving at that rate forever. But the improvement curve toughens significantly, and probably every 50 Fargo Rate points beyond 500 or so requires a ton of hours and practice, with each jump requiring far more than the last.

Here was my reply to that last post:
These questions all presume that the goal is output. Wins, respect, even growth and breakthroughs. For me that's what it was about when I started. Over the years I put less and less focus on the output and became more and more fascinated by the input.

Currently my love is the input. I love the work. And I don't have any expectations or desires in regards to output. Now, I still measure my output but only as the feedback I need to hold myself accountable for the quality of the input I devote. I have found that if all you care about is juice than it is NEVER worth the squeeze. Pool is way too tough and the external rewards are way too few. So to answer your question as to what level to quit, I'd say anyone that feels that way would be best served quitting immediately. Otherwise you'll walk around feeling betrayed by a game because you expected more payoff.

As for being a big fish in a small pond, I find that despicable. Honestly I think that bar tables, handicapped tournaments, excessive divisions (even some female and jr divisions), and all of these things are a bunch of bullshit that tournament directors created to in an effort to create thousands of little ponds so that everyone could get a chance to convince themselves they are a big fish. The whole thing stinks.

That's why I don't play local pool. I'm either kicked out or handicapped to the point I cannot be competitive or I will destroy my opponents. I don't like losing to weaker players because they want the chance to beat me without putting in the work, and I don't particularly enjoy beating weaker players by going on auto-pilot based on work I've put in years ago.

Given the choice between being a stagnant big fish in a small pond that beats up on locals and gets a lot of superficial social rewards or being a nobody in my basement putting in real work and testing myself against serious adversity with no sign that any of it will pay off in any way other than the meaning I take in my own effort, well, that is a no brainer to me.
 
I was just listening to this today. I really enjoyed it. Though I do think on the topic of diagnosing errors Josh may be a touch too dismissive of fundamentals. But the point is well made that players can apply fixes based on their biases rather that accurately diagnosing the problem. I personally regret adopting a snooker stance when I switched to snooker when all I should have done was adjust my body to allow for a three point contact.
Hi Cameron! We're having some good back and forth about this very thing in the comment section of the YouTube video. I couldn't copy it concisely here but please check it out. Appreciate your feedback!
 
Hi Cameron! We're having some good back and forth about this very thing in the comment section of the YouTube video. I couldn't copy it concisely here but please check it out. Appreciate your feedback!
Thanks I’ll check it out.

With respect to your previous post and motivation. I think the critical thing here is differentiating between intrinsic and extrinsic motivators. Stuff like prestige, status and such are extrinsic. The ultimate issue with that is satisfaction is largely contingent on how other people view you (or how you think people view you). I don’t think this is sustainable in the long term since you will likely never get the rewards you expect from other people and the source of your needs aren’t really related to pool per se.

Intrinsic motivation which focuses on improving for self satisfaction, is a better long term motivator. This is something that transcends pool but I’ve often said that a good goal is something that would make you happy even if no one else ever knew that you achieved it.

Not to say that extrinsic motivators are not useful. They can be great for short term boosts, but it’s not sustainable over the long term imo. An example is any time a total beginner starts asking about how long to become a pro, my first thought is that they are unlikely to be playing pool in 1 years time.

Anyways, thanks again. This stuff interests me because it aligns with my area of study.
 
Tin Man,

What a great podcast. Thanks to you and Josh for your thought provoking discussion.

kollegedave
 
any time a total beginner starts asking about how long to become a pro, my first thought is that they are unlikely to be playing pool in 1 years time
Reminds me of a drumming teacher I had. Dad would drop off the kid for a lesson and ask "How long is my kid going to be taking lessons?" Teacher replies "I've been playing 40 years and I'm still learning." He also said it takes 10 years to learn an instrument, and there's a lot of truth there. You may know how to operate an instrument after a few months and do it reasonably well after a couple of years, but to truly play an instrument and express yourself fluidly...I won't say it takes a decade, but after a decade of reasonable effort, you will have achieved some real maturity on the instrument. I wish pool was that easy.
 
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