I tend to not like it when people say this......and I rarely do it, but......I read the first couple of pages and just skipped to the end, as I'm under a time crunch right now.
Here's my take:
It's a somewhat slippery slope. Before anyone says that it's a black and white subject, without any traces of gray, let me say this......
If you have integrity and call a foul on yourself (and it's not expressly against the rules to do so), everyone will think you're a great sportsman. Your opponent will externally or at least internally acknowledge that they're playing against someone who they can trust will do "the right thing". It makes for a less stressful match-up regarding both players.
If you have zero integrity and actually purposefully cheat, well, we all know what anyone thinks about that.
HOWEVER, let's say you're a person of integrity. You call fouls on yourself everytime that you see it, BUT.......you're playing someone new one day. You shoot a ball and the opponent says, "That's a foul." However, you didn't see it. Do you concede the foul to the other player, simply because he said so? Remember, you don't know this person. This person doesn't know you. So, you can either "trust" that the opponent saw something that you didn't and give up your turn/BIH and risk losing the set........when they could truly be the shady one. Perhaps that opponent noticed that you weren't paying attention to something on the table and decided to see how you'd react if they called a foul on you. Maybe to get BIH. Maybe to start a bit of a tiff, back down, and then see how your mental game reacts.....basically sharking you.
On the other hand, what if you TRULY DID foul? But, YOU did NOT see it? And your opponent is an honest person, who calls the foul. Now, if you didn't notice it and you're a person of integrity, you face a dilemma. You either roll over for your opponent, because you want to appear as tho you're a good sportsman.....or you tell yourself that since you didn't see it/feel it, you don't know this opponent enough to trust them......you rock on and tell them to pound sand (politely or otherwise).
This has happened to me. I feel as tho I have this integrity quality that we're talking about. I call fouls on myself everytime THAT I NOTICE IT.
However, a situation arose in Tunica this year during my 1st round Banks match.....
I win the lag. I take the opening break and make a ball. I proceed to immediately bank 3 balls in before I miss. I spot up my ball made on the break. My opponent shoots once and misses. I get back to the table and bank 2 more right in. I'm up 1-0 before you can tie your Velcro shoes. I can already see the look on my opponent's face.
I quickly make a ball the next game and move to the next one. It's a long cross-over bank somewhat near a corner pocket, that travels the length of the table into the other corner. I smack it in. I'm rollin', folks.
I grab my chalk and immediately look for my next shot. Suddenly my opponent says, "That was a foul." I flinch and turn to him. I ask him what he's talking about. Not in a rude way. I'm just a bit shocked as I didn't see any foul and I have no idea what he's talking about. He says, "Your CB double-kissed the OB."
Now, I've seen enough pool to know that just about anything is possible on a table. However, when I immediately replayed the shot in my head, I thought to myself, "There is NO way that was a double kiss. If it had done that, the ball would never have gone. That bank was clean as a whistle."
So, I explain exactly that to my opponent. I told him that if I had fouled, I'd definitely call it on myself, and I relayed this to him in a polite manner. I then stopped for about a long, solid 5 seconds, looked down and thought to myself, "Do I give this stranger BIH to be a good sportsman, because he might have seen something I didn't.......or do I rock on, because in my heart of hearts, I feel it was a clean bank? I don't know this guy. He's on his heels right now. What if he's sharking me?"
I finally looked back up at him and said, "I'm sorry if you saw that as a foul, but I didn't. It just wouldn't have went like that if I had." Then I slowly chalked and went back to playing.
At this point it's 2 balls - 0 in my favor. I end up missing the next shot. I'm mentally off my game. I end up scratching a turn or two later and giving a ball back. He wins that particular game. So, we're tied 1-1. I tell myself that since he went ahead and won that game that no harm has been done AS LONG AS I KEEP DOING MY JOB AND WIN THIS DAMN MATCH.
So, I buckled down and finished him off the next game. Then I had to REALLY grind it out to take the last rack for a 3-1 victory. That was my first big win at a major tournament.
However, it almost feels tainted, because I think that the guy thought I didn't call a foul on myself. But, as I said, in my heart of hearts, I didn't think I had done anything wrong. While the guy was nice when it was over, I could tell he was pretty disappointed. The sad thing is that I'll probably never know what the guy thinks of me. That bothers me. Perhaps it shouldn't.
So, to my point........there's a gray area. I think you should call a foul on yourself, if you know you did it. But, if you DON'T know if you did something wrong or not, it could cause a sticky situation with an unfamiliar opponent.
Obviously pool isn't in good enough shape to have a ref at every table. It would be nice, but it's just not feasible at this point.