Hey, if three-eyed drunken inbreds want to play pool, who are we to stop them? :wink:
Seriously, when we as an organization emphasize the social aspects of league play (and we do, with our formats and rules), we have to expect a certain number of noses to go up in the air, mostly from that part of the pool playing population that is super-competitive. That doesn't mean that these super-competitive people can't "pool together" for a good cause. Perhaps the social aspect of the APA leagues helps in that regard, but other than being able to get the word out to a large audience, I don't think the affiliation makes much of a difference here.
I think what's important here is that we recognize the ability of all kinds of people to set aside their differences for a moment to celebrate the life of someone with whom they all have something in common. It's a human thing, not a league thing.