Carrying a grudge

Donny Lutz

Donny Lutz

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One of my favorite things in life is turning old "enemies" into friends. It's not always easy. There's this old nemesis of mine from the '60s-'80s when we were sometimes bitter rivals. I don't think either of us ever won more than 50 bucks off the other. Back then I was convinced I was the better player, now in retrospect he probably was. He's now a Master Instructor, I only Level 2. I emailed him several times in recent years, hoping to mend fences, but he's never responded. I'd hoped we could reminisce about the old days, and share stories of the 26 years since we last played. Ah, well...
 
The US alone has over 300,000,000 people in it. I too chose not to talk to or associate with the ones I don't like. There are plenty more.
 
This could be a cool story.

I now play on a team with the Guys I took my biggest score off of. (He didn't make a house payment cause of that matchup)
 
Some of my old "enemies" have become my good friends. We have both benefited from abandoning old grudges. Something to think about.
 
Donny Lutz said:
One of my favorite things in life is turning old "enemies" into friends. It's not always easy. There's this old nemesis of mine from the '60s-'80s when we were sometimes bitter rivals. I don't think either of us ever won more than 50 bucks off the other. Back then I was convinced I was the better player, now in retrospect he probably was. He's now a Master Instructor, I only Level 2. I emailed him several times in recent years, hoping to mend fences, but he's never responded. I'd hoped we could reminisce about the old days, and share stories of the 26 years since we last played. Ah, well...
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The pool community is much smaller than the total population as mentioned in an earlier post, I commend you for reaching out to your old nemesis. You are not nemesis' any more and have many things in common I would think. At least you have each other's version of your time together to kill time. I hope he will respond to your attempts to get back in touch.

With that said, if he/she did something to hurt you or your family and not just pool rivals, I would leave it alone. But it sounds like you didn't hate him/her, just where bitter rivals on the table.

I knew two guys that hung out in the same pool room for years and never spoke a word to each other because of something that happened many years earlier. I always thought it was silly.

Good luck,

Dave
 
Grudges are a very personal emotion.

Good luck with your efforts.

If nothing else, just be satisfied you aren't emotionally tied to that Grudge anymore.
 
It's not as if this is a story of two guys that used to be old friends, had a lot in common, got along and some rift grew between them and someone was holding onto it for all of these years.

Sounds like two guys that didn't get along and didn't like each other. No reason to believe it would be differnet now or that there would be any difference today then before.

I don't think that in 20 years I'll be hitting up those guys that I don't like now to see if they want to reminisce about the days of old when we used to hate each other.
 
Sometimes those fences can't be mended, but temporarily you could have a nice time.

Maybe something along the lines of hey I know we wont ever be friends again, but how about meeting for dinner and talking about the old times just once. If the night goes well then another day could be in the works for more talks.

I was hoping that a pool hall I play in for one day would allow all the people who have been barred or moved away to come in for one day and have it like it used to be.

Donny Lutz said:
One of my favorite things in life is turning old "enemies" into friends. It's not always easy. There's this old nemesis of mine from the '60s-'80s when we were sometimes bitter rivals. I don't think either of us ever won more than 50 bucks off the other. Back then I was convinced I was the better player, now in retrospect he probably was. He's now a Master Instructor, I only Level 2. I emailed him several times in recent years, hoping to mend fences, but he's never responded. I'd hoped we could reminisce about the old days, and share stories of the 26 years since we last played. Ah, well...
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