Fight over Pool

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I have been spending almost all my nights at the pool hall till 2 when they close and then going to work. and recently we have been playing videogames at the pool hall after it closes. My girlfriend doesn't like that I am there all the time late till like 6AM. But this is something I like to do and have made many friends from playing. She is happy that I like it and that I made friends but doesn't like that I am tired when I am not doing anything. I am a busy body I have to do something to keep me occpuied. I also left a party that was 2 days long 2 times to go to the pool hall cause I don't like to party as much as I use to. She seemed fine with it then cause I didn't want to be there and I went to the pool hall. And she makes it seem like if I still wasn't playing baseball I would never see her if that is the case. I spend all the time i can with her till she gets tired after that I go to the pool hall is that so bad.
 
I agree, teah her how to play pool or dedicate 2 days a week or so to just doing something she likes. You would be suprised how much you need a break (short one) from playing pool and don't realize it, once in a while! Treat her right occasionally and she'll treat you right forever. My wife supports my pool playing and pool business 100%, as long as I don't leave her in the shadows and make her part of every day.
Good Luck!!

...Zim
 
see the thing is she wanted to play with me so i bought her a playboy bunny pool stick cause she thought it was cute. she went with me 2 times and she says the reason she dont go anymore is becasue she is sick of pool cause i go so much. she never goes so how can she be sick of it? I dont know.

Larry I spend from 6:30,7:00- 11:00 every weekday and thats not including the weekends. But i know what you mean when you said what you said.
 
It sounds to me like you may need to make a choice.

The best advise I can give you is to talk and understand each other. My wife understands, now, that when I say i am going to the pool room, I do not know when I will be in. That is OK but we both know that if she wants me to not go or do something else she will tell me. For a long time it wasn't understood and we had simular problems. Communication is the key to finding a solution to your delima.

From what you have said about the time you spend at the pool room it may just be a matter of time before your problem takes care of itself.

Good Luck

Porter
 
fast larry said:
my wife let's me go out anytime I want, because she knows even if I get lucky and snag something, I'm too old to do anything with it.
Fast Larry
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LOL:D Larry, my sides are splitting open now:D

Your not THAT old now are you?
 
Give her some incentive to play like spotting her the 2 out in 9 ball for a favor that she enjoys (or money) - use your imagination. What gets me is watching guys teaching their gals how to shoot pool even up (without a fair spot) so that guarantees that she will always rack for you, lose interest in the game and you - for not being cavalier/equitable.
 
You're not the only one with that problem Chuck. My wife thinks 2 days a week is to much just because I'm gone for 6 hours playing pool in a league. I do have to admit though her problem is not with me being gone it's that she doesn't get to go many places anymore. I'm trying to make arrangements for a good babysitter to watch the babies for her to be able to go with me. It's just hard to find one around here that doesn't want a fortune to watch kids at night. Anyhow to get to the advice, you can sit her down and talk to her about it explain your position on playing pool to her and listen to her side of the story. 9/10 it's jealousy you are showing the game more attention than you are showing her. The easiest remedy is amazingly enough to try to make love to her before you go or as soon as you get back. It doesn't matter if she wants to or not (if she's not in the mood don't worry about it) it's that you were showing her affection and all women like that.
 
I don't know if getting a babysitter so she can go to the pool hall with you is the best thing. Think about it...your wife/girlfriend already doesn't like you going to the pool hall, now you're going to drag her along and be bored. You should play your 2 nights/week, get a babysitter for a different night and take you wife out just the two of you, your time together, not her time watching you play pool and sitting on her rump. A pool player needs his pool nights, a wife needs her husband nights (some just prefere a girls night, which leaves you at home ALONE with the kids). Make it a date every other week to go out on the town with only the two of you, not a double date, but good old fashioned one on one night out! This my friend will allow her mind and heart to let you play pool on your two designated nights.

...Zim
 
be careful ...

Pool can cause you to get SARS - Severe absence of Romance and Sex. You are just beginning to learn why they say Pool and women don't mix. Women screw a guy's head up where they can't play good, and Pool will screw up a good romance with a woman.

Frankly, women are not interested in Pool as a serious sport like you might be. They just want a little fun and attention when they accidentally knock a ball in. I never play pool with girlfriiends because it is humilating for them, I can not shoot down that much. When I go out with a girl friend, I devote my time to her only.
My first wife was pretty good when I got into a money game watching and waiting, my 2nd and 3rd wives weren't. Besides they always think you are really there to pick some girl up instead of playing Pool. If you do shoot, go to billiard rooms and play, do not go to bars and shoot.
 
Same problem here. My girlfriend gets all pissed off cause I shoot in 2 weeknight leagues.One of them I am gone for only 2 hours at most! Its tough playing pool and having a relationship at the same time. I understand what all you guys are saying!
 
fast larry said:
The secret to living with women for long periods of time, I have been with my wife now for over 20 yrs, is compromize and listening and trying to react to their wants and needs. .
Fast Larry
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Hahaha. Larry. When you are good, you are very good, when you are bad, you are very bad....Just kidding.

To previous poster, very good feedback here. Break it down to the 3 C,s-compromise, communication, committment.

From a woman poolplayer's point of view, I see league as our night out. We are hanging with our friends and havin fun.

OTOH---In most cases, if a woman is okay for a guy to go out once with the 'boys' and she gets one night out a week with the girls, this in most cases, outside of something you are dedicated to like pool, this is accepted as a healthy arrangement. Then the couple also does stuff together without the babies.

Two nights out a week without her...hmmm. Unless you can get her involved, work a REALLY good compromise, trouble may loom ahead.

Laura
 
Laura,

Excellent advice! As usual, you're right on the target! I guess I just got lucky because my wife lets me play two or three nights a week and we've been married for 28 great years! Of course she gets to go out just about any time she wants too. She's a professional singer so she definitely has to go out several nights a week too. We try to plan it so I play on the nights she's working.

Larry,

Your responses were hillarious! Great posts! I agree with Laura, when you're on, you the man! Keep it up!
 
Tell her to fish or cut bait! That is what I told all of my wives.

LOL

Just kidding, but there is a point there. Get it?
 
I am on my second and last wife. 13 yrs on the first, 12 on this one.

I told here how it was going to be before we got married.

I don't get out now and play as much as I used to.


Boy I told her.

LOL
 
wives ....

Fess up time, huh? Well I have been
married to 3 women on 4 occasions, but Linda was like marrying a different woman each time I married her .... LOL

Guess I should have taken my last wife to Vegas with me, since I went to Nationals 3 weeks after we got married, but she got me so emotionally stirred up I knew it would affect my shooting.

Personally, I think a good girlfriend is better. They are more understanding and don't expect as much as a wife...

My split ups really did not have anything to do with Pool though, it was because of other factors in our lives...

Nowdays, my thinking leans toward
Pool = more money for me, women =
less money for me ..... <grins>
 
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