Without the op giving a little more detail on just how good of a friend the guy getting married is every ones opinion is just conjecture....based on their feelings on just what a friend means . He did state that this person is a good friend to him but apparently the guy getting married considers him a good enough friend to invite to the wedding as a spectator but not good enough to be involved in the wedding itself.
He also did not state how good of friends his team mates are to him. Some of his team mates may have become good friends their selves since he has been playing with them.
Many of you seem to associate friends as family. Big difference in my book. You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends.
The op stated that he tries to go him every year to see family and friends. He never stated if this friend has visited him...or ever calls.
Some have stated this is just an amateur pool tournament that really means nothing in the grand scheme of things and and is way down on the totem pole compared to a friends wedding.
The op has spent untold dollars and hours with team mates...some who may have become good friends for an entire year in hopes of qualifying for this tournament. Not just any tournament but the nationals.
The op has 2 choices.
1. Forget about the money and time he has spent over the last year and spend even more money to travel thousands of miles to be a spectator at a wedding.
2. Go to Vegas and participate in a tournament you spent all year trying to qualify for with team mates and friends that are counting on you.
My choice would be Vegas but....if it was family I would choose the wedding. If his friend cant understand that....oh well.
If I was the guy getting married and had invited the op to my wedding and learned my friend was in this predicament I would tell him to go to Vegas. I would feel bad thinking my friend felt obligated to come to the wedding and learning he was giving up a chance to go to Vegas after spending the last year trying to qualify. I would also realize that my friend would definitely be at the wedding if this unforeseen opportunity had not come up. That's what friends do for each other.
He also did not state how good of friends his team mates are to him. Some of his team mates may have become good friends their selves since he has been playing with them.
Many of you seem to associate friends as family. Big difference in my book. You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends.
The op stated that he tries to go him every year to see family and friends. He never stated if this friend has visited him...or ever calls.
Some have stated this is just an amateur pool tournament that really means nothing in the grand scheme of things and and is way down on the totem pole compared to a friends wedding.
The op has spent untold dollars and hours with team mates...some who may have become good friends for an entire year in hopes of qualifying for this tournament. Not just any tournament but the nationals.
The op has 2 choices.
1. Forget about the money and time he has spent over the last year and spend even more money to travel thousands of miles to be a spectator at a wedding.
2. Go to Vegas and participate in a tournament you spent all year trying to qualify for with team mates and friends that are counting on you.
My choice would be Vegas but....if it was family I would choose the wedding. If his friend cant understand that....oh well.
If I was the guy getting married and had invited the op to my wedding and learned my friend was in this predicament I would tell him to go to Vegas. I would feel bad thinking my friend felt obligated to come to the wedding and learning he was giving up a chance to go to Vegas after spending the last year trying to qualify. I would also realize that my friend would definitely be at the wedding if this unforeseen opportunity had not come up. That's what friends do for each other.
