It truthfully is a misconception, especially your beliefs that you miscue with a hard tip and your soft tip “grips the ball better allowing you to impart more spin on the ball and reduce miscues”.
A tip is a small piece of leather you use to hit a hard phenolic ball. Given this, they’re all “hard” very quickly. You don’t miscue more with a hard tip, you miscue because you either don’t chalk properly, or more commonly, have flaws in your stroke. A soft tip doesn’t “grab the ball better or impart more spin” either, that’s a figment of your imagination. All a soft tip does is have you spend more time trimming and shaping it after it’s installed until it becomes hard.