how do you respond to your wife....

[12310bch]

buy her an expensive purse every once in a while :thumbup: this is basic 101 on how to counter hubbies obsessions, it may even get u some good action :grin:

this is close but is a little shallow. It's your time she's looking for. not diamonds and pearls. I don't mean time with her necessarily. But take your time to help her around the house . Vacuum, (no dusting), clean the windows, do the shopping for her or go with her shopping. Do these things without griping. Cook a meal one night a week for her , clean up after she cooks ,offer to do the bills( she'll say no). Get up early, make coffee and bring it to her in bed.

She's looking for some contribution to keeping the nest and some appreciation for what she does not necessarily increased companionship although that doesn't hurt. Going to a tourney? Ask her to go. She'll probably say no but if she says yes and goes one time she'll probably say no the next time. But if she likes it , more power to you.

I only discovered this stuff late in life but it works!!! If you wanna dance you gotta pay the piper!!! And the wife be the piper. But you have to discover what the right currency is.

 

[Wolven]

she sometimes threatens to burn my cues. she has no idea how much i spent on them. literally. i did not tell her how much $$$s i spend on anything pool related. if i did, i think it would hasten my demise. i pay cash for just about everything so my spending can not be tracked.

My girlfriend was reading this thread and laughing pretty hard. I didn't get in trouble for my comments either.
For some reason she liked your comment a lot, hope she wasn't looking for ideas.

 

[DogsPlayingPool]

My girlfriend was reading this thread and laughing pretty hard. I didn't get in trouble for my comments either.
For some reason she liked your comment a lot, hope she wasn't looking for ideas.

A girlfriend and a wife are two entirely different things.

 

[poke&hope]

Wife and pool

Quit playing pool and stay with her at all times for the next 20-30 years. After that she will pay your table time and entry fees.

 

[JoeyA]

My girlfriend told me yesterday that I’m more excited about my beautiful new cue that is on the way from Al Bautista than I am about her.
I whipped out her Christmas present a diamond ring and she was very happy.
I explain to her that I’m excited about the cue because it is a new toy, that’s all but that it cannot compete with her.
We went to my Christmas party and my coworkers husband turned out to be a strong master, we are going to work on my stroke, I kind of forgot about my woman for a moment.
However, I regained my senses and I danced with her and all was good.

Earlier in the week I suggest we spend the New Years Eve at my pool hall. It didn’t go over very well.
However, quick thinking and a statement - ‘It doesn’t matter what we do as long as we do it together’, worked. Ohh, we compromised and the pool hall for NYE is out.
Balance is important. Hehehe

You are a GRAND MASTER with your wife! :bow-down:

To the thread starter: If you plan to stay married, you will have to compromise but regardless, plush up the dog house because you are going to be spending time there . Pool is your mistress and she knows it.

 

[JoeyA]

this is close but is a little shallow. It's your time she's looking for. not diamonds and pearls. I don't mean time with her necessarily. But take your time to help her around the house . Vacuum, (no dusting), clean the windows, do the shopping for her or go with her shopping. Do these things without griping. Cook a meal one night a week for her , clean up after she cooks ,offer to do the bills( she'll say no). Get up early, make coffee and bring it to her in bed.

She's looking for some contribution to keeping the nest and some appreciation for what she does not necessarily increased companionship although that doesn't hurt. Going to a tourney? Ask her to go. She'll probably say no but if she says yes and goes one time she'll probably say no the next time. But if she likes it , more power to you.

I only discovered this stuff late in life but it works!!! If you wanna dance you gotta pay the piper!!! And the wife be the piper. But you have to discover what the right currency is.

Wise man! I guess it comes with experience.

 

[DogsPlayingPool]

On the lighter side, there is something to the idea of "training" them early. A friend of mine got married and after the honeymoon when they got back home the wife decided to cook their first dinner together and eat on the new wedding china. After the meal, during which he kept complimenting her on her cooking and telling her how beautiful she was, he said "Honey, you did such a beautiful job with the dinner, I'll do the dishes". She couldn't believe what a wonderful man she married. He went into the kitchen, took one of the dinner plates, and from about 3 feet dropped it into the sink and it smashed into a million pieces. His new bride comes running in and says "Get the hell out of the kitchen, I'll do the dishes!"

They've been married 20 years and he hasn't washed another dish since.

 

[Banks]

If you let your obsession ruin what you have, you will regret that nearly every day you play afterwards. You can't get your time back, your kids won't stay kids and they'll damn sure remember where they stood in your life.

On the other hand, if you make an attempt to moderate your behavior, you'll be able to watch your kids grow up, you'll enjoy what time you will be able to spend playing and your wife will be happy. And we all know, if mama's not happy, nobody's happy.

If you're willing to give up a huge part of your life, including a marriage and children, in order to play a game.. good luck having a happy life. As I said, you can go out to play pool and have it remind you that you gave up everything for it, or you can have everything and savor the time you get to play. Just like weekends, they don't mean squat if you don't spend the week working.