Talk to your opponent after match?
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I shake hands and go about my business. Usually you have to report to the TD so you don't slow the tourny down
I always acknowledge the other player whether I win or lose. It is part of being a good sport. I usually just say good match or something along those lines.
Most guys that have just taken a loss are not ready to chat it up immediately after.
Most guys that have just taken a loss are not ready to chat it up immediately after.
Normally if they lose and are a good player I don't say anything. Good game and move on. If there was something interesting to talk about and I want to discuss it I wait until later.
That seems very rude to me, particularly if it was reasonably close match.
That's the last thing many people want to hear. It's like rubbing salt into their wound.
If they ask, then sure, but if you're just going up to them uninvited and pontificating your opinion about their shortcomings or how they should have played I'm surprised they haven't lashed out at you or at least cringed.
Obviously, it's something you like to do and no one has given you a reason to stop it yet. Guess it works for you.
Never, win or lose. It is a no win situation, you can come off looking like a jerk.
WOW, I would never do that. In over 50 years of playing pool I never saw anyone who wanted to hear unsolicited advice, especially from someone who just beat them.
Originally Posted by*BeiberLvr*Sometimes if I'm the better player, I'll give them some advice afterwards.Usually go over a shot or two that they butchered.
Agreed 100%. Without me asking, the last thing I want is you rubbing your victory in my face. I doubt that is your intention, but I'd have a hard time taking it any other way. I think it's most important to first pay your opponent due respect, before you high five or chest bump, act like you've been there before.
If I win other than the hand shake and the "great match, good shootin'" (or something similar), any exchange between me and my opponent is totally up to them.
Agreed 100%. Without me asking, the last thing I want is you rubbing your victory in my face. I doubt that is your intention, but I'd have a hard time taking it any other way. I think it's most important to first pay your opponent due respect, before you high five or chest bump, act like you've been there before.
If I win other than the hand shake and the "great match, good shootin'" (or something similar), any exchange between me and my opponent is totally up to them.
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Not rude at all.
You'd be surprised at how happy weaker players are to receive free advice.
Also, I don't just get in their face, and ask, "Hey, wanna know how you can suck less?"
Usually, I'll refer to a poor shot/decision, and ASK them if they'd like some advice. I'm never a dick about it, and regardless of their answer, I've never had anyone be a dick to me about it either.
I apologize and move on.
it all depends on the opponent and what kind of match we had.....if he played like a gentleman and takes the win/loss as a gentleman and wants to talk, id happily do it. If nothing else i always offer a "good game" and a handshake if they want to...if they walk off without a word so be it too, no biggie.
Win or lose, I tell my opponent "good game" or "thanks for the game", and maybe give them a compliment, ask about their cues, or ask where they usually play at.
It depends, though, if I see someone's not in a social mood, I'll lay off. I've met some great people and made several good friends from just talking to people after matches, though.
Lose the social aspect and pool just becomes like work, all focus and no fun.
It depends, though, if I see someone's not in a social mood, I'll lay off. I've met some great people and made several good friends from just talking to people after matches, though.
Lose the social aspect and pool just becomes like work, all focus and no fun.
Without seeing how you do it, it's hard to say how people take it. They might be nice to you but harbor resentment or hurt feelings inside since you're rubbing their nose in it.
Leagues have their own culture. I think it would be different if you were gambling in a bar or playing in a regional non-handicapped tournament.
I believe in that setting, many might interpret it as arrogance depending on how you did it and how soon after the end of the match.
I've seen people have to pick themselves up off the floor for much less. Depends on many factors though, amount of alcohol consumed, type of crowd you're playing with. Is the location a pool hall or dive bar. Personally, I think it has the potential to be degrading to the person that lost. It might however be a great way to get a money game though. Different strokes for different folks.
Without seeing how you do it, it's hard to say how people take it. They might be nice to you but harbor resentment or hurt feelings inside since you're rubbing their nose in it.
Leagues have their own culture. I think it would be different if you were gambling in a bar or playing in a regional non-handicapped tournament.
I believe in that setting, many might interpret it as arrogance depending on how you did it and how soon after the end of the match.
I've seen people have to pick themselves up off the floor for much less. Depends on many factors though, amount of alcohol consumed, type of crowd you're playing with. Is the location a pool hall or dive bar. Personally, I think it has the potential to be degrading to the person that lost. It might however be a great way to get a money game though. Different strokes for different folks.
Nope, it's just good old fashioned social skills.
Seriously, anyone that would get pissed at someone trying to help them out must have really big egos.
I disagree. I'm in 3 leagues, an APA 8&9 Ball league, a MegaBucks 8&9 ball league, a straight pool league and I sometimes enter handicap tournaments (usually at Raxx on Long Island). I usually play equal skill levels in APA but in the Mega Bucks, straight pool and tournaments I am completely outclassed. But that's why I like them, I learn from playing much better players and I really appreciate their advice. I never consider it rude. Sometimes they'll tell me I'm jumping up when I think I'm staying down or that I'm not following through when I think I am. This way I can be more aware of these things when practicing.
Kobachi
Scarred but Smarter
Usually just a friendly "good game" win or lose.
With an occasional exception:
The other night at league, I played against a fella I kind of knew,
and while he was shooting a shot where the cue and ob were about
a quarter inch away from one another, he shot and the cue ball flew
forward (an obvious double hit). He immediately grabbed the cue ball
to give me BIH.
That happens very rarely in my experiences, where I don't have to say
"double hit?"
He got huge props in my book, and I let him know it. He played the way
we all should. Gentlemens rules.
With an occasional exception:
The other night at league, I played against a fella I kind of knew,
and while he was shooting a shot where the cue and ob were about
a quarter inch away from one another, he shot and the cue ball flew
forward (an obvious double hit). He immediately grabbed the cue ball
to give me BIH.
That happens very rarely in my experiences, where I don't have to say
"double hit?"
He got huge props in my book, and I let him know it. He played the way
we all should. Gentlemens rules.