For the first 3 years of my playing, while in University, I'd play by myself after hours in a bowling alley. I'd also play against the old janitor at the alley after the place closed, late at night. I worked there part time. We'd not really compete, just shoot for fun and shoot the breeze. Then he got cancer and died within a couple of weeks, too fast to even say goodbye, they just rushed him to hospital, I got to visit him once and then he died. I really miss him, he was a funny guy with a million funny stories. He really couldn't shoot straight any more, even if his stroke was quite nice. I suspect he let me win, quite a lot.
After that I began playing at a real pool hall. I got quite a shock when I watched my first national championship, watching my country's greatest player of all time run the balls so perfectly that it looked like a walk in the park. I never really knew the level of play that existed just outside my doorstep, I thought all the good players were American. I've probably played more by myself in mostly empty pool halls than most people do in a lifetime of play.
For a long while I didn't really feel like competing after some bad experiences. I played two tournaments and ran into the two biggest jerks in my country (not just me saying that and later run-ins with them has confirmed that impression), really bad luck. After about 7-8 years of solitary practis and playing a select group of friends, I finally started competing again, and I really became a much better player because of it.
Playing by yourself or with a few friends is great, and may be all you neeed, but for me, the challenge of meeting someone unknown and beating them or being beaten, is a great thrill. I'm still mostly motivated by improving my own level of play, but there is something to be said for battle-testing your knowledge...
I read this post on another thread, and I got to thinking about a lot of different people. But, I primarily focused on those people who's skill was always just a little bit better than mine. Those people who were always there, even if it was only for a couple games, or maybe a beer over a rack. Someone who'd shoot the breeze with you.
I'm curious to hear all of your stories. I'd like to think that everyone here had someone like that. Who they spent time with; who was more than capable of showing them a few things, but let them win more than they let on. Who was it for you?