When I was on the road playing high dollar matches there was a lot of pressure....at times if I didn't win I wouldn't have any money for food, gas and shelter. I had to come to terms with losing, it happens, and looking back it was the losses that improved me and my game the most, not the victories. The way I learned to overcome fears of losing was to face it, even embrace it......they say "what a person resists, persists!" If losing persists we become "a loser" and that was not an option for me!
There were many times in my early career that I was getting beat so bad I'd just give up, at that point something magical happened - suddenly I had nothing to lose, I just gave my game up to my total subconscious, the a part of me that loves "nothing to lose scenarios" - I liked the feeling of having my back up against the wall, taking on the world, there's nothing more dangerous than putting a man in that position......I'm sure you can relate, I know you've been in that situation several times!
After seeing this pattern I started doing it before my matches - I'd imagine being defeated and if it had any permanent effects, it never did...the only person that really cared was me (and my partner if they were betting on me).....if anything, every time I've lost it's actually had positive effects, it forced me to learn something, or gave me a burning desire to train harder to improve!
This is a Powerful Metal Attitude, "to truly win against better players, I must accept and be okay with losing first.....only then, after fear and anxiety vanish can we perform our absolute best!"
'The Game is the Teacher'
There were many times in my early career that I was getting beat so bad I'd just give up, at that point something magical happened - suddenly I had nothing to lose, I just gave my game up to my total subconscious, the a part of me that loves "nothing to lose scenarios" - I liked the feeling of having my back up against the wall, taking on the world, there's nothing more dangerous than putting a man in that position......I'm sure you can relate, I know you've been in that situation several times!
After seeing this pattern I started doing it before my matches - I'd imagine being defeated and if it had any permanent effects, it never did...the only person that really cared was me (and my partner if they were betting on me).....if anything, every time I've lost it's actually had positive effects, it forced me to learn something, or gave me a burning desire to train harder to improve!
This is a Powerful Metal Attitude, "to truly win against better players, I must accept and be okay with losing first.....only then, after fear and anxiety vanish can we perform our absolute best!"
'The Game is the Teacher'