Good post - insightful stuff.
But I think the manners in which we sabotage ourselves are myriad.
Years ago I entered a local money-added tourney. I showed up to play and nearly walked out out when I saw the strength of the field;
every strong player in a city of half a million (and beyond) was...
Urinal
For that full commercial look, do consider a urinal.
There will be a "No Girls Allowed" hand-painted sign hanging crookedly on the front door - right?