If you guys like to read there are two books on violence and at least one is pretty damn good.
First
"The little black book of violence"
The second is pretty good too probably.
"The big bloody book of violence"
Both by Lawrence A Kane & Kris Wilder
Check them out on Amazon. (The first book is a must read imo but I haven't read a lot of the second)
Here are some excerpts from the books.
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One day the scorpion approached the edge of a stream and wanted to cross. A rabbit came along and asked the scorpion what it was doing. The scorpion replied that he wanted to get to the other side, but could not swim. He wondered aloud if he could ride on the hare’s back, serving as a set of eyes to help guide the two of them while the rabbit swam across.
Now the rabbit, he was no dummy. He was afraid that the scorpion would sting him if he let it onto his back but the scorpion promised he would never do such a thing because they would both drown. The rabbit accepting this promise let the scorpion climb onto his back and they began their journey. Halfway across the stream the scorpion raised his stinger and plunged it into the back of the rabbit injecting him with a fatal poison.
The rabbit screamed, “You promised you would not sting me. Now we are both going to die.” The scorpion replied, “I am a scorpion, this is what I do.”
The preceding fable was written sometime around 600 B.C. It has stood the test of time not only because of its powerful message but also because it makes intuitive sense. Scorpions, driven by instinct, strike out at other animals with their poisonous stingers. Unthinking animals, it is conceivable that they would perform such behaviors even at risk of their own lives. After all, honeybees die after using their stingers, but that doesn’t keep them from doing it. What about people? We are more evolved, use higher reasoning. How much does that change things? Surprisingly not as much as you might think…
Social violence, the old “what are you looking at” sort of stuff used to protect turf, establish hierarchies, and attract members of the opposite sex runs contrary to common sense yet it happens all the time. Ever been to a nightclub frequented by hormone-addled young men and college coeds? How about a party around 2:00 A.M. as it starts to wind down and stragglers are desperate to hook up? You can see dysfunctional behaviors in certain settings virtually all the time. The good news is that those who can rise above their animal instincts NEED NOT FEAR DANGERS FROM SOCIAL VIOLENCE most of the time, as they have the wherewithal to swallow their pride, give the other guy a face-saving way out, and leave.
But, there are other kinds of violence, deeper, darker, and more dangerous kinds. Asocial or predatory violence is complex, disturbing, and thankfully, far less common than social violence in most societies. But, far more often than not, if you are caught in its grasp YOU CAN NOT JUST WALK AWAY. You will need to fight your way free and may very well be maimed or killed in the process. It’s important to know what you are facing because actions that can de-escalate social violence such as backing down and apologizing make you look like a compliant victim, hence can spark predatory violence.
We discussed these two types of violence in depth in the previous book and summarize them here in appendix A, but here is a quick overview to refresh your memory.
• The intent of SOCIAL VIOLENCE is to AFFECT YOUR ENVIRONMENT. In other words you want to establish dominance, educate somebody, get him or her out of your territory, or whatever. There are virtually always witnesses, because you are seeking status from the outcome much like the schoolyard brawls many of us got into as kids.
• PREDATORY VIOLENCE is aimed at ILLICITLY ACQUIRING RESOURCES or TAKING ADVANTAGE OF OTHERS. Witnesses are avoided unless they are accomplices. For example, while a pickpocket might operate in a crowd he (or she) uses sleight of hand or misdirection to disguise his actions. Muggers, serial killers, rapists, home invaders, arsonist, and other predators seek privacy so that they won’t get caught.
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Violence is everywhere- on the street, in the workplace, on campus, and in the community. It can be instigated by anyone from drunken fools who hit like Jell-O to drug-crazed lunatics who can not only throw a good punch, but will slash your throat for good measure, and everything else in between. The danger can come from fist, feet, or flying object. You might encounter or deploy impromptu weapons such as bricks, bottles, or bludgeons, or more conventional weapons such as blades, buckshot, or bullets.
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Violence is a complex and disturbing subject, one that requires careful study and first-hand experience to truly understand. In this book we have presented what we hope is a clear, thorough, realistic, and thought provoking analysis of violence. You have read real life examples of violent people, examined their brutal behavior, and have a good understanding of the aftermath of violence.
You have probably noticed that the "before" section is much longer than the "during" or "after" sections of the book. That was done intentionally because, let's face it, you have a lot more control about what happens to you before a confrontation gets physical than you do during the fight or after the smoke has cleared. Once you get violent, much of what follows places your fate in the hands of others.
Now that you have finished the book, you should be able to recognize behaviors, both in others as well as within yourself, that may lead to a fight. Understanding these situations can help you make the right choices for success in conflict resolution. Sometimes you really do need to fight yet most of the time its the wrong thing to do.
To summarize what you have read we would like to leave you with these four simple rules of self-defense:
* Rule 1- "Don't get hit." That is primarily about using awareness, avoidance, and de-escalation to eliminate the need to fight in the first place. Where a physical confrontation is unavoidable, it's also about warding off the other guys blows so that you can counterattack successfully.
* Rule 2- "Stop him from continuing to attack you." A purely defensive response is insufficient in a street fight as it can only keep you safe for a very short period of time. You must stop the assault that is in progress so that you can escape to safety or otherwise remain safe until help arrives. Your goal is to be safe, not to kill your attacker or teach him a lesson.
* Rule 3- "Always have a plan B." No matter how good a fighter you are, whatever you try is not necessarily going to work. The other guy will be doing his damnedest to pound your face in, pulling out every dirty trick he can think of in an effort to mess you up. It is prudent, therefore, to have a plan B, some alternative you can move to without missing a beat when things go awry.
* Rule 4- "Don't go to jail" This is about judicious use of force, both knowing when it is appropriate to take action as well as knowing how much force to apply. The AOJP principle can hold you in good stead during conflict situations.
