There are two sets of ethics at work here. A large portion of people feel that keeping your word is important and that the commitment is formed once you say "I'll take it" or "it's yours". A large group of people don't feel that keeping your word is very important at all. Fine, everybody is entitled to their own ethics and morality.
But herein lies the problem. Right now, only one side has the information they need in order to be able to determine for themselves exactly what type of people they are dealing with. But if we have negative iTrader for backing out of deals now both sides have the information they need to determine who to deal with and how. The people for whom keeping your word is important will know who doesn't keep their word and can at their discretion either avoid doing business with them or maybe just structure deals differently with them. But it doesn't change a thing, nothing, for the people who could care less about keeping your word. If you see somebody with 10 feedbacks, only one of which is negative, and it was for backing out of a deal, then you are going to say "well in my mind that person has a perfect record" and will proceed accordingly. Everybody has what they need to use for their own best judgment.
What this comes down to is the people who feel keeping your word isn't important are just trying to force their morality and ethics onto those who feel it is important by trying to keep them from having access to that information so they can't take it into consideration. Because it won't affect them either way. They just want to make sure everybody else has to evaluate people using their ethics that they force on them.
And then the hidden agenda. Because it doesn't otherwise affect you in any way whatsoever there clearly is no reason to be against negative iTrader for backing out of deals unless you are one of the people that would back out of deals (even if you haven't done it yet). And why wouldn't you? If you do not see something as being wrong, there is no reason for you to avoid doing it. Common sense. Of course you will ending up backing out of a deal at some point if you don't see anything wrong with backing out of deals.
If you disagree then tell me how it could possibly affect you in any way other than you are just trying to force everyone else to have to go by your [lack of] ethics and because you know that you may end up backing out of deals since you don't personally have a problem with backing out of deals. I've asked a hundred times and not one of you has yet to tell me how having negative iTrader for backing out of deals with have any affect on you whatsoever unless you yourself are the type that would back out of deals.
When somebody tells me via message, thread, telephone, whatever, that they will buy the cue, without some sort payment commitment I don't take it seriously.
If the buyer is serious he will at least give you a payment date, and let you decide if you want to mark the cue sold.
It the buyer has a solid rep, contributes to the forum, I'll work with them, but when there is no credible mention of payment, I think it's a one way street or not credible, and I move on.
The beauty of sales is that you can just say yes or just say no.
Stooping to retaliation just isn't the way I do things.
In that it doesn't happen that often to me, I don't see the habitual offenders like you do, but then again when I'm in the WFS I am actively buying & selling, not lurking around trying to figure out who's doing what to who.
This is giving me nightmares.
Just last night I had a dream that a mass murderer, Charles Manson type, was sending his disciples out to buy pool cues online, and return them freight collect with out the joint protectors.
Frightening><
I couldn't get back to sleep until I looked through all my cue cases, just to make sure I knew what there, and that all of my j/p's were in tact.
