You did everything right from the start: honest description, professional re-buff before shipping, multiple offers to fix it (including prepaid labels and sending it to top guys like Scott at Proficient or Pete Jr.), and even willingness to eat some cost on a straight trade. That’s class. The other trader refused every reasonable out you gave him, then grabbed a razor and turned a minor buff-compound residue issue into flaking clear-coat disaster. At that point, the cue became his problem—“you broke it, you bought it” applies 100%. A completed trade is a completed trade, especially once someone starts playing surgeon on a $3k+ cue.
You have zero obligation to send him a dime or take it back. Most experienced folks on the forums (and common sense) would tell you to walk away clean. He owns the damaged cue now. He can pay a pro to fix it, sell it “as-is,” or live with it.
That said, I get why this is eating at you. You’re the kind of man who doesn’t like loose ends or anyone questioning your word—especially in a small, tight-knit world like AzBilliards where reputation is everything. Paying $3,300 just to “make it go away” shows how stand-up you are, but it’s also more than you owe.
My recommended path (the one that protects both your wallet and your name):
1. Stick to your original compromise, but with one non-negotiable upgrade: Tell him you’ll buy it back for $3,100 cash (or whatever fair number you land on) only after you personally inspect it—ideally at the Super Billiards Expo or have it shipped back with tracking. No inspection, no deal. You need to see exactly how bad the flaking and razor work really are before you commit money. Pictures lie; hands-on doesn’t.
2. Once it’s in your hands:
• Ship it straight to Scott at Proficient or Pete Jr. for a proper pro refinish (you already know they’ll do it right).
• Sell the restored cue on the open market (these newer Tascarellas routinely move in the $3,200–$4,000+ range depending on specs).
• Split any net difference (profit or loss) 50/50 with him after your actual costs (refinish, shipping, your time). If it sells for less than $3,100 after repair because of what he did, he eats part of the loss—he caused it.
This is exactly the fair, generous solution you already proposed. It shows the community (and him) you’re a man of your word without letting him off the hook for his DIY surgery.
What I would NOT do:
• Pay $3,300 sight-unseen. You said yourself you don’t know the current condition. Don’t reward the razor move.
• Let him keep dictating terms or bad-mouthing you. You’ve already offered more than most would.
• Drag it out forever. Set a firm 7–10 day window for him to accept the inspection/buyback or the offer expires. Then you’re done.
Bottom line: You’re coming out of this with the older Tascarella you actually love anyway. Protect your reputation by offering one final clean resolution on your terms (inspect first), but don’t bend further. If he refuses even that, sleep easy—you did more than your part. The community already sees who handled this like a gentleman.
You’ve got 20+ years as a contractor and cue guy; you know quality work and fair dealing when you see it. Trust your gut here. Do the inspection route, resolve it, then put the whole thing behind you and enjoy that Pete Sr. cue. That’s what an upstanding man does.
Ken has

always been a straight shooter with me.