Big John I too went through what you went through a couple of months ago. Laying off and trying to get back in stroke. I posted a similar message and a lot of AZ'ers helped me out. What helped me the most was gong to the pool hall when it was relatively quiet and not to much people. Go to a table in the corner and practice fundamentals. And some speed exercises and drills. Do this for at least an hour. Eventually a qualified instructor would be good. But dont just compete and get in games. Dont get involved with small talk and BS. Just focus and try to develop some stamina as well. Your muscles have to relearn. Good luck
John, I am dealing with the same problem, with the pool game at least. I just started playing again a few months ago after a 9 year layoff. One thing that has really helped is just slowing myself down and concentrating on every shot. Believe me I know how you feel right now I will have days where I start playing great and everyyhing seems simple, and I think my game is back, then all of the sudden I can't do nothing right. Whats important is you know what you need to do and you just have to be patient you will be back soon enough.
As far as the situation with your ex, someone once told me "if it floats, flys, or f#@$...... Its cheaper to rent it!"
As far as the situation with your ex, someone once told me "if it floats, flys, or f#@$...... Its cheaper to rent it!"
Big John JT said:
Now didn't you sense a basic incompatibility before you were married, she hated the game you loved.
People should let their logic determine who they marry, not their gonads and "love". You can "love" a lot of different people including one that is compatible.
Now get back to your game and don't let you're gonads direct you toward another woman who hates pool.
BTW, practice, practice, practice!!!!
B
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No, before we got married, she loved pool, cars, guns & everything else I did. After she got her nails dug in after about a year, she did a 180. Being the nice, kind guy I am, I tried to work with her hoping it would get better but it just got worse. I had a lot to loose if I initiated the divorce so I just beared with it and after a little praying she finally left. The lord does work in mysterious ways 
Big John JT said:No, before we got married, she loved pool, cars, guns & everything else I did. After she got her nails dug in after about a year, she did a 180. Being the nice, kind guy I am, I tried to work with her hoping it would get better but it just got worse. I had a lot to loose if I initiated the divorce so I just beared with it and after a little praying she finally left. The lord does work in mysterious ways
Ahhh, the old bait and switch.
Maybe she'll move on to become a used car sales person.Donald A. Purdy said:I take exception to that. My ol'lady been around 28 years. The other day she got up, went outside in the freezing weather and grilled me up a 2 inch NY Stripp steak and some loin lamb chops for lunch and dinner here at work. Baked potato, and a salad ta boot. Gave me a peice of nookie before I left. Washed my clothes, cleaned my house, and went to work on her Medical Transcription business. I got home at 11 pm and she made me some hot chocolate before we went to bed. Kept me warm all night. What a gal!!!!!!
Loves to play pool too. We got a couple of cats. If I had a dog that would or could do all that, I would be on the road with you and wonder dog. I don't know about the nookie though.
Don P.
Don,
You and I have a lot in common. I'll be 54 in a few months. My wife and I got married in 1975, 28 years. Of course she isn't about to go out in the freezing weather to get food to cook for me; she'd tell me to go out and get her something eat, though! LOL. I still couldn't live without her. We're still honeymooning after all these years. She's my best friend, lover and soulmate.
FL, you aint going to find no dog that will be with you for 28 years. It's tough getting attached to a pet and then losing it after 10 years or so too. I've been there and done that and it's a tough loss!
Oh, I almost forgot, welcome to the board Big John JT. Sorry you got involved with such a mean #$%@!
I had a long break from pool. It wasn't because of my wife or anything like that. I just drifted away from it for about 10 years. I was into martial arts and other things and then I played a casual game with a friend and he beat me to death. I couldn't make a ball and it pissed me off. That's when I got back into it. It's been over 20 years now since I got back into pool. My recommendation is, practice, practice and practice some more. Keep focusing on the basics and never stop focusing on them. Good luck!
I had a long break from pool. It wasn't because of my wife or anything like that. I just drifted away from it for about 10 years. I was into martial arts and other things and then I played a casual game with a friend and he beat me to death. I couldn't make a ball and it pissed me off. That's when I got back into it. It's been over 20 years now since I got back into pool. My recommendation is, practice, practice and practice some more. Keep focusing on the basics and never stop focusing on them. Good luck!
Oh wow, you guys crack me up with all the whining!! I can tell you this, I will NEVER marry a man that doesn't believe in my abilities, be it pool or otherwise. I won't settle for someone that says "Hey baby, I'm gonna go hunting this weekend, but you can't play pool, just stay home and wait for me so we can gut the (insert your favorite animal here) when I get home" SCREW THAT!! Life is too freaking short to settle.
I am a pool player, I love pool, I love the intensity of the game, and I would be DAMN CRAZY to turn my back on something I love *so* much, for what, a man? It won't EVER happen. (Again, that is!)
To the original poster~give it some time, you'll get it back, it's only been 3 months. I'm sure that some of the emotional baggage is weighing on you (though most of us won't admit to that after a break up) and you just need to give yourself time to heal. Stick to the basics, don't expect greatness overnight.
And no worries, we've all run racks and gotten to the 9ball and missed. I think it's the excitement, the precise moment you are conscious of the fact that hey! I just ran that rack, it's all over with. Just take a little extra time. A very wise man told me once that sometimes you miss just because it's a stripe and the rest are solids. I don't know how much of that I believe, but everytime I start to take that 9ball for granted, I think twice.
Sonja
P.S. See ya'll this weekend Don!
I am a pool player, I love pool, I love the intensity of the game, and I would be DAMN CRAZY to turn my back on something I love *so* much, for what, a man? It won't EVER happen. (Again, that is!)
To the original poster~give it some time, you'll get it back, it's only been 3 months. I'm sure that some of the emotional baggage is weighing on you (though most of us won't admit to that after a break up) and you just need to give yourself time to heal. Stick to the basics, don't expect greatness overnight.
And no worries, we've all run racks and gotten to the 9ball and missed. I think it's the excitement, the precise moment you are conscious of the fact that hey! I just ran that rack, it's all over with. Just take a little extra time. A very wise man told me once that sometimes you miss just because it's a stripe and the rest are solids. I don't know how much of that I believe, but everytime I start to take that 9ball for granted, I think twice.
Sonja
P.S. See ya'll this weekend Don!
<<I won't settle for someone that says "Hey baby, I'm gonna go hunting this weekend, but you can't play pool, just stay home and wait for me so we can gut the (insert your favorite animal here) when I get home">>
What you described is called subservience. Yeah, screw that stuff.
What you described is called subservience. Yeah, screw that stuff.
Big John JT said:I am a lot bigger than you jon(HA! HA!), I've been called big john for years. She didn't get my pool stuff, she hates pool, only reason she would have would have been to burn it
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Well, can you beat 6'1" x 230 lbs??? lol probably can, i use to weight close to 300lbs... that was scary lol
Thanks
Jon
Big John...Since you are probably close to Habersham County, go up in those hills and see if they still have some of that good moonshine they had 25 - 30 years ago...it will cure most anything...just north of Clarksville....I took a 25 year layoff and was never that good to start with....but pool is like sex, remember, you don't have to be good at it to enjoy it.......mike
Big John.. I had a 5 year layoff from pool after playing it seriously for about 8 years. Started playing again in 2002. Its hard to pick it up again coz you always compare your play now versus way back when. But you cant let that get to you. Forget about the past and focus on the present. You have to have patience. I practiced everyday when I started playing again and now I think I play alot better than before. You will get back to where you were before.. Good luck....