Thank you for the input, you said exactly what I think with simple words, English is not my laguage I'm French Canadian and sometimes it's not easy for me to explain my thoughts.
When you said that you are absolutely right: I think there is still a fair amount of tip distortion, some ferrule distortion too, at impact. As a result simple modeling of the tip radius and cue ball radius doesn't give a true representation of what is happening.
Much more compression and distortion happen on the edge of the tip than the center and it is why a simple dime radius example is more prone to miscue than a flatter an rounded corner tip.
I'm just drawing some overlay drawings of some elliptic form overlay with dime, nickel and quarter radius, it's very helpful and interesting to determine the best elliptic form to try.