I love talking cues with just about anybody, especially when the subject of conversation is based on the finer aspects of building. I enjoy contemplating others' points of view, whether I agree with them or not, and I do not mind when somebody disagrees with me. We all have different experiences and therefore we often form opposing viewpoints. Again, not a problem. What I do mind is when somebody makes blatant attempts at being snide and/or belittling for no apparent reason. It's out of line & I have no problem being abrasive with a guy like that.
I love talking shop too, especially about all the fine details. But ongoing tit-for-tat battles get old fast. Not sweating the small stuff is so much more comfortable for me.
I mean, it eventually gets like the Hatfields and the McCoys. (oops, there I go rolling my eyes again)
Myself, I have sometimes gone for hours at a time without being either sarcastic or abrasive.
Of course, no one was around.
Robin Snyder