Flame Wars

Purdman

Purdman

Banned
Who ever posted that photo with the caption, " Argueing on the internet is like being in the special olympics, even if you win, you are still retarded " did me a favor. The flame wars do stimulate the board, 2720 reads. Dam.
I must admit to all of you, yes, I am retarded. Please keep that in mind. We all got a ying and a yang. Holding on to unforgiveness takes effort. It's as if we are building a wall of blame and guilt that keeps us from expressing the love of God towards those we believe have harmed us. Each thought of blame is like a boulder that we carry to build that heavy wall of separation between another person and ourselves. What tiring work!!!!
I now release thoughts of blame and the need to be right. I strive not to separate, but to connect; not to debate, but to seek common ground; not to find fault but to forgive. (Daily Word Aug. 13. 04 ). Funny the way the man finds to remind us who we are and what we are doing. I appoligize for being mean spirited and will do my best to refrain. Sorry about that Larry. Yeah, I know, I must have found my meds.
Peace to all, Purdman
 
well screw you, purdman. i look forward to you and fast larry arguing with each other. to quote a great man -

i hope when you get home, your bald headed wife and mom run out from under the porch and bite your leg!

LMAO!!!
 
Donald A. Purdy said:
Who ever posted that photo with the caption, " Argueing on the internet is like being in the special olympics, even if you win, you are still retarded " did me a favor. The flame wars do stimulate the board, 2720 reads. Dam.
I must admit to all of you, yes, I am retarded. Please keep that in mind. We all got a ying and a yang. Holding on to unforgiveness takes effort. It's as if we are building a wall of blame and guilt that keeps us from expressing the love of God towards those we believe have harmed us. Each thought of blame is like a boulder that we carry to build that heavy wall of separation between another person and ourselves. What tiring work!!!!
I now release thoughts of blame and the need to be right. I strive not to separate, but to connect; not to debate, but to seek common ground; not to find fault but to forgive. (Daily Word Aug. 13. 04 ). Funny the way the man finds to remind us who we are and what we are doing. I appoligize for being mean spirited and will do my best to refrain. Sorry about that Larry. Yeah, I know, I must have found my meds.
Peace to all, Purdman
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Good Man, Don.
Like you said ... we all have our mean streak.
We all get up on the wrong side of the bed sometimes.
Some just wont admit they are that human also.
Blud said you were an alright kinda guy.
You just proved it.
 
Donald A. Purdy said:
The flame wars do stimulate the board, 2720 reads. Dam.
Peace to all, Purdman
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And you mean that all of this occurred without any help from me?? I really feel left out........... :( :confused:
 
larrynj1 said:
well screw you, purdman. i look forward to you and fast larry arguing with each other. to quote a great man -

i hope when you get home, your bald headed wife and mom run out from under the porch and bite your leg!

LMAO!!!
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:p !!!!!!!!!! YA GOTTA LOVE IT !!!!!!!!!!!!! :p
Purdman :cool:
 
None of this beats a good argument in person. Not a real test. On an internet forum you have to much time to think. Beside there isn't the physical intimidation factor (is this guy going to swing or not?) LOL
 
CaptainJR said:
None of this beats a good argument in person. Not a real test. On an internet forum you have to much time to think. Beside there isn't the physical intimidation factor (is this guy going to swing or not?) LOL
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Ya, but for the mean natured mouthy ones the internet sure saves a lot of dental work. Having time to think is a good thing ... isnt it?
 
WilleeCue said:
Ya, but for the mean natured mouthy ones the internet sure saves a lot of dental work. Having time to think is a good thing ... isnt it?
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One thing that having time to think doesn't help with is getting to familiar with the taste of ones foot. :D
 
I believe I missed this war. However, I still believe each person who comes here is entitled to thier opinion. {and if it's not the same as ours, well they're entitled to wrong opinions} just kidding. Just like any family, there has to be a little friction now and then. But it will always work out in the end. Sam
 
Donald A. Purdy said:
Who ever posted that photo with the caption, " Argueing on the internet is like being in the special olympics, even if you win, you are still retarded " did me a favor. The flame wars do stimulate the board, 2720 reads. Dam.
I must admit to all of you, yes, I am retarded. Please keep that in mind. We all got a ying and a yang. Holding on to unforgiveness takes effort. It's as if we are building a wall of blame and guilt that keeps us from expressing the love of God towards those we believe have harmed us. Each thought of blame is like a boulder that we carry to build that heavy wall of separation between another person and ourselves. What tiring work!!!!
I now release thoughts of blame and the need to be right. I strive not to separate, but to connect; not to debate, but to seek common ground; not to find fault but to forgive. (Daily Word Aug. 13. 04 ). Funny the way the man finds to remind us who we are and what we are doing. I appoligize for being mean spirited and will do my best to refrain. Sorry about that Larry. Yeah, I know, I must have found my meds.
Peace to all, Purdman
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Here's a long, but highly interesting article about the impossiblity (or not?) of having honest disagreements. Enjoy...

http://216.239.41.104/search?q=cach...deceive.pdf+hanson+disagreements+honest&hl=en

Jeff Livingston
 
Flame wars get old.
Kinda funny that the same people here start it.
Most of them, if not all, are dillusional.
They start twisting the words by other people.
They go back and edit their posts and next thing you know they claim they were being attacked.
Don, for all your good intentions, there will still be a looney who'll argue with you b/c he missed his Prozak that day or it's the umpteenth anniversary of the day his/her teacher spanked him/her or something.
I had my share of flame wars and I'm done with them b/c you can't reason with some people.
As Forrest Gump said, stupid is as stupid does.
Someone said this ( I dunno who but it makes sense); Little people do little things. Great people do great things.
Now, if only we can block all psychos and looneys here.
 
So Don, does this mean we can call you all sorts of names, insult your intelligence and all that other stuff and you won't mind? COOL!!!
 
Actually, come to think of it, that would be boring! I take it back, it might not be so cool after all. Just give someone a jab at least every now and then okay Don?
 
If I make it to the open I'll buy you a cold one.You certainly deserve it.I always read but seldom write.I look foreward to seeing your posts always.
 
Your moving in a beautiful direction there, Don. Don't forget to forgive yourself, just as you are willing to forgive others.

Peace and Joy.
 
God said:
Your moving in a beautiful direction there, Don. Don't forget to forgive yourself, just as you are willing to forgive others.

Peace and Joy.
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Sure will POP. Ya taught me that in "The Good Life" 101 class. Peace man, and bless yourself now and then for me!!!
Purdman :cool:
 
Donald A. Purdy said:
I must admit to all of you, yes, I am retarded. Please keep that in mind. We all got a ying and a yang. Holding on to unforgiveness takes effort. It's as if we are building a wall of blame and guilt that keeps us from expressing the love of God towards those we believe have harmed us. Each thought of blame is like a boulder that we carry to build that heavy wall of separation between another person and ourselves. What tiring work!!!!
I now release thoughts of blame and the need to be right. I strive not to separate, but to connect; not to debate, but to seek common ground; not to find fault but to forgive. (Daily Word Aug. 13. 04 ). Funny the way the man finds to remind us who we are and what we are doing. I appoligize for being mean spirited and will do my best to refrain. Sorry about that Larry. Yeah, I know, I must have found my meds.
Peace to all, Purdman
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Don, those are awfully nice words. The truth, IMO, is that bantering is fun where true out and out, down in the mud flame wars, while they attract that dark side in each of us, end up draining me and I think many. After reading the last one, I was in so much negativity that I felt very overwhelmed by all of it in a almost sick way. i felt that I, in a way, was almost selling my soul by even opening those threads, knowing full well what was in them, nothing but venom.

While I like to bantar with the best, this kind of thing really negates the positive energy I am trying to have in my life and I not only hope that nothing like this last one occurs for a long time, I hope that if it does, I have the strength to not open those flame threads.

Just where I am, how it affected me and no reflection on anyone else. A wise person once said to me and I have often seen this in me 'if I am not the problem, then there is no solution'. So, when I got drug down by negative energy, I chose to let that happen, much to my disappointment in myself.

Laura
 
As a flame war connoisseur and devotee, I can say with some authority that flame wars can be started through misunderstanding of the written word on a forum such as this and there's not much that can be done because they're like a spark in a California forest that hasn't had a drop of rain in two months, they take off like wildfire and before you know it there are 5 pages and 3,000 views. It can even be something simple like inflection on a particular word of a sentence that sets things off. Here's an example of a simple sentence and what I'd like you to do is say the sentence aloud, inflecting on each word, one sentence at a time to illustrate what I'm saying.

I did not say he beat his wife. (When you place the emphasis on "I", the meaning is that someone else said that he beat the wife"

(When you place the emphasis on "DID NOT" the meaning is vehement denial that anything was ever said)

(When you place the inflection on "SAY" and drag it out a little like "SAAAY", then it means that it could have just been implied but not definitely stated that it was said)

(When you place the emphasis on "HE", it could have been anyone else that beat his wife. Maybe his brother, her brother, her ex-husband, but anyone other than HE.

(When you place the emphasis on "BEAT", it could possibly mean anything. Pushed, shoved, tongue-lashed, bitch slapped, argued with....just anything but BEAT)


(When you place the inflection on "HIS", then the meaning shifts to somebody else's wife. Maybe the next door neighbor, the wife that's his mistress but not married to, his brother's, anybody's wife but HIS.

(When you place the emphasis on "WIFE" the the meaning shifts to possibly his kids, his dog, his brother, his boss, anybody but his WIFE.

You really have to say this sentence aloud to get the true meaning with all of the different inflections.


So the point is, if you can have this many meanings with just 8 words in a simple sentence, it's quite easy to see how things can get out of hand with a few paragraphs. If it's misinterpreted and others decide to jump in and compound the situation, then it turns into a chaotic free for all with people wanting to haul off to retaliate or futilely trying to defend themselves due to all of the accusations, especially if you have a few enemies. There are other reasons for flame wars, but this is just one.

Please get in touch if you've never had the nerve or know-how to take advantage of a real slam-fest. They're kinda like a picnic...surely you don't want to have one everyday...but they can be a fun time had by one and all on an occasional basis. :D
 
drivermaker said:
It can even be something simple like inflection on a particular word of a sentence that sets things off.
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That is so true. Thus the moral of the story is.....one should always try to give the poster the benefit of the doubt. :)
 
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