I appreciate the advice. I made the mistake of confronting this person over the phone a couple of weeks before posting. I was a tad belligerent (not to him personally but about the time taken and excuses given.) He told me f you, refused to refund my money. He has already sold one of the cues that I traded him. The cue is close to completion but he will not release the cue until it is finished by him. (God knows how long that will take.) I had known this person for several years and made the deal on a handshake. Call me foolish but I was brought up honest and want to believe in others. (won't make that mistake again) Would it be worth while to press charges against this person or would I be wasting my time and money?
He won't give you back the money because he doesn't have any to give you. If he did, he would give it to you in a minute and be happy to get you off his back and just complete the cue and sell it to someone else.
I think at this point the best thing you can do is just restart the conversation put all that has happened behind you and just ask him to give you a firm delivery date. I have a feeling if you do this you will get the cue.
Don't try to do anything legally. For one thing he has probably broken no laws. The best thing you can do would be to take him to a civil court that may get you nothing plus these things have a way of taking on a life of their own. Life is too short, at some point you will get your cue I have no doubt. Both of you need to talk, by the way this is what a judge would tell you guys to do even if you went to a civil court to arbitrate this. You are both adults and can resolve this.
I am going to tell you a fast story of how things like this can get out of hand. I cashed a personal check for a guy for a $1000.00. He said to hold the check for a few days so he could make a deposit. No big deal I sort of knew him. After a few days I check with the bank to see if the funds are there and find it is a closed account. This guy lives like 300 miles away and was just in town for the day when he gave me the check.
I call him and he tells me he made a mistake and didn't realize he had an old check in his wallet. OK, sounds good he is going to send me another check. Long story short no check arrives and I can't get him on the phone anymore. After about another month I am telling the story to a friend who is a cop and he says to turn the check over to the police in the town where the check was written. I was at the pool room the next city over so I take it to them and tell them the story.
They contact the police in the town where this guy lives and because the old account belonged to his wife they go after her. Apparent the $1000.00 figure was enough to have them go to her place of work and actually arrest her and take her away in handcuffs. Turns out she knew nothing about this but she paid me the $1000.00. All this because she has a jack off for a husband. I felt very bad for her if I had known what would happen I would have never gone to the police. If the check just bounced thats one thing, but a closed account, thats fraud.