Parents / kids and pool.

I'm just a kid myself, but growing up my parents always tried to keep the game out of my life. Whenever the sports channel was broadcasting pool, dad would switch the TV off. wouldn't even let me try shooting around at the small tables they had at the local YMCA. My parents were both raised in Taiwan, and mum would always tell me that back in her days that Taiwanese high schoolers that shot pool were always associated with delinquents, drop-outs, and generally kids gone bad. She said grandma and grandpa would always be making sure that she wasn't hanging around with anybody that played pool.

The first time I ever picked up a cue was after I was off to college where my parents couldn't control what I did, actually in sophomore year. Started playing the game and loved it, a year later when I went back home my dad wanted to spend some quality time with his boy so I suggested we go play some pool ahaha. He gave me the sternest look and I think he figured maybe I'd picked up the game at school and gotten into some nasty crowds or whatever. Anyways, I think the game is often associated with the "negative" facets of life that parents try to keep their kids out of (gambling, drinking, smoking, etc.). At this point though, I was at least old enough to figure out the good from the bad and I stayed away from the serious money, alcohol, and other such (moderation, in my eyes. There's nothing wrong with a few drinks here and there or a couple 10 dollar sets. I think that at a younger age, it's just tougher for a person to determine where the line is). Anyhow I just wanted to shoot some pool. I think my dad, after not seeing me for 2 years, realized that I at least had still kept my senses around me so he didn't complain too much about me playing all the damn time. That trip back home he shot with me at least twice a week, and it was real nice seeing pops had some decent skills. He told me in his youth he had a hectic high school career and had dropped out, playing a lot of pool, running with the wrong crowds, but he enjoyed the game though he knew he couldn't keep it as a career. He started a business in the tech industry and did well with that though, but anyways while I was growing up he and mum always kept that side of his life a secret from me.

Even nowadays my mum calls me every day and tells me to drop the game because she thinks I'll go bad. When I get to having kids though, I'm not sure how I'd present pool to them. I do believe that it's entirely just what you make of it either way... I don't regret picking it up at all though, I haven't played long and the game has already started to teach me some life lessons I never learned before.
 
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I'm just a kid myself, but growing up my parents always tried to keep the game out of my life. Whenever the sports channel was broadcasting pool, dad would switch the TV off. wouldn't even let me try shooting around at the small tables they had at the local YMCA. My parents were both raised in Taiwan, and mum would always tell me that back in her days that Taiwanese high schoolers that shot pool were always associated with delinquents, drop-outs, and generally kids gone bad. She said grandma and grandpa would always be making sure that she wasn't hanging around with anybody that played pool.

The first time I ever picked up a cue was after I was off to college where my parents couldn't control what I did. Started playing the game and loved it, a year later when I went back home my dad wanted to spend some quality time with his boy so I suggested we go play some pool ahaha. He gave me the sternest look and I think he figured maybe I'd picked up the game at school and gotten into some nasty crowds or whatever. Anyways, I think the game is often associated with the "negative" facets of life that parents try to keep their kids out of (gambling, drinking, smoking, etc.). At this point though, I was at least old enough to figure out the good from the bad and I stayed away from the money, alcohol, and other such. Anyhow I just wanted to shoot some pool. I think my dad, after not seeing me for 2 years, realized that I at least had still kept my senses around me so he didn't complain too much about me playing all the damn time. That trip back home he shot with me at least twice a week, and it was real nice seeing pops had some decent skills. He told me in his youth he had a hectic high school career and had dropped out, playing a lot of pool, running with the wrong crowds, but he enjoyed the game though he knew he couldn't keep it as a career. He started a business in the tech industry and did well with that though, but anyways while I was growing up he and mum always kept that side of his life a secret from me.

Even nowadays my mum calls me every day and tells me to drop the game because she thinks I'll go bad. When I get to having kids though, I'm not sure how I'd present pool to them. I do believe that it's entirely just what you make of it either way... I don't regret picking it up at all though, I haven't played long and the game has already started to change some bits of me for the better.

Your situation is what I was talking about earlier. It's not the game, its the people, at least some of them. And there are people like that in all walks of life. I would rather expose my daughter to these situation in a guided manner rather then let her try to figure it out on her own later in life.
Kids are going to be put in bad situations at some point in their life, I just want to make sure mine have the tools to deal with them.
 
I started playing pool as an adult. Started Jan 2010 so nearly two years ago now. I've met some of the biggest idiots (politely put) ever seen in my life. Peope who lose a friendly league game and throw the ball against the cushion, bounce it mile high and near smash windows (or in one case nearly blackened my girlfriends eye!!!)

The UK scene is probably not as bad as the US for hustling but there are a lot more people angling and there is a lot of *****iness and backstabbing now which I've become exposed to. You certainly cannot go into the lions den without any support thats for sure, or you will be intimidated and they will manipulate you to a certain degree.

With that said, pool is just a microcosm of life itself isn't it? All genders, all ages, nice, nasty, eccentric, egocentric, trying to gain the upper hand, psychological warfare, occasion violence and stiffing etc etc. Why make somebody avoid the situations that could become far more damaging in later life?

I really hate that my mom wrapped me in cotton wool until I left home at 24. I have Aspergers Syndrome (as Ive mentioned before here I think) and yes some situations are difficult at times and I can handle them okay, but i wish I was a little more wise to life in general. Mom told me I wasn't 'streetwise' enough to go out there on my own. But how can you expect to learn if you aren't allowed exposure.

We could talk about rugby or football (soccer to you guys lol) or chess or darts - all games/sports are the same in the way that the number of characters mirror that of real life. Especially chess...jeez there are some right idiots who play that game. And I bet there are nearly as many school dropouts from chess as there are for pool. Maybe Im wrong but Ive seen people say that if they studied all day theyd be as good as Fischer or Kasparov. Games dont work that way its quality not quantity.

No game is worth wasting your life away over and thats the simple message I would keep in mind and encourage my child to do the same. Dedicate yourself as much as you want, but go through school and get a job too. Have the important things in place don't just be a pool bum, because pool bums get nowhere.
 
My parents have never watched me play pool. They were against me playing from the onset and did whatever they could to stop me from playing. I doubt their disgust with the game had any influence on me playing more but I do know that their years of negativity towards it affects me sometimes. They have opened up more about pool lately and my dad seems to like hearing recaps about recent games but now it's me who seems too guarded on letting them into that part of my life. If I had kids....... I wouldn't keep them from pool but would really try to keep them grounded into something else that has a higher upside than pool.
 
If I had a raise a kid who wants to become a professional pool player, I would do it in Taiwan or even China. These are places where there are many options for you to learn the game without risking the chance of dropping out of school and picking up poor habits. It is just a much more organized and controlled environment. Look at the Ko brothers, turned out very well, but their father did an excellent job in raising them.

For any dreams a child may have, it is important for parents to set their priorities straight. School first, then they can pursue whatever they want as long as they can keep it up.
 
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