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OK- I have a mancave/barndominium 150 yards from house that the Lord gives me great peace in. Diamond professional 8'. I take great care of my stuff...keep my pool room pretty spotless.......My 14 year old daughter had a few friends over and wanted to go shoot pool with her friends...without dad, of course......

What say ye?
 
jnwilliams said:
OK- I have a mancave/barndominium 150 yards from house that the Lord gives me great peace in. Diamond professional 8'. I take great care of my stuff...keep my pool room pretty spotless.......My 14 year old daughter had a few friends over and wanted to go shoot pool with her friends...without dad, of course......

What say ye?
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Oh my...

Maybe order a few pizzas and a couple racks of bbq ribs too. 😁

Yeah, hell to the no!

I'll be happy to join them as the cool dad who'll teach them how to play pool though...
 
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Does your daughter know how to treat the equipment properly? In other words, have you taught her correct?

Is she generally responsible?

If the answers to these questions is yes, then yes, I think you should allow it with a warning that she’s responsible for her friends and if anything is abused she won’t get to do it again.
 
jnwilliams said:
OK- I have a mancave/barndominium 150 yards from house that the Lord gives me great peace in. Diamond professional 8'. I take great care of my stuff...keep my pool room pretty spotless.......My 14 year old daughter had a few friends over and wanted to go shoot pool with her friends...without dad, of course......

What say ye?
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No
 
jnwilliams said:
OK- I have a mancave/barndominium 150 yards from house that the Lord gives me great peace in. Diamond professional 8'. I take great care of my stuff...keep my pool room pretty spotless.......My 14 year old daughter had a few friends over and wanted to go shoot pool with her friends...without dad, of course......

What say ye?
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Not on your life
 
GideonF said:
Does your daughter know how to treat the equipment properly? In other words, have you taught her correct?

Is she generally responsible?

If the answers to these questions is yes, then yes, I think you should allow it with a warning that she’s responsible for her friends and if anything is abused she won’t get to do it again.
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I don’t know a 14 year old that meets those criteria. My 14 year old is great child. She’s 14 tho.

I know it’s a material possession but dang
 
gregcantrall said:
Would require a proper introduction and training. Just like driver training. Wouldn't give her the car to cruise with her friends until completion of driver training and license attained. Pool table privileges would be the same on my table.
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Yeah...and remove nice sticks from the room.

How about telling the childrens first visit is supervised?

You "no" people are party poopers.

When we're on our deathbeds, we won't wish our pool tables werein better condition, we'll wish we had let our daughters enjoy what we did too.
 
I'd think 14 is old enough to understand just how profoundly her father would be disappointed if they damaged his favorite things. Literally, what's the worst that could happen? Some kid spills a coke on the cloth and you're out some cash. On the other hand, the bond of trust that the moment might create... that could last a lifetime.

Clear expectations and trust. I think that's worth it.
 
Tough to give parenting advice. Heard a story once about someone worrying about their lawn when the kids played on it. The question was asked, “Are you raising boys or grass?” IMO you also want to be the house that teenagers go to. Our older one is the social chairman type. I always liked having to step over snoring high school football players in the basement the morning after a game or on a Sunday. My kid was at a house I trusted that way. Is it always perfect? No.

I would set a few rules, no food or drinks, explain a few things not to do to the table. That kind of thing. You will also have to restrain yourself when they inevitably do something that will make you cringe. Don’t discourage them from trying pool. Exposing them to the sport is great. More important is the raising the daughter part. We had it easier with boys. But in the next several years your daughter will have to make responsible choices in things way more important than keeping a table nice. IMO.

And Diamond tables have survived worse in the pool halls and bars throughout the USA and world.
 
You know your own child, so use your best judgement. Assuming they're a good kid and will attempt to take reasonable care of things, then absolutely yes, but I'd have a chat with them ahead of time. Explain the importance of keeping things nice, clean, no food/drinks on the table, etc. And let them know they're responsible for it all. If the cloth gets torn, guess what, they get to work off the price of new cloth either through chores or by getting a job (maybe a little young for a job these days still).

My philosophy would be to give them access but make them responsible for it all and how their friends treat it. They can then decide if they want that responsibility or not.

I also don't have kids....so don't listen to me.
 
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