Fun thread, Maniac. I don't have a strong opinion on the 3-foul rule one way or another. I don't get upset when someone tries to 3-foul me. If they are successful, more power to them. Its not easy to 3-foul a good player, so when I get fouled out, I typically say, "well done", or something like that. If going for the 3-foul is "the wrong move", then I'm fortunate that they chose it, since it means that they just increased my chances of winning, compared to them doing the "right move".
I just wanted to offer another perspective about the stalemate situation you described. Say player A plays a great safe on player B, and player B hands player A the cue ball, which ultimately results in a stalemate. If that happens, player A's safety actually was not that great.
Perhaps it was well-executed, but it was not as well thought out as it should have been. When one plays a safety, they need to consider the opponent's potential options from that situation, including the option of doing nothing (handing over the cue ball).
As a side note, handing over the cue ball isn't necessarily a wimp move, in my opinion. Just like in some cases taking an intentional foul in 1-pocket or straight pool is the right move, it might also be the right move in 8-ball every now and then.
Back to the stalemate thing, maybe a chess player here could comment on whether or not my point about the stalemate is analogous to chess. Say player A is winning at chess, in terms of how many pieces they have remaining, and what their positions are. Then player A puts player B in check, but it results in a position that allows player B to force a stalemate situation. It seems that player A should not have made that move that allowed player B to create a stalemate. Just a thought. I don't play much chess, but that was fun to ponder anyway.