relationships and pool = what?

my two cents as a woman.....I have never wanted to date a poolplayer because playing pool is "MY" time and my outlet (dating a better poolplayer would prob help my game - that would be the only advantage).....the one thing I have found is that men don't understand (parents either for that matter when I was younger) why a "nice" girl feels the need to be in a seedy pool hall for hours at a time.....and men don't understand that when you go to play pool, you are there to play pool......

9balllvr
 
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if your other half is not understanding of the fact that you play pool......and is supportive in every part of the pool world, it won't work....poolplayers are a different breed.....it is a passion......
 
ugotaction said:
I need opinions on whether or not a relationship is good for a pool career or for a pool player in general. is it worth it? does it mess things up? or make things worse or more stressfull ? tell me what you know from experience or from plain knowledge.
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Well my buddy, sorry to say. But being in a relationship and playing pool i mean real pool taking it serious and playing in leagues, tournaments, is going to have some consequences. Not saying all girls are like this, but from some experience, i can't do what i really want to do with my pool. Take tuesday night leagues can't play in them anymore, I mean i get her point it ain't doing nothing for my game, as here our team destroys the competition here, well me anyways hehehe. " If you are going to play pool it is best not going to be in a relationship because you can't really dedicate yourself to both". Direct quote from the old lade. This isn't meant if you are going to be big, and actually win some money doing it hehehe, cause if thats the case then oh what the hell why would she bother huh, kidding. Cole
 
It seems that there are a good number here that have made relationships work by either meeting in pool rooms or both getting involved in order that there's a shared interest as well as understanding of what the time spent is all about. And hey, if it all comes together...more power to you. You gotta do what you gotta do.

I come from a different school of thought in that I don't really want this joint interest and experience. I prefer doing my thing...and have her do hers, whatever it might be. In my case it's even worse because it's golf & pool.
If you have a girlfriend/wife, boyfriend/husband that's bitching about the time spent in pool...that's NOTHING compared to the time spent on the golf course for 18 holes, practicing the game, and THEN putting time into pool on top of it.

But it doesn't matter if your partner ALSO has interests and neither one is insecure about the other running off and doing some dirty deed with another person, as well as the constant jockeying to control actions and activities so that it's centered around the one bitching.

The other thing that I've come to realize is that if you're fairly accomplished and they're totally inexperienced, trying to give lessons to the one you care about isn't always the best way to go. Tempers can get short, heads start getting more like a rock with nothing sinking in, and the good experience that you're seeking can turn into a lousy one real quick. In addition to that, they provide no challenge and your own game goes down the tubes and they get pissed off because they can never win, regardless of the spot.

I also tend to think that spending too much time together around the clock flattens the relationship. It just gets boring. It's kinda like couples that work together in the same business or job. YIKES!! Although it CAN work. I couldn't take it.

If you're doing exactly what you want and your partner is also, you can still have your great times doing it and then share the experience by talking together all about it. Why drag the other person into something they don't want to do. It's like for me, I don't want to be dragging ass around working in a garden all day or going to nurseries to look at plants and landscaping ideas. Hell, I refuse to even cut the grass...the only thing I'm ever going to do with grass is take divots out of it with an iron! And I can't expect a woman to want to walk around a table all day or night knocking a ball into a pocket and getting the same pleasure out of it that I do.

Although from what I just wrote it might seem like there's NEVER any time for each other, but there really is and the most important aspect of it is that it's quality time instead of just looking at each other like Ma and Pa Kettle with nothing to say and bored outta your ass.
It's harder for this to happen when couples are young, insecurities abound, games are constantly being played to control the other person, and you don't even know what the hell you want out of life yourself.

And by the way, the big talk that Sarah mentioned at the beginning of a relationship that seems to be getting serious is an ABSOLUTE MUST. I've given that talk multiple times with the fervor and conviction of General George Patton and Knute Rockne combined. That shit HAS to be dealt with from day 1 or there will be hell to pay. Not that it will necessarily work, you'll STILL get challenged to see if you meant what you really said somewhere down the line...and if you buckle...you're DEAD! (You got that, NEW GUY?)

It might seem like a hard assed approach and totally self-centered, but it really doesn't have to be as long as your partner isn't so self-centered in THEIR stance also with nothing to do.
 
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The whole thing on making it work by meeting someone with the same interest is the best bet to go then if you want a relationship and want to play pool or whatever hobby/sport you like, Cause other then that i never seen it done. I have some buddies that would rather sleep with the cue then a girl, now thats getting outta hand. Rather then coming home after work and the first words outta your girlfriends/wifes mouth is where is the tournament tonight and when you going to be home.
 
DaveK said:
Yep, best of both worlds :D

Dave, who has a wife (13 years), a pool table (12 years), and my favorite, a kid (10 years)
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Wife - 14 years
Pool table (3 different ones) - 13 years
Son - 12 years
Son - 9 years

RACK 'EM
 
9balllvr said:
my two cents as a woman.....I have never wanted to date a poolplayer because playing pool is "MY" time and my outlet (dating a better poolplayer would prob help my game - that would be the only advantage).....the one thing I have found is that men don't understand (parents either for that matter when I was younger) why a "nice" girl feels the need to be in a seedy pool hall for hours at a time.....and men don't understand that when you go to play pool, you are there to play pool......

9balllvr
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We have a family here that all play well (father and 1 son might be As, mother and other son could be Bs). It is not uncommon to see the husband and wife playing on one table while a son and his girlfriend play on the the next. The next day it might be a mother-son match going on. It's quite a family and they sure do share a love of pool. It doesn't even seem to bother the younger son when he looses to his mom in front of the railbirds.

Dave
 
Hal said:
Wife - 14 years
Pool table (3 different ones) - 13 years
Son - 12 years
Son - 9 years

RACK 'EM
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OK ! Where do we play, your place or mine :D

Dave
 
drivermaker said:
Y'er damn tootin' pardner...there's also sex....and then there's sex....and then you also have sex.

- True. That is definitely important but I was trying to remain discreet. Forgot what forum I was on.

But then you find out that it no longer becomes available as you wished and you end up beating something else instead of the streets. :eek: :D

- Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do! ;)

Btw...if you still want to shoot a hell of a lot of pool, you buy one (pool table) and put it in the house...end of problem!!!
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- That sounds like a plan...but you can only practice by yourself so much. I think the socialization/matching up/tournament play drew me to the game as much as mastering the game itself. I would like to buy a table, but we're planning on buying a bigger place next year so I can hold out for now.
 
drivermaker said:
Y'er damn tootin' pardner...there's also sex....and then there's sex....and then you also have sex.
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Drivermaker
You (a golfer) of all people should know that a 7 iron from 155 to within 1 foot of the pin is better than sex any day. (At least from what I remember.)


Drivermakers response: You say "At least from what I remember". Which is it you can't remember, a 7 iron to within 1 foot, or sex?


CaptJRs response: Yes :rolleyes:
 
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THE SOLUTION IS TO - "SHOW HER THE CA$H"!

My wonderful wife of 25 years could care less about pool.
We met about 6 years after she left a catholic convent.
At that time I had kind of quit pool for playing Gin for Hi$.
She understood what I was all about and it didn't matter to her.
It sure did to her parents - UNTIL - they saw the fruits of my labor.
I told her that I was really all about pool and that at any time I might go to the store for a loaf of bread and call three days later from Vegas. She said Listen, As long as your faithful and continue to bring home the kind of ca$h that you do now - No Problem!
Everything changed though, when after being married for 5 years, she says "I'm Pregnant".
I took a job selling advertising "On The Road" and it turned out to be the "Best Hustle" for pool that I have ever seen.
About 4 years later I had a random idea in the middle of the night about a new advertising product and developed my corporation.
I still love to play pool and do, but now she goes with me quite a bit to socialize with the other women there - Not to watch me.
Not to be bragging BUT the other night while I was in a game and she was sitting with a bunch of other people watching the game intently - someone asked her why she wasn't paying ANY attention to the game. She said - "Why should I? We have been together for over 25 years and I know that he's going to win. If he doesn’t, It because he doesn’t want to".
We had a little talk later on about this statement she made.

Bottom Line - Show Them The Ca$h & you'll be surprised how much they will support your endeavors.

TY & GL
 
ugotaction said:
I need opinions on whether or not a relationship is good for a pool career or for a pool player in general. is it worth it? does it mess things up? or make things worse or more stressfull ? tell me what you know from experience or from plain knowledge.
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not sure what kind of relationship you mean...dating/marraige, etc. but here are some examples..

guy I know was a roadplayer...along the way he picked up a wife. Slowed him down a lot...higher expenses...less flexibility...more distractions. He told me something that made a lotta sense - "more responsibility = more pressure". Now I know you almost never ever gamble, but think about posting up money that's not just yours...or thinking about your babymomma and 10 sho'ties when it's hill-hill.

another guy I know who plays real strong hasn't accomplished what he's capable of. He got married pretty early in life and ended up getting a job. His action is dead in his area, it's hard for him to go on the road b/c of his responsibilities...he doesn't play that much anymore. Pool-wise, it's a pretty crappy situation for him.
 
drivermaker said:
And by the way, the big talk that Sarah mentioned at the beginning of a relationship that seems to be getting serious is an ABSOLUTE MUST. I've given that talk multiple times with the fervor and conviction of General George Patton and Knute Rockne combined. That shit HAS to be dealt with from day 1 or there will be hell to pay. Not that it will necessarily work, you'll STILL get challenged to see if you meant what you really said somewhere down the line...and if you buckle...you're DEAD! (You got that, NEW GUY?)
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I hear you loud and clear General! :p

Unfortunately, I started playing pool just a few months after I started dating NewGirl. I couldn't give her that talk because I didn't know how hard the bug would bite me or how good I would become in the last 2 years. NewGirl once stated that she thought I started playing pool because I didn't really want to be with her. My response... "Why would I put up with all the bull shit you give me about pool if I didn't really love you? I'm not a masochist, honey."

Believe me, whoever I date going forward will get that talk when things start getting serious. Lucky her! :D
 
Mike Templeton said:
Legs, schmegs. She has a beautiful hair color. I just wonder if the carpet matches the drapes?????????????? :eek:

Mike
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She might have a Mega-A$$ with all the waist up pictures. Beware.
 
whitewolf said:
Unless you are lucky enough to marry someone like, for instance, Timberly or Landshark who would understand you and who would support you through hell and high water :D That is the key to success. They must like pool.
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Please. I like pool. Heck, I love pool. I certainly spend all my time in a pool room. And I still don't have a boyfriend...much less a husband. So guys can't use that excuse...because there ARE gals out there who don't mind if a guy is always in the pool room. And I here plenty of guys say that is what they are looking for...and then one comes along and they have to find some new excuse not to make a commitment. Sheeeesh! :D
 
Roll-Off said:
She might have a Mega-A$$ with all the waist up pictures. Beware.
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I've posted pics & none of them show me from the waist down except a pic I posted in a thread that no one really saw... It was another "skinny pic" and I said as much when I posted it. I've since posted recent pics & none of them are from the waist down. I don't see her claiming to be skinny, or a model, or anything of the sort so if she did/does have a big ass, it doesn't matter because she never said that she didn't. I've got a big ass but I'm not trying to hide it by posting upper body pics... most pics that people have of themselves are upperbody.....

What about you Roll off? I haven't seen your pic.... are you a lard ass like myself or are you perfect? One would think that you think of yourself as perfect considering how much shit you've given Lora Ann.. put your money where your mouth is... show us how a perfect person should look. :rolleyes: In pool terms that would be "POST UP OR SHUT UP".
 
Timberly said:
What about you Roll off? I haven't seen your pic.... are you a lard ass like myself or are you perfect? In pool terms that would be "POST UP OR SHUT UP".
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Hey Sweet Cheeks...I don't know about Roll Off, but this here Jack-Off will post in a set of 7 pics with you of gluteus maximus shots for $100. :D It might not be Mr. Olympia perfect but it ain't fat! I think we should have a "pose down" under the lights when you come to Hotlanta...whaddaya say, kid? :p :cool:
 
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