most who have mechanical trades won;t strip 1/4" bolts or use a torque wrench, You can but its often just second nature for anyone experienced.. how about use 2 fingers to turn the wrench and you should be ok., that might be enough not to be tempted to "go nuts" nothing wrong with re-checking them after its in use a while. buying a special torque wrench makes sense if you use it , but I dont think its really necessary if it's not used often. the kind youd use for a cylinder head is too big and not really suited to this.
one way to estimate your strength , picture its a 1' wrench and you are pulling at the same pulling force it would take to lift a gallon of milk,, you can do that with 2 fingers, that's 10 foot pounds.. a gallon of milk is roughly 10 lbs.. If you think you need greater accuracy, you can likely just borrow one.
you can get little tools that are callibrated, I am just setting up a thickness planer, it comes with a littel T wrench for the carbide blade screws. That tool is preset, part of the tools for the machine, It's so so I dont break any of the tiny screws off, there are 130 blades in one planer and all are about 3mm.. trying to drill out a broken off 3mm is challenging.. a T handle like that might be ok for a mechanic who would actually use it often. then he's not fussing about trying to read the thing. I have little 1/4" drive snap on one, but they are a bit expensive.
I agree its really easy to grab impact tools and they take all the feel away, and yes they can apply tremendous torque.. ok to use a power tool for getting close so it's a bit faster.. with a drill at least you still have a feeling for how tight it is.. if it's like a typical little 1/4" drill and not a monster sized one. Ill often chuck up a 1/4" drive socket extension in a 1/2" cordless chuck, that works ok..