I never liked rubber spiders in those Lovejoy-style couplers. When I've been forced to use them - for difficult-to-access assembly applications, or because someone else involved thought they were the "nuts" - I always machine a Delrin spider to a very tight tolerance. The snug fit between coupler halves cannot overcome the slippery nature of Delrin, so the coupler still does its job, and the spider will NEVER "age" the way rubber does.
Not saying your crash would have come out better - probably would have been worse. But for accuracy, the resolution with a solid spider beats the sponginess of rubber all day long.
TW