Same here! I hated bar room nine ball because my six ball break pocketed a ball maybe forty percent of the time. Of course most of the rest of the time the other player only had to connect the dots! My nine ball bar table win percentage was probably 20-30% higher than my six ball win percentage.
Sounds funny and it takes away the rest of the balls laying around if needed but I have played where they played the six ball game first, then the nine ball game. This was far more pleasing than nine then six. Same thing, but it sure felt better winning the nine ball and letting the other person feed the table. You might try this, just finishing each set of balls winner if alternating table fees it still feels better.
I have never played paying on the five and the nine playing nine ball, that might be interesting too.
Hu