Sorry Rick, by the time I got back to admi....I mean, check my post for errors, everything was gone (accidentally, of course!)...and we'll be the judges of whether your questions are either innocent or clarifying.
Let me take this opportunity to add something (most of the details in the other post are irrelevant). If you recall, I arbitrarily chose something like 30 lbs of applied force (by the grip hand) during contact as the beginning of something significant when compared to the hundreds of pounds of force from impact. While the subsequent and admittedly rough calculations showed, I believe, that it's unlikely you could generate that much force, nevertheless, the numbers seemed uncomfortably closer than expected. (I had done much the same calculations a few years and many more neurons ago, and it wasn't even close then.) The reason is that I forgot something very simple but crucial.
Imagine applying a pushing force to two objects joined in tandem, and along the line joining their center-of-masses. Both of them will accelerate at the same rate: A = F/(m1 +m2). Thus, the force on m1 will be m1*A = m1*F/(m1+m2), while the force on m2 will be m2*A = m2*F/(m1+m2). If m2 is the second object (furthest from the applied force), then the force that m2 "sees" is F reduced by the factor of m2/(m1+m2).
In the case of a cue-cueball impact, it's of course true that they are not accelerating in unison; the cue is actually decelerating while the ball accelerates as both are being subjected to the large forces of impact. But, forces and accelerations are vector entities, meaning we can analyze the motion of an object as the (vector) sum of the component motions arising from the individual forces. In other words, we can turn a blind eye, and maybe even a deaf ear, to the impact forces. From this, then, we see that any force applied to the cue by the grip hand during the collision will be reduced by the factor cited above. This is about 1/4 for a center-ball hit with a typical cue, and even smaller for an off-center hit. Thus, most of our 30 lbs of force, even if we could muster it, would be lost on the cueball.
I do have to confess that even though this is Physics 101, more or less, I am a little bit uneasy with that simple "analysis," given the shockwaves, ringing, etc., that take place during the collision. I don't know how to address that concern at this point. But, I am pretty convinced that it (the analysis) is at least substantially true. Perhaps the true engineers here can lend a hand?
Jim