One of the most helpful ideas I came across was this:
Many times I will be playing in a situation in which I am an overwhelming favorite. I play in the APA a lot, and given the handicap system, I should pretty much win all the time. This is because there just are not that many strong B players in my area of the APA. Also, I have played in occasional tournaments consisting of mostly bar bangers, with a few C-player type APA players. I should walk away with that tourney.
If you have been reading carefully, you might have already noticed the problem. The problem is EXPECTATION. Do not go into a competetive situation with a certain expectation of how it will turn out. For example: "I'm better than this guy-I should win", or "I've been playing lights out-I'm gonna have a great match" or even more damaging and common "I should have made that shot". Instead, throw this junk out and enter a competition with more of a QUESTIONING attitude. For example: "well, I guess I will find out how good I play.", or "I wonder how this will go", or "Let's see if I can make that shot I missed before this time".
When I play in open tournaments, sometimes I have the attitude of "well, I'm probably going 0-2, but lets see what I can do" The last time I did that I finished 7th in a field of 55, knocking out one of the best open players in the process. When I went back to the same event, I'm telling myself "I'm better than I thought. Maybe I can hang with these guys-I should do pretty well." I went 1-2. Funny the way that works. Sometimes you have to lie to yourself. Your brain might be dying to say "You f-ing moron!! What the hell were you thinking there." It takes tremendous mental capability to say "Hmm..obviously I did xyz wrong, lets see how it goes on my next turn".
I guess the point for me is to try hard and eliminate any expectations. All they do is raise the pressure to perform.
KMRUNOUT