This is not a "warning". Rather, it's something I felt the need to post publicly for my own sanity. Perhaps you will understand after reading this.
There is a member on here that I've decided not to name. We met through the AZ forums and have spoken on MSN Messenger many times. The conversations have always been friendly, if not entertaining. He's purchased some items from me in the past and I have no complaints about those transactions (He was a good buyer).
Recently, we spoke of a case he has for sale on here. We decided to do a trade. I was to ship him a couple items for the case. We confirmed the deal and he said "Done deal". I replied in kind that I was confirming the deal and he confirmed yet again that the case was mine.
The very next morning I receive a PM telling me that he's changed his mind. The deal is off. His reason? He decided he doesn't need the items anymore.
While I'm upset he broke his word, I understand we all make mistakes. Plus, I don't want to pressure him into accepting something he doesn't want. So when he offers me three new trade scenarios, I accept "#3" and write him to confirm the new deal (which was a cue he wanted).
A short while later, he PMs me again to cancel that second deal. This time his excuse is that his gf convinced him he doesn't need that cue badly. If his gf's opinion was vital to making the deal, he should have asked her before making the new deal (obviously).
I tell him that I am really pissed that he behaved like this, but that we can stay on good terms. I tell him that for the sake of our friendship, he should just sell the case to someone else, and I'll forget about it.
Instead, he asks if I will accept another one of his trade proposals. Another item on that list of three items he said he wanted. This time it should be no problem because it's a cue his girlfriend wants, not him. I guess I should have been talking to her all along then
I accept his trade proposal, and we confirm it as seriously as you can confirm a deal with someone who has just broken their word twice. As you can imagine, I accept the deal with a grain of salt. I don't even care if I get the case -- I'm mostly curious to see if he'll screw me over again despite his careful assurances to the contrary.
Sure enough, less than a day later, I find a PM subject "Deal is off". I almost have to laugh, it's so absurd. This time it's the gf that changed her own mind, apparently. She wanted the cue, and now she doesn't.
Notable contents include:
"I think you gonna be surprised that the deal is off for the case and the cue..the reason for this is that my gf change her mind..."
and
"i apologize for this and i know you probably will not be happy about my decision..hope you understand my decision...hope this decision of mine will not ruin our friendship...if it will..i can't do anything about it..sorry again..."
I'm not angry, but disappointed that anyone could behave this way. I have no ill will towards the guy (which is why I did not name names). I just give up!
Comments?
There is a member on here that I've decided not to name. We met through the AZ forums and have spoken on MSN Messenger many times. The conversations have always been friendly, if not entertaining. He's purchased some items from me in the past and I have no complaints about those transactions (He was a good buyer).
Recently, we spoke of a case he has for sale on here. We decided to do a trade. I was to ship him a couple items for the case. We confirmed the deal and he said "Done deal". I replied in kind that I was confirming the deal and he confirmed yet again that the case was mine.
The very next morning I receive a PM telling me that he's changed his mind. The deal is off. His reason? He decided he doesn't need the items anymore.
While I'm upset he broke his word, I understand we all make mistakes. Plus, I don't want to pressure him into accepting something he doesn't want. So when he offers me three new trade scenarios, I accept "#3" and write him to confirm the new deal (which was a cue he wanted).
A short while later, he PMs me again to cancel that second deal. This time his excuse is that his gf convinced him he doesn't need that cue badly. If his gf's opinion was vital to making the deal, he should have asked her before making the new deal (obviously).
I tell him that I am really pissed that he behaved like this, but that we can stay on good terms. I tell him that for the sake of our friendship, he should just sell the case to someone else, and I'll forget about it.
Instead, he asks if I will accept another one of his trade proposals. Another item on that list of three items he said he wanted. This time it should be no problem because it's a cue his girlfriend wants, not him. I guess I should have been talking to her all along then
I accept his trade proposal, and we confirm it as seriously as you can confirm a deal with someone who has just broken their word twice. As you can imagine, I accept the deal with a grain of salt. I don't even care if I get the case -- I'm mostly curious to see if he'll screw me over again despite his careful assurances to the contrary.Sure enough, less than a day later, I find a PM subject "Deal is off". I almost have to laugh, it's so absurd. This time it's the gf that changed her own mind, apparently. She wanted the cue, and now she doesn't.
Notable contents include:
"I think you gonna be surprised that the deal is off for the case and the cue..the reason for this is that my gf change her mind..."
and
"i apologize for this and i know you probably will not be happy about my decision..hope you understand my decision...hope this decision of mine will not ruin our friendship...if it will..i can't do anything about it..sorry again..."
I'm not angry, but disappointed that anyone could behave this way. I have no ill will towards the guy (which is why I did not name names). I just give up!
Comments?
