Did your pool cause a problem with your partner

And Jude said "Anyone who is having problems because of pool needs to re-evaluate their lives. The game will always be there. How important is the win if you have nobody to share it with? If she's your partner in life, you have to also make her your pool-partner too. Get her involved in managing your hobby and you'll be rewarded with a happier home which might improve your pool game. If anything, it'll improve your life."

Jude you sound like a Democrat Politician. Too many cliches. Some of us have the opposite problem. We can't get enough pool time. I seem to get about 4 hours of unsupervised fun a week. That includes travel time (though I am negotiating to have that extended :grin:) Wifey hates pool. She tried it and she thinks it is boring. So where does that leave me? Either cruising AZ billiards or sitting on the couch watching her watch "The Housewives of Muchoplasticsurgery". I was thinking about giving up my place in the garage and putting in a table but this cold snap brought me right out of that idea!
 
When you win, if you ever win, cough up some of the cash. When you win, if you ever win, buy some flowers and candy. When you win, if you ever win, take her to a nice restaurant. And when you lose and you will lose, follow the above advise.
 
When we met, I was a starving road player married to pool. My future wife knew what she was getting into. I'm sure she saved my life. :yeah:
 
doitforthegame said:
Wow....can't believe most of you don't have an issue going out and playing pool. Especially if you have young kids. trob is smart though...go out but make sure you know your boundaries. Me, I get 4 hours a week unsupervised fun for my weekly league. I recently introduced Saturday afternoon at my men's club to play a 9ball ring game. BUT, I ALWAYS cut her in when I win. The grumbling has started though. Last week I got "Are you going to the club again to play pool? Oh that's good. I'll just stay here and vacuum and clean." Said with full sarcasm.

Bob
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I hate that passive aggressive BS
 
I met my wife when I was still racing, she was an employee at the track. She liked to go racing with me, never once complained about the time it took. I have since quit racing and started playing pool. Once again she is all good with it, she comes to league nites and tournaments and even takes care of books. She never once complained about the thousands of $$$ we have spent on the table, cues, and accessories, although I dont spend money on pool stuff unless I am earning $$$$ on side jobs. But she still does not understand why I need yet another new cue, even after I explain its because I did not have one like the one I just bought.:grin:
 
My "Ol lady" tags along and loves the pool room I go to. Everyone there knows her and keeps her entertained while I'm doing my races. Guess I'm one of the lucky ones.
 
staypuff578 said:
My "Ol lady" tags along and loves the pool room I go to. Everyone there knows her and keeps her entertained while I'm doing my races. Guess I'm one of the lucky ones.
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Mine gets bored after a little while unless there are other ladies for her to socialize with, even though she does play a bit for league. She's content to sit at home and read, knit, watch scifi/cooking/etc or whatever. I sit all day long at work, so I can't stand sitting much more when I get home. We went to the zoo last weekend and will probably go out to dinner this weekend. At the moment, I can't afford too much, but I try to do something a little special.

As Baby Huey said, if I win, she usually gets a cut one way or another. I'm like the poor version of a sugar-daddy. I make sure she gets good experiences - CA road trip vacation, zoos, museums, NYC, ComiCon, etc.. in return, I just want to be able to bum around a pool table a few nights a week. One of these days, I'll even get good.. maybe. She already knows that when I buy a house, it'll have a table.
 
My ex resented anything that I enjoyed. She resented my surfing, my skydiving, my motorcycle riding. I had to leave. I have a lot more fun without her!
 
Banks said:
Mine gets bored after a little while unless there are other ladies for her to socialize with, even though she does play a bit for league. She's content to sit at home and read, knit, watch scifi/cooking/etc or whatever. I sit all day long at work, so I can't stand sitting much more when I get home. We went to the zoo last weekend and will probably go out to dinner this weekend. At the moment, I can't afford too much, but I try to do something a little special.

As Baby Huey said, if I win, she usually gets a cut one way or another. I'm like the poor version of a sugar-daddy. I make sure she gets good experiences - CA road trip vacation, zoos, museums, NYC, ComiCon, etc.. in return, I just want to be able to bum around a pool table a few nights a week. One of these days, I'll even get good.. maybe. She already knows that when I buy a house, it'll have a table.
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I try to do the same, dinner here and there, movies, something that she enjoys. For the most part the owners or a few of my buddies will play air hockey or arcade games there with her while I shoot. She never really has to sit there bored and watch me try to learn pool all night, always something going on that she gets kicks out of.

I like that quote!
 
I have just started seeing a new girl after splitting with my ex for a host of problems but one was she didnt enjoy pool well she enjoyed when I won the tournaments but anyway...

I need advice for this new girl she knows I play but i dont think she knows the extent and the love I have for the game it is my lifetime sport, I kinda feel embarrassed to tell her I practice by myself etc...should I just be straight up? try get her involved? keep it totally seperate let her have her things etc?
 
dundeewizard said:
I have just started seeing a new girl after splitting with my ex for a host of problems but one was she didnt enjoy pool well she enjoyed when I won the tournaments but anyway...

I need advice for this new girl she knows I play but i dont think she knows the extent and the love I have for the game it is my lifetime sport, I kinda feel embarrassed to tell her I practice by myself etc...should I just be straight up? try get her involved? keep it totally seperate let her have her things etc?
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I think you should come right out and be straight forward with her, try to get her involved to show this isn't all about you, that you want you guys to enjoy it together. The way I see it, if she don't like it now, she wont like it then, and well, it's early enough on you can get rid of her without all the "later on down the road" issues.
 
VIProfessor said:
If you're over 25 and you've never had problems with a significant other because of pool, you got the seven and out.
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Yes!!! :)

These stories all sound the same. I met my wife in a bar, while playing a ring game with a $700 custom cue in my hand. The whole time we dated (about 2 years) and for the first 2 years of our marriage, I played every day for at least 6 hours (like I did for a few years before we met). She was right there, watching me, cheering me on, etc. Went to every tournament, tried to hang out with the two or three wives/girl friends that might happen to be there. Then she got pregnant with our son...and 6 hours a day for 7 days a week became 2 nights a week for about 3 hours...then 1 night a week...then 2 nights a month. For the 18 years my son was in the house (he's now a Freshman at VA Tech), I was lucky to play in a tournament once every three months. For almost a decade, I can count the number of times I played on both hands. She quickly decided that pool was not a worthwhile past time, and went from supportive rail bird to giving me a case of the red a$$ everytime I suggested I might venture out to a pool room.

Now that the boy is out of the house, she's okay with a couple of nights a week (no late nights) and I can play on the Action Pool Tour...but my AA speed 20 years ago fell to a hard C, and I'm just now getting back to about a B+. It sucks getting smoked in regional tours by guys that live in a pool room, when I'm lucky to get 6 hours a week in on a table. No way to win, I'll tell you. I end up donating to the purse, but it's better than sitting at home. I'm "this close" to getting a Diamond Pro Am installed in the house, then I just might get some of my former luster back...

In case you're wondering, I wouldn't trade the last 20 years with my wife for anything, least of all pool...:grin-square:
 
It did cause me problems from two of my ex-partners. Now it won't cause my partner is a league player here. She loves pool.

Find a partner that plays pool!!!
 
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I would say, "that if you have been married for ANY length of time and you HAVEN'T had a problem a time or two over pool, then you HAVEN'T ever played at or aspired to play at a higher level than MOST people. Some, more than others."
 
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