Friends wedding or Vegas?

I think the answer lies in a few different questions that you must answer.
How good a friend is this person? and remember that you're only attending and not in
the wedding.
Realistically, do you believe that your team has a chance (a real chance) to to win or
finish top 5 or 6. are you playing 8 or 9 ball?
How long have you been playing with this team? First year, or tenth year? Are you one of
several S/L 5, or are you the captain and horse that carries this team?

Las Vegas is fun and usually a positive experience, you meet new friends, you play lots
of pool, it's really something you won't forget. The wedding is (hopefully) a once in a lifetime thing, but will it matter if you are there or not?

Personally, I'd go to Las Vegas. It might be good to see old friends again, but that's from a past life, but again, that's just me
 
weddings are for children and old people, you can marry a hooker in vegas.
(and live to tell about it) Vegas Baby!
 
It's APA, does it really matter? Everybody that knows POOL knows that it means nothing in the real pool world - If I have to listen to one more - my uncle, dad, mom, whatever went to Vegas for pool I will throw up. Like they are World champion lololol.

If you won a qualifier to the US Open 9 ball, you go! Doesn't matter if it's YOUR wedding lol, but APA - nah
Jason

Not saying it wouldn't be fun and I would go just cause Vegas(actually live here now) you would have a great time, but it is still league afterall. Still a helluva accomplishment to place high in the event(or even go I guess)
 
If it was a Brother or Sister gettting married and you were part of the ceremony. Go to the wedding.

If you are none of those. Then go to Vegas. You made a commitment to your team. You should be there to see it all way through. I’m sure your friend would understand. You may never go to go again for The APA.
 
jasonlaus said:
It's APA, does it really matter? Everybody that knows POOL knows that it means nothing in the real pool world - If I have to listen to one more - my uncle, dad, mom, whatever went to Vegas for pool I will throw up. Like they are World champion lololol.

If you won a qualifier to the US Open 9 ball, you go! Doesn't matter if it's YOUR wedding lol, but APA - nah
Jason

Not saying it wouldn't be fun and I would go just cause Vegas(actually live here now) you would have a great time, but it is still league afterall. Still a helluva accomplishment to place high in the event(or even go I guess)
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Everyone knows that "APA Jason" is all about the APA. He's a huge APA supporter.
When you go just look for the guy with an APA case, APA shirt, APA sunglasses,
and APA logo cue. He's just mad 'cause his team never qualified.

Go play in Las Vegas, you can go to your friends next wedding
 
Cant you ask your friend to change his wedding to a different weekend????:confused:

I was once in the same situation when I was racing. I did the "right thing" and went to the wedding. I did skip the activities the next day to race though. In the end I think I wished I had skipped the wedding, it probably cost me the track championship. The bride and groom did get a nice picture of my naked butt though on one of the disposable cameras that were left on each table for guest to take photos.
 
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Either Go To Scotlnd or Forever Live With Regret

Anyone telling you Vegas is more important than goiing to your friend's wedding....well,
I sure wouldn't want that type of outlook expressed by people that I consider my friends.

Personally, there are some things which are black & white and Family & Friends both qualify.
You didn't get to choose your direct family but you have the final say in determining your friends.

Friendship = Any Time (availability).....Any Place (no matter how far apart)......Any Thing (that either has).
People make the mistake of thinking of acquaintances as friends when in truth they'll never be one.

At the time of one's death, if a guardian angel visits you and says that if you can name a true
friend for every finger & thumb on both hands, you're likely guaranteed to go to heaven. You'd be
amazed at how many people cannot name a genuine friend for all ten digits because they run out
of names & start using acquaintances. If you do not understand the difference, you likely have not yet
made real friends & the lessons of life will reveal this to you at hopefully some point sooner than later.
 
Weddings shouldn't even be taken seriously anymore. It's a good time to establish your 'No more weddings' policy.
 
You said "good friend" so stick with your original commitment to attend the wedding.

Imagine how silly it sounds when people at the wedding asks why you aren't here and the answer is "Oh he couldn't make the wedding because of an amateur pool tournament in Vegas"...
 
If he was such a good friend, he would have had you in the wedding. There is so much going on at a wedding, if you are not in it or part of it, there is not that much personal contact.

In this day and age, asking someone to travel half way around the world, incurring the expense and whatever else is associated with maintaining your home and pets, the apprropriate gift, lodging etc....the pal getting married is asking you to commitquite a bit of money to watch him walk the plank. If it was that important, he shouldhave asked you to be a groomsman.

No one needs to know why you did not attend. Being unable to attend is no one's business.
 
easy-e said:
I'd stick with my original commitment of going to the wedding. There are only a handful of life events that I would truly regret missing. Exactly zero of them have anything to do with pool. Your call.
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This. Your friend will only be marrying his fiance once (hopefully). You have the chance to go to Vegas on your own dime or leagues time again.

Definitely Wedding.
 
Wedding. You probably have known about that for months.

My team has qualified for APA Nationals twice. The problem is you find out two months before the trip and it's in the summer, when you have 50 other family commitments. I'd consider it the exception if everyone on my team was available to go.



Last year 2 of our 4 team members could not go. Our LO let me recruit someone else from our league.
 
jeffj2h said:
Wedding. You probably have known about that for months.

My team has qualified for APA Nationals twice. The problem is you find out two months before the trip and it's in the summer, when you have 50 other family commitments. I'd consider it the exception if everyone on my team was available to go.



Last year 2 of our 4 team members could not go. Our LO let me recruit someone else from our league.
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Say what.?.. Our league operator would never allow that. You cant even play some one on your team during tri cups...ltc's etc that was short one match from being eligible due to a serious health problem a guys wife had and had to take her to a specialist up north for several weeks.

My lo is strictly by the book. . He dont bend the rules no how for no one during playoffs or higher.
 
Easy call.

If you are really a friend you honor the friendship. Pool is a game and true friendship is family. God, family, country always.
 
It isn't often I disagree with Phil but usually the topic under discussion is pool.
Phil obviously speaks for himself just like every other poster and remember
that opinions are only worth the price you paid to get it, ex. lawyers or accountants.

Phil observed "No one needs to know why you did not attend." and he's absolutely
100 % correct. There's a but to this......."You'll always know why and will remember."
Scotland will always haunt you if he's indeed a good friend so just follow your conscience.
 
A pool tournament in Vegas is not hard to come by. You can join so many other leagues, TAP, ACS, etc and go 2 or more times per year to Vegas, every year for the rest of your life.

Thus, this pool tourney is not some once in a lifetime experience.

The choice is pretty simple really. Pool is a hobby, not your life. Thus, don't make life decisions because of your hobby.
 
Come on

Do you mean to say that your friend is so selfish and self centered
that he could not just change the the wedding date. Some friend that is.
Years from now I can just imagine you telling your Grand kids about
2017 when your team won the National Championship in Vegas, showing
them the team pictures and Trophy and, oh wait you will tell them about
this wedding you went to. The bride looked so beautiful, and the flowers
were breath taking. They could just get married in Vegas during the
tournament, like my great friend Bob Vanover did.
Have fun.
jack
 
Bavafongoul said:
It isn't often I disagree with Phil but usually the topic under discussion is pool.
Phil obviously speaks for himself just like every other poster and remember
that opinions are only worth the price you paid to get it, ex. lawyers or accountants.

Phil observed "No one needs to know why you did not attend." and he's absolutely
100 % correct. There's a but to this......."You'll always know why and will remember."
Scotland will always haunt you if he's indeed a good friend so just follow your conscience.
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Come on Matt, we both probably have been in and to many weddings. Weddings suck.

My observation over the last 50 years has been the bigger the wedding, the bigger the divorce. I have been married 39 years this October. In deference to my friends, I did not invite any out of town people to my wedding. (my home town was 500 miles away). My wife did. Remember, this wedding is in Scotland. This could easily run $5k to attend and sit in the crowd.
If they were close friends, why is he not a groomsman? My point is that he is simply an invitee, not a groomsman. If he was a groomsman, of course he should attend and skipping should never be an option. However, he is not, and therefore his attendence is not that important IMO.
Finally, food for thought. I wonder how many peole can remember every wedding they were in, or everyone that was in their wedding party, let alone in attendance?

My Best,
 
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