Girlfriend wants me to stop playing pool

From a lifelong single ...

I happen to be one of those guys who doesn't compromise one bit. If a gal wants to hook up with me, she has to realize I'm a pool player and I like to play often - definitely not 5 or 6 nights a week though; more like 3 or 4 maybe. If she can't fade that, then I drop-kick her through the uprights. It's my way or the highway.

So you see, I ain't going to compromise for anyone, not even Kim Kardashian ............. well OK, maybe for Kim Kardashian .......... and possibly for Megan Fox ............ and I might for Scarlett Johannson ......... and ... I guess I could think of a few others ................... BUT ABSOLUTELY NO ONE ELSE.
 
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Icon of Sin said:
I think it is unreasonalbe for her to ask you to give it up.

I'm sorry that you are in this situation, but she needs to repect you as much as you respect her.
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This is right, this whole thing is unreasonable and the explanation for it seems illogical.

You should develop a compromise imo based on explaining it to her in a way that will mean something.

Like one poster said, take something she loves dearly and tell her you want her to stop doing it all together and THAT'S how you feel about pool.
 
Oh Yeah! Been there, done that! I think I was born with a pool cue in my hand. I can't remember the first time I tried to hit a ball with a cue.
I met this lovely lady, and we hit it off from the day one! The first time she came into my home, she saw a very expensive Olhausen custom table sitting in a custom built game room with all kinds of billiard memorabilia on the walls. Her first response was, "I see you play pool" (duh...) About five months into the relationship I got the big whammy...."You love that damn game more than you love me". Whoa! My response was, "Pool is a game. I love you, and that will never change. However, pool is my passion; a part of my life. It is as much a part of me as my job, my family.
I don't smoke, abuse alcohol or drugs, nor do I abuse women or children. I feel I'm a pretty decent guy. If you can't live with my passion, I'm sorry."
That was the end of the conversation. My wife now plays pool every Wed nite on a league team, and enjoys the game for what it is, plus the commeradry of our extended pool family. DON'T cave in. You will be nothing but sorry in the end.
 
8ballEinstein said:
I happen to be one of those guys who doesn't compromise one bit. If a gal wants to hook up with me, she has to realize I'm a pool player and I like to play often - definitely not 5 or 6 nights a week though; more like 3 or 4 maybe. If she can't fade that, then I drop-kick her through the uprights. It's my way or the highway.

So you see, I ain't going to compromise for anyone, not even Kim Kardashian ............. well OK, maybe for Kim Kardashian .......... and possibly for Megan Fox ............ and I might for Scarlett Johannson ......... and ... I guess I could think of a few others ................... BUT ABSOLUTELY NO ONE ELSE.
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You must be Brad Pitt, or George Clooney, or Johnny Depp then eh?
 
Dude, you just need to set the girl down and tell you love her, but...

- No offense, but my first love is Pool and you knew this going into everything.

- If she has any passions, she can hopefully understand your position if you were to ask the same of her or what she would do if she had more time.

- Now... it comes time to discuss compromise! If you love this girl and WANT to be with her and a family with her daughter as well, then you do need to make 'some' compromises my friend.

- If after the discussion of compromises and how your passion for pool is part of your very true soul and being doesn't move her to ease up and let you be yourself at least 'some', then you have to THEN re-evaluate what you want to do.

Man, you have to understand that if/when you take on a family, then you also have to share responsibilities of taking care of the kids and so on...

I would tell her she can go out and do her thing while you take care of her daughter on 'x' nights and vice versa for you on your pool nights and you'll just have to learn to meet in the middle man.

Welcome to family life and no longer being a single pool player! You can make it work dude, you just have to try and not resent her for as you love her and she has to respect who you are and what you love in addition to her and her daughter. :)

GOOD LUCK MATE! :smile:
 
Here is something that you guys can all believe...

This part of an interview with Nicholas Sparks, for all of you that don't know who he is, he is the award winning author of all those books your girls go ga-ga over. He wrote The Notebook and tons of other ones, including the book that new movie out now is from 'Dear John'...

Paula K. Parker: "What words of encouragement would you say to couples who are struggling with their relationship?"

Nicholas Sparks: "The secret to a happy marriage is extraordinarily simple, but it requires both parties to take part. The secret to a happy marriage is this: find out what the most important things are to your spouse and you do them. That only works if your spouse does them back.

For my wife, it's very important to her that I hold her hand and sit next to her on the couch and watch, Trading Spaces. That I spend a lot of time with the kids. That I sit and listen to her talk, and not necessarily about anything important. These things are very very important to my wife. So, I do them.

Then I have things that I like to do. I like to spend time with my wife doing fun things. I think exercising is fun. She makes time to do that, to do whatever it is, going to ball games; go fishing. Whatever it is, she does recreational stuff with me. I have a list of five things that are very important and she does too. I do hers, and she does mine, and we both feel like we're getting the most out of marriage as we possibly can.

It's very simple. Most people make it way too complicated."

P.S. - Maybe things she might like, such as taking her to movies and stuff like this would do wonders for her being easy going about what you like more often :smile:
 
Well have you gotten enough input yet?

:angry:Over 100 opinions?

Do your thing or you will not be happy.

Women cannot change men. Hopefully you will realize that before you go ALL IN.

Good Luck:angry::angry::angry::angry:
 
I agree Mark... You shouldn't go for someone who wants to 'change' you, but if they are FAIR, then your proposal of equal compromises should put her at ease and calm the storm for now. At least then you'll have a ground to stand on and ammunition for the next time it's brought up.
 
PeoriaPool said:
Here is something that you guys can all believe...

This part of an interview with Nicholas Sparks, for all of you that don't know who he is, he is the award winning author of all those books your girls go ga-ga over. He wrote The Notebook and tons of other ones, including the book that new movie out now is from 'Dear John'...

Paula K. Parker: "What words of encouragement would you say to couples who are struggling with their relationship?"

Nicholas Sparks: "The secret to a happy marriage is extraordinarily simple, but it requires both parties to take part. The secret to a happy marriage is this: find out what the most important things are to your spouse and you do them. That only works if your spouse does them back.

For my wife, it's very important to her that I hold her hand and sit next to her on the couch and watch, Trading Spaces. That I spend a lot of time with the kids. That I sit and listen to her talk, and not necessarily about anything important. These things are very very important to my wife. So, I do them.

Then I have things that I like to do. I like to spend time with my wife doing fun things. I think exercising is fun. She makes time to do that, to do whatever it is, going to ball games; go fishing. Whatever it is, she does recreational stuff with me. I have a list of five things that are very important and she does too. I do hers, and she does mine, and we both feel like we're getting the most out of marriage as we possibly can.

It's very simple. Most people make it way too complicated."

P.S. - Maybe things she might like, such as taking her to movies and stuff like this would do wonders for her being easy going about what you like more often :smile:
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Thanks for sharing this! Words to live by for any couple.
 
TAP said:
Oh Yeah! Been there, done that! I think I was born with a pool cue in my hand. I can't remember the first time I tried to hit a ball with a cue.
I met this lovely lady, and we hit it off from the day one! The first time she came into my home, she saw a very expensive Olhausen custom table sitting in a custom built game room with all kinds of billiard memorabilia on the walls. Her first response was, "I see you play pool" (duh...) About five months into the relationship I got the big whammy...."You love that damn game more than you love me". Whoa! My response was, "Pool is a game. I love you, and that will never change. However, pool is my passion; a part of my life. It is as much a part of me as my job, my family.
I don't smoke, abuse alcohol or drugs, nor do I abuse women or children. I feel I'm a pretty decent guy. If you can't live with my passion, I'm sorry."
That was the end of the conversation. My wife now plays pool every Wed nite on a league team, and enjoys the game for what it is, plus the commeradry of our extended pool family. DON'T cave in. You will be nothing but sorry in the end.
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Tap Tap TAP! When you said that, she knew she had the right man. She would have been foolish not to. I bet she was all in after that. You just ran nine racks on her. :thumbup:
 
pool vs girlfriend

If you want to play pool 24/7 then just don't have a girlfriend. No girl out of her right mind would let you play pool whenever you damn well please.
What you need to do is find a new hobby. Just dont play as much as you do. Will it kill you? Will you die if you absolutely can not play pool 5 nights a week?
She has a kid, do you want to be a rolemodel for her children? Is is good that you are always leaving their mother to go out and play pool?
Take your pick pool or a relationship?
Will you get laid at pool? If that doesnt matter, leave the girl and let her find a good man who works and spends time at home with the family. Do her a favor and let her find a better man than you, one that cares for her.
Why don't you buy yourself a pool table. Maybe you can't afford one because your a pool player.
We all need to make sacrifices in life and make compromises. Why can't you just compromise instead of wanting to do only what you want.
 
poolplyrsrloser said:
If you want to play pool 24/7 then just don't have a girlfriend. No girl out of her right mind would let you play pool whenever you damn well please.
What you need to do is find a new hobby. Just dont play as much as you do. Will it kill you? Will you die if you absolutely can not play pool 5 nights a week?
She has a kid, do you want to be a rolemodel for her children? Is is good that you are always leaving their mother to go out and play pool?
Take your pick pool or a relationship?
Will you get laid at pool? If that doesnt matter, leave the girl and let her find a good man who works and spends time at home with the family. Do her a favor and let her find a better man than you, one that cares for her.
Why don't you buy yourself a pool table. Maybe you can't afford one because your a pool player.
We all need to make sacrifices in life and make compromises. Why can't you just compromise instead of wanting to do only what you want.
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Hmmmm, nice user name ...... just joined huh?.... this is your first post huh? ... It's been 3-weeks since the last post ???


BTW, I do have my own table.. but I like to play other people.

... oh, and as an update, I've cut down my playing to 3-nights a week now
 
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poolplyrsrloser said:
If you want to play pool 24/7 then just don't have a girlfriend. No girl out of her right mind would let you play pool whenever you damn well please.
What you need to do is find a new hobby. Just dont play as much as you do. Will it kill you? Will you die if you absolutely can not play pool 5 nights a week?
She has a kid, do you want to be a rolemodel for her children? Is is good that you are always leaving their mother to go out and play pool?
Take your pick pool or a relationship?
Will you get laid at pool? If that doesnt matter, leave the girl and let her find a good man who works and spends time at home with the family. Do her a favor and let her find a better man than you, one that cares for her.
Why don't you buy yourself a pool table. Maybe you can't afford one because your a pool player.
We all need to make sacrifices in life and make compromises. Why can't you just compromise instead of wanting to do only what you want.
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DAMMMMMMMMNNNNN tell him how you really feel! Maybe this is her baby daddy:eek:
 
JustinHayes said:
Hmmmm, nice user name ...... just joined huh?.... this is your first post huh? ... It's been 3-weeks since the last post ???


BTW, I do have my own table.. but I like to play other people.

... oh, and as an update, I've cut down my playing to 3-nights a week now
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Lol love all the non biased views and opinions, btw you missed a pretty good turn out last night in princeton.
 
Who says you can't do both?

Play pool the nights you do not see her. Believe me that once you move in together, you'll wish you didn't see her everyday. You'll get tired of each other because of different value system.

Save the trouble and heartache...date her now and just keep playing pool until you break up and look for the next girlfriend.

Plenty of women out there without another man's kid.
 
Cody003 said:
Lol love all the non biased views and opinions, btw you missed a pretty good turn out last night in princeton.
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LOL... I know, right!

Yeah, I would have gone to princeton, but I'm trying to limit my pool playing .. HAHAHA Who won?

It's good to see you finally posting Cody! I'm honored that you chose my thread for your first one ;)

Are ya ready to play us tonight? I won't throw off and play a 1 on ya this time
 
8ballEinstein said:
So you see, I ain't going to compromise for anyone, not even Kim Kardashian ............. well OK, maybe for Kim Kardashian .......... and possibly for Megan Fox ............ and I might for Scarlett Johannson ......... and ... I guess I could think of a few others ................... BUT ABSOLUTELY NO ONE ELSE.
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yeah, maybe i'd give each one of those 4 or 5 months of no pool, until i got tired of putting up with their shit. good taste in women by the way!!
 
Im ready but unfortunately i may be throwing off on you tonight and I understand the reason you couldnt make it i havent talked to her much but I think she's a keeper. Good luck!
 
Cody003 said:
i havent talked to her much but I think she's a keeper. Good luck!
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Yeah, she defineately is a keeper....

you may get to talk to her tonight.... I may put her up on you... (at least she's double the SL as the last one I put up on you ):grin-square:
 
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