How to Convince Your Spouse....
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I just set up a direct deposit allotment of about $150 into another account until I had enough to buy what I wanted... or convinced a seller to take $150/month payments on what I wanted. It's much easier that way... it's easy on the wallet and easier to get the wife to agree to it.
My system...
We plan a yearly trip to Vegas. The deal is....we both get a budget for gambling of ~$2500, and anything that is left over that we don't lose -- we get to buy whatever we want with.
For the last three years, my wife has lost every dime of her money. The last two years, I actually came home with $800-$900 in winnings -- so I've been able to buy 1-2 nice cues each year for the last few years with no complaints.
We plan a yearly trip to Vegas. The deal is....we both get a budget for gambling of ~$2500, and anything that is left over that we don't lose -- we get to buy whatever we want with.
For the last three years, my wife has lost every dime of her money. The last two years, I actually came home with $800-$900 in winnings -- so I've been able to buy 1-2 nice cues each year for the last few years with no complaints.
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coryjeb said:So... I get ready to pull the trigger on a nice Josey from Marcus, let the wife know as a courtesy (probably first mistake) and start a war. This was unexpected, as we are in no financial trouble or anything and have disposable income. She says "why do you need another cue"... open ended, she didn't want an answer. I keep a $40 dufferin sneaky at the bar I shoot at, which I like just fine and a few other lower end production type cues, nothing fancy or expensive. Her argument is that I like my cheap Dufferin, why do I need a $xxx cue. Of course, I have no quick reply that makes sense.
So, what I'm getting at is this... I really have no other "hobbies" so it's not like I drop tons of money into golf, hunting, ect. Those of you that move cues, Do you keep the wife out of it completely? So filthy rich it doesn't matter? Tell her to just p*ss off? Any comments/advice/tricks are welcome, BTW I'm man enough to hear "don't be a p*ssy", which sure I'll get a few...
Just contact me. I know all the tricks when it comes to this sorta of thing.
Irish634 said:LMAO. bnall you should write a book. It'd be a best seller!
Great idea, and it would sell.
coryjeb said:So... I get ready to pull the trigger on a nice Josey from Marcus, let the wife know as a courtesy (probably first mistake) and start a war. This was unexpected, as we are in no financial trouble or anything and have disposable income. She says "why do you need another cue"... open ended, she didn't want an answer. I keep a $40 dufferin sneaky at the bar I shoot at, which I like just fine and a few other lower end production type cues, nothing fancy or expensive. Her argument is that I like my cheap Dufferin, why do I need a $xxx cue. Of course, I have no quick reply that makes sense.
So, what I'm getting at is this... I really have no other "hobbies" so it's not like I drop tons of money into golf, hunting, ect. Those of you that move cues, Do you keep the wife out of it completely? So filthy rich it doesn't matter? Tell her to just p*ss off? Any comments/advice/tricks are welcome, BTW I'm man enough to hear "don't be a p*ssy", which sure I'll get a few...
It's Easy
... 1st...buy the cue. Then sit her down, look into her eye and tell her something very bad has happened... When she finds out it was just the purchase of a pool cue... she will be relieved. You may have to sleep on the porch for a few days with your new cue... but it's well worth it!!! 
Lots of funny responses, but if you seriously want advice try this. Take pool out of the conversation entirely. Have a discussion about each of you having the right to spend x dollars per year on your hobbies--doesn't matter what they are. If you don't have financial troubles that shouldn't be a problem. Once you've reached agreement on the amount, there shouldn't be any need for ongoing discussion about the details--you'll just have to be on the honor system in keeping to the agreed upon limit. Once you're buying and selling cues, the net outlay should be manageable.coryjeb said:So... I get ready to pull the trigger on a nice Josey from Marcus, let the wife know as a courtesy (probably first mistake) and start a war. This was unexpected, as we are in no financial trouble or anything and have disposable income. She says "why do you need another cue"... open ended, she didn't want an answer. I keep a $40 dufferin sneaky at the bar I shoot at, which I like just fine and a few other lower end production type cues, nothing fancy or expensive. Her argument is that I like my cheap Dufferin, why do I need a $xxx cue. Of course, I have no quick reply that makes sense.
So, what I'm getting at is this... I really have no other "hobbies" so it's not like I drop tons of money into golf, hunting, ect. Those of you that move cues, Do you keep the wife out of it completely? So filthy rich it doesn't matter? Tell her to just p*ss off? Any comments/advice/tricks are welcome, BTW I'm man enough to hear "don't be a p*ssy", which sure I'll get a few...
Wives don't usually check out our cues and can't tell one from the other so this is simple.Get the cue maker to have the receipt say ("Insert CUE MAKER NAME" make a wish foundation). They just have to put amount paid and a reference number for their records. How can she be angry thinking you help make someone's dream come true
"the Quorum Approach"
The best way to approach this sort of situation is with what I like to call "the Quorum Approach". This is an approach that I took with my much needed collection of expensive fly rods.
1. you start collecting a bunch of inexpensive rods from your buddies or K-Mart, whatever.
2. you leave them out, openly displayed in a very conspicuous area of the house.
3. make a point of talking about them with your wife and pointing out how little they cost you.
4. once you have 4 or more in the pile you are now approaching "Quorum Level". You can now start replacing those with the real expensive keepers as your wife will not notice whether or not there are more or less rods over in the corner.
She will just be glad if you clean up the f'ing mess in the corner and stop talking to her about your shit.
This system works wonderfully with any type of expensive hobby, that it is your right as a man, to indulge in.
go forth and enjoy...you are man..hear you Roar!
The best way to approach this sort of situation is with what I like to call "the Quorum Approach". This is an approach that I took with my much needed collection of expensive fly rods.
1. you start collecting a bunch of inexpensive rods from your buddies or K-Mart, whatever.
2. you leave them out, openly displayed in a very conspicuous area of the house.
3. make a point of talking about them with your wife and pointing out how little they cost you.
4. once you have 4 or more in the pile you are now approaching "Quorum Level". You can now start replacing those with the real expensive keepers as your wife will not notice whether or not there are more or less rods over in the corner.
She will just be glad if you clean up the f'ing mess in the corner and stop talking to her about your shit.
This system works wonderfully with any type of expensive hobby, that it is your right as a man, to indulge in.
go forth and enjoy...you are man..hear you Roar!
The shock and awe #$%$# technique
Debatable if you should have mentioned it in advance or just came home with it. Either way, act thrilled and say something along the lines of "Honey, I found a great deal . . . . or honey, look at what I got for just $$$$." Name a price at least five or six times what the item actually costs. Let your wife hit the ceiling and cut laps around the molding for a few minutes and then tell her the real price. She will be so relieved that you didn't really spend what you first claimed that she will cool off in a hurry. Always worked for me.
Hu
coryjeb said:
Debatable if you should have mentioned it in advance or just came home with it. Either way, act thrilled and say something along the lines of "Honey, I found a great deal . . . . or honey, look at what I got for just $$$$." Name a price at least five or six times what the item actually costs. Let your wife hit the ceiling and cut laps around the molding for a few minutes and then tell her the real price. She will be so relieved that you didn't really spend what you first claimed that she will cool off in a hurry. Always worked for me.
Hu
Guy's need to buy "TOYS" a couple times a year, the girl's need this pampering as well. Life is too short to fight over small purchases a couple times a year. (As long as you can afford them)
Consider it mental therapy! My collection of these toys, purchased over the past 15 years, keeps me out of her hair and entertained.
Consider it mental therapy! My collection of these toys, purchased over the past 15 years, keeps me out of her hair and entertained.