How to Convince Your Spouse....
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You are jumping the gun... "After leaving your wife did anyone have money remaining for cue purchase" is his next thread.
How about you all just man up and quit this "Cat and mouse" bullshit? You have a job? You make money? Bills paid? Get what you want, then...
I think before buying a cue you should buy a ball extractor and see if you can't recover them from her purse, first....
I think before buying a cue you should buy a ball extractor and see if you can't recover them from her purse, first....
Okay, from a woman's point of view...
Well, you could do like most women...just buy it and hide it until you can safely integrate it in with your other cues. Most women hide their 'unauthorized' purchases in the trunk of the car...but I wouldn't recommend that with the Josey.
Women can be pretty crafty when it comes to hiding things...LoL.
In my case...my ol' man tolerates my cue purchases...not that I make all that many in comparison to many here...lol. He also is a player, and so understands finding that cue that instills the confidence for you to play better. He is also very proud of the fact that his ol' lady plays pretty well, and so supports my playing 100%. I am lucky that way.
I have discussed all my cue purchases with him. He also knows that, in most cases in the past, that I have traded or sold a cue in order to help finance the purchase of another...but that is not always the case. But that is also the extent of my spending...I do not collect jewelry, nick nacks, shoes, clothing, etc. Also, I do not go out, unless it's a league or tournament night.
Women are all about the 'justification' of a purchase. If you bring her a good enough justification, she'll be hard-pressed to deny it.
BTW....that Josey is an outstanding choice! I cannot even begin to tell you what one of Keith's cues did for my game...immediately...it was almost freakish...lol. That cue is an excellent investment, from the standpoint that you will do pretty well with it should you ever decide to part with it. There's part of your justification right there!
BTW...and this applies for both men and women....they'll get glad in the same clothes they got mad in.
Lisa
Well, you could do like most women...just buy it and hide it until you can safely integrate it in with your other cues. Most women hide their 'unauthorized' purchases in the trunk of the car...but I wouldn't recommend that with the Josey.
Women can be pretty crafty when it comes to hiding things...LoL.In my case...my ol' man tolerates my cue purchases...not that I make all that many in comparison to many here...lol. He also is a player, and so understands finding that cue that instills the confidence for you to play better. He is also very proud of the fact that his ol' lady plays pretty well, and so supports my playing 100%. I am lucky that way.
I have discussed all my cue purchases with him. He also knows that, in most cases in the past, that I have traded or sold a cue in order to help finance the purchase of another...but that is not always the case. But that is also the extent of my spending...I do not collect jewelry, nick nacks, shoes, clothing, etc. Also, I do not go out, unless it's a league or tournament night.
Women are all about the 'justification' of a purchase. If you bring her a good enough justification, she'll be hard-pressed to deny it.
BTW....that Josey is an outstanding choice! I cannot even begin to tell you what one of Keith's cues did for my game...immediately...it was almost freakish...lol. That cue is an excellent investment, from the standpoint that you will do pretty well with it should you ever decide to part with it. There's part of your justification right there!
BTW...and this applies for both men and women....they'll get glad in the same clothes they got mad in.
Lisa
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1pRoscoe said:
Bet the above member has the last word at home.
honey can I come out from under the bed now?
Last week I saw a cue I wanted in the for sale forum. When I got home, I carefully bided my time. Eventually, I mentioned that I had a horrible dilemma, then quickly left the room. A few minutes later, I returned and she immediately asked what the dilemma was. I told her, just a minute, I gotta go have a cigarette. When I came back, she was still chomping at the bit. I told her I found a cue that I really liked made by a very reputable maker that was held in high regard in the pool community. I told her that I had seen the cue for sale before Christmas but that I knew we couldn't afford it then and probably couldn't now either, but it just seemed like fate that the same cue would be for sale again so soon with me liking it so much and all. Next thing I know she's falling all over herself trying to figure out a way to buy it. "Tell him you'll send 2/3 now and the rest next Thursday", (payday) she was telling me.
If you tell them you have a problem and need help solving it, they'll help you solve it. If you just throw it out there, the s*** will hit the fan.
If you tell them you have a problem and need help solving it, they'll help you solve it. If you just throw it out there, the s*** will hit the fan.
I never involve my wife in these important matters, because I don't have one. Girlfriends don't care what cue you buy, as long as you let them play with it.
And y'all call yourself pool players....LOL
Just tell her..."But honey...I am gong to win all the money back anyway"
Or.
Yea honey, I know I like that dufferen.....for 9-ball, but this new cue is set up more for straight pool and 1-pocket....You want me to be competative....Dont you?
Just tell her..."But honey...I am gong to win all the money back anyway"
Or.
Yea honey, I know I like that dufferen.....for 9-ball, but this new cue is set up more for straight pool and 1-pocket....You want me to be competative....Dont you?
1pRoscoe said:
Roscoe has got it right on the nose.
Just like I said you have your obligations taken care of get what you want. Life is too short to be walkin around with your tail between your legs.
Some of you other fella's ought to pay attention to Roscoes parting remark....
You know who you are....
Banger
wreck-o-nize......DelaWho??? said:
If you're having a difficult time with a cue alone, how much of the other things that go on do you feel as if you need to get permission for? I mean - I know there needs to be joint discussion on a lot of big ticket purchases, but if you have savings, bills paid, and discretionary income, don't be a little vagina about buying something you want....
Typically the ones that have this problem also have a difficult time asking if they they can go have a beer after work with a few coworkers, too...
Respect her and she'll respect you. Let her walk all over you and you'll be a munich for life....
-Ross
#1 - has a wife that doesn't care what I buy
#2 - keeps a stong pimp hand
#3 - hope she doesn't see this...
There shouldn't be an issue of convincing your spouse of ALLOWING you to purchase a new cue. If the new cue isn't some mundane pc. of wood then you should be given leeway on this issue.
Here are some helpers:
Did you buy her the cheapest diamond you could find? Probably not.
Do you take her to the cheapest restaurants you can find? Prob. not.
Do you insist that she buy the cheapest clothes that YOU can find? Not
Did you buy her the smallest cheapest home you could find? Not
Same goes for her car, and on and on.
Are you some sort of a bum that sit's around the house all day and can't seem to find a job? Prob. not
I'm sure this will help you think of other things but this is a start.
And in the end don't you really really think you deserve to have this special cue. Afterall over a life time of loving her, what's the real value of the cue spread over the next 25 years or so of loving bliss.
When you can combine pool cues with love; what else is there? Now go in peace and enjoy your new cue.
Here are some helpers:
Did you buy her the cheapest diamond you could find? Probably not.
Do you take her to the cheapest restaurants you can find? Prob. not.
Do you insist that she buy the cheapest clothes that YOU can find? Not
Did you buy her the smallest cheapest home you could find? Not
Same goes for her car, and on and on.
Are you some sort of a bum that sit's around the house all day and can't seem to find a job? Prob. not
I'm sure this will help you think of other things but this is a start.
And in the end don't you really really think you deserve to have this special cue. Afterall over a life time of loving her, what's the real value of the cue spread over the next 25 years or so of loving bliss.
When you can combine pool cues with love; what else is there? Now go in peace and enjoy your new cue.
You may be on to something, as this is what I do, if she sees a new cue at the front door, or packaging, I just tell her I traded a cue. With the last cue, I had it shipped to my work, when I got home I left the cue in the car for a few minutes while I ran inside and got my case, took the new cue out of the box, snuck it in my case, and disposed of the box and packaging at the poolhall. It was my Xmas present to myself. I came across this, and thought how fitting.Catahula said:The best way to approach this sort of situation is with what I like to call "the Quorum Approach". This is an approach that I took with my much needed collection of expensive fly rods.
1. you start collecting a bunch of inexpensive rods from your buddies or K-Mart, whatever.
2. you leave them out, openly displayed in a very conspicuous area of the house.
3. make a point of talking about them with your wife and pointing out how little they cost you.
4. once you have 4 or more in the pile you are now approaching "Quorum Level". You can now start replacing those with the real expensive keepers as your wife will not notice whether or not there are more or less rods over in the corner.
She will just be glad if you clean up the f'ing mess in the corner and stop talking to her about your shit.
This system works wonderfully with any type of expensive hobby, that it is your right as a man, to indulge in.
go forth and enjoy...you are man..hear you Roar!
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coryjeb said:So... I get ready to pull the trigger on a nice Josey from Marcus, let the wife know as a courtesy (probably first mistake) and start a war. This was unexpected, as we are in no financial trouble or anything and have disposable income. She says "why do you need another cue"... open ended, she didn't want an answer. I keep a $40 dufferin sneaky at the bar I shoot at, which I like just fine and a few other lower end production type cues, nothing fancy or expensive. Her argument is that I like my cheap Dufferin, why do I need a $xxx cue. Of course, I have no quick reply that makes sense.
So, what I'm getting at is this... I really have no other "hobbies" so it's not like I drop tons of money into golf, hunting, ect. Those of you that move cues, Do you keep the wife out of it completely? So filthy rich it doesn't matter? Tell her to just p*ss off? Any comments/advice/tricks are welcome, BTW I'm man enough to hear "don't be a p*ssy", which sure I'll get a few...
Major rule infraction here.
Just buy it. SOmetimes it is easier to ask forgiveness than permission.