How to explain a Cue purchase to the GF/wife
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JoeyA said:
Whoa! Back the truck up here!! I happen to know that #2 and #3 go hand in hand, with regards to Ross. He treats his wife very well. He busts a lot of a$$ to take care of his family, and their 'needs'....and not once has he ever mentioned her having an 'issue' with his passion.
I would most certainly NOT call Ross a wimp! :nono:
Lisa
I consider myself lucky that my ol' man indulges me. I am a mere slouch when compared to others and their cues, but none the less, he is pretty okay with it, as long as the funds are there and it will not impact the overall finances.
When I had a better job than now, I made sure that everyone in the family got their cues. They did not want or require anything 'fancy' or worth a whole lot, as in general, they do not play as much as I do...and in the case of the ol' man...well, he does not take the greatest care of his cue. His shaft is like a beaver got at it...LoL.
I find that honesty is just the best policy. I do not do all that much in the way of buying, but he is made aware when I am going to. I have a purchase coming in a few years, and he knows it will be a bit more than I usually spend on a cue, but he also understands that I have been waiting a long time, and have a bit more to wait, and that the end result will be more than worth it to me. He just wants me to be happy. :thumbup:
Lisa
When I had a better job than now, I made sure that everyone in the family got their cues. They did not want or require anything 'fancy' or worth a whole lot, as in general, they do not play as much as I do...and in the case of the ol' man...well, he does not take the greatest care of his cue. His shaft is like a beaver got at it...LoL.
I find that honesty is just the best policy. I do not do all that much in the way of buying, but he is made aware when I am going to. I have a purchase coming in a few years, and he knows it will be a bit more than I usually spend on a cue, but he also understands that I have been waiting a long time, and have a bit more to wait, and that the end result will be more than worth it to me. He just wants me to be happy. :thumbup:
Lisa
ridewiththewind said:
Dazzling your wife with lots of traffic (repairs, trades etc) so that you can "cover" the fact that you are buying a new cue is WHIMPSKI.
I don't doubt that Roscoe treats his wife well and that he takes care of his family. That's probably why his wife overlooks his charade.
JoeyA
Hey, I was just giving an idea for others.... My repairs are very minimal...JoeyA said:Dazzling your wife with lots of traffic (repairs, trades etc) so that you can "cover" the fact that you are buying a new cue is WHIMPSKI.
I don't doubt that Roscoe treats his wife well and that he takes care of his family. That's probably why his wife overlooks his charade.
JoeyA
-Ross
has bought more Coach purses than the average man....
Give Something in return.
I find that as my wife and I are both working and bringing in the bread all I do when I am ready to purchase new equipment like my new Dubliner cue and Talisman cue case I make sure that she get's something nice as well.
In this case she got a very nice diamond ring and it turns out to be a
win/win scenario.
Cheers.
Paul
I find that as my wife and I are both working and bringing in the bread all I do when I am ready to purchase new equipment like my new Dubliner cue and Talisman cue case I make sure that she get's something nice as well.
In this case she got a very nice diamond ring and it turns out to be a
win/win scenario.
Cheers.
Paul
If you are passionate about playing pool then who cares what people think about what you spend on your cue. If you shoot pool often and take care of your cue or cues you will have them for a lifetime. Much better investment than a car if you ask me! And if you play in any tournaments or are in any local leagues there are opportunuities for you to make that money back.
DONT LET ANY WOMAN OR PERSON FOR THAT MATTER HOLD YOU BACK ABOUT YOUR PURCHASES.
DONT LET ANY WOMAN OR PERSON FOR THAT MATTER HOLD YOU BACK ABOUT YOUR PURCHASES.
I just recently started buying a few more cues. Nothing fancy, and very far from the $9k customs. (some day!) Other than the cues i've had for years, my first cue purchase was a McDermott Navigator II for about $100 from one pawn shop, and a few weeks later I picked up a Predator 1996 first edition 314-2 ( I still get confused why that cue's model name is the same as their next shaft.. ) for about $60.
I told my wife that i would like to get a cue in the $500 dollar range. Still small potatoes for most of the collecting community, but I have always liked Schon cues and really would like to own one. I initally started setting aside any cash I would bring in from side jobs or any loose change. We joke about my 'play money' jar and she knows that this money is set aside for me to buy things that may seem a little extravagant.
She went with me to a local cue shop since she wanted to buy me a new case for my birthday. I started shooting all of the various cues they have there and found myself paying alot of attention to a Schon Elite they had. Needless to say she would have been fine with me paying the $1200 or whatever it cost just because she knows what it means to me.
I didnt buy the cue because I didnt have that much money in my little savings at that time. However we did have a good discussion about family priorities, and self indulging. She understands that I could simply go out and buy whatever I want and simply demand that we adjust accordingly. However since my love for my wife will never be matched by anything I could buy, I find that working with her to find out what our mutual comfort level is when it comes to spending makes everyone happier.
As far as my advice to the OP, I think alot of how you talk to your wife or girlfriend about this type of purchase really depends on your relationship. From this thread you have seen a wide spectrum of how different wives react differently to purchases. One idea would actually be to have her read this thread. I think the fact that your putting thought into how to the right way to negotiate or justify a purchase should say alot.
I told my wife that i would like to get a cue in the $500 dollar range. Still small potatoes for most of the collecting community, but I have always liked Schon cues and really would like to own one. I initally started setting aside any cash I would bring in from side jobs or any loose change. We joke about my 'play money' jar and she knows that this money is set aside for me to buy things that may seem a little extravagant.
She went with me to a local cue shop since she wanted to buy me a new case for my birthday. I started shooting all of the various cues they have there and found myself paying alot of attention to a Schon Elite they had. Needless to say she would have been fine with me paying the $1200 or whatever it cost just because she knows what it means to me.
I didnt buy the cue because I didnt have that much money in my little savings at that time. However we did have a good discussion about family priorities, and self indulging. She understands that I could simply go out and buy whatever I want and simply demand that we adjust accordingly. However since my love for my wife will never be matched by anything I could buy, I find that working with her to find out what our mutual comfort level is when it comes to spending makes everyone happier.
As far as my advice to the OP, I think alot of how you talk to your wife or girlfriend about this type of purchase really depends on your relationship. From this thread you have seen a wide spectrum of how different wives react differently to purchases. One idea would actually be to have her read this thread. I think the fact that your putting thought into how to the right way to negotiate or justify a purchase should say alot.
Purdman said:
Is that a nag?
This isn't difficult, no need for explanations or excuses or lies.
If you are employed and have everything taken care of, like food, a house the bills paid, college fund for the kids, retirement fund for you, etc and you have the money left over to buy a cue, go for it. You work hard for your money, you have taken care of your obligations and responsibilities and you should feel good that you have the disposable income to buy the cue.
If you don't meet the above criteria and you are not in the cue business, then you shouldn't consider buying something you cannot afford. If you must pay for it with a credit card, you should not be buying it unless you are capable of paying the card off when the bill arrives.
If you have to explain this to your partner, then your partner is only interested in controlling your behavior in a manner they have no right to.
Once again if you aren't meeting your obligations or must go into debt you can't quickly pay off, look for something you can afford, or use a house stick.
If you are employed and have everything taken care of, like food, a house the bills paid, college fund for the kids, retirement fund for you, etc and you have the money left over to buy a cue, go for it. You work hard for your money, you have taken care of your obligations and responsibilities and you should feel good that you have the disposable income to buy the cue.
If you don't meet the above criteria and you are not in the cue business, then you shouldn't consider buying something you cannot afford. If you must pay for it with a credit card, you should not be buying it unless you are capable of paying the card off when the bill arrives.
If you have to explain this to your partner, then your partner is only interested in controlling your behavior in a manner they have no right to.
Once again if you aren't meeting your obligations or must go into debt you can't quickly pay off, look for something you can afford, or use a house stick.
DelaWho??? said:This isn't difficult, no need for explanations or excuses or lies.
If you are employed and have everything taken care of, like food, a house the bills paid, college fund for the kids, retirement fund for you, etc and you have the money left over to buy a cue, go for it. You work hard for your money, you have taken care of your obligations and responsibilities and you should feel good that you have the disposable income to buy the cue.
If you don't meet the above criteria and you are not in the cue business, then you shouldn't consider buying something you cannot afford. If you must pay for it with a credit card, you should not be buying it unless you are capable of paying the card off when the bill arrives.
Once again if you aren't meeting your obligations or must go into debt you can't quickly pay off, look for something you can afford, or use a house stick.
Financially and philosophically speaking we are cut from the same cloth.
The secret of successful money management is to spend less than you make.
Buying items on credit cards and not paying them off as soon as the statement arrives means you are a glutton for punishment.
JoeyA