Life....The Thing That Happens Between Tournaments

BasementDweller

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You ever feel like you live in two totally different worlds simultaneously? I do.

There's the pool world and the real world, and just like the old George Costanza character, I feel like the two worlds should never be combined. For me, it's probably best that they don't. At least it seems to be working for me now.

I've really enjoyed the last couple of years playing pool, not that I've really played all that much, at least not compared to those that play a lot. I've just gone to a handful of weekend tournaments. Most of which have been large state type bar table events and while I know many people don't consider bar table pool to be "real pool" I certainly have enjoyed the challenge and I've really gotten to like bar table 8 ball in the process.

But anyway…

Here’s how it goes: You say goodbye to the wife and the kiddos and head off to the tournament location. While driving, you think about real life stuff like your upcoming family vacation, or you think about your kids and how they are doing at school. You think about your wife and how much she loves pool. Okay maybe you don’t think about that last one but at least the others are legit. Then you look down at your instrument panel and you realize that your service engine soon light is on….still. It’s only been on for about a year now. Your mind just gets flooded with all these thoughts.

Then you finally get there, pull into the parking lot, shut off the engine, grab your cues and head for the door.

Once you're inside one of these places, it's like you stepped foot into a whole different world. A world that's full of the same cast of characters every time -- even if they have different names and faces, although, most assuredly you will see many of the same people. If you are lucky enough to go to the same venue year after year, it almost begins to seem like time is standing still. You KNOW that you left here a year ago, but now you're back and everyone is in their same place. The tournament directors are still scurrying around trying to sort everything out. All the players are still huddled around trying to find their name listed on the tournament chart. And all the while, in the background you hear the heavenly sounds of the balls colliding into one another. Nothing has changed.

You enter into this world for a few days with most of life's worries out of your mind. It's all pool - all the time and you just take it all in.

Next thing you know, it’s finished. Just like that! Where did the time go? It seems impossible that the tournament is already over. You spent several days there and it seems like it was only a dream. For a few days for the pool players time stood still but as soon as you walk out into the parking lot you see traffic and you see people coming and going. For them, life never even slowed down, let alone stopped. So, you get all packed up and hit the road, heading back to your other life. You’re greeted by the sight of your service engine soon light. You may have gone somewhere for a few days but it didn't. It's still there.

It seems like life is that thing that happens between pool tournaments.

Tell me I’m not the only one that feels this way.
 
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This is pretty much dead on as far as I am concerned. It's a time capsule that you have hidden away and only visit a few times a year at most.
 
I agree with that. I usually don't tell people I play pool unless they're pool players themselves or have known me for a long time. It's just difficult for people to wrap their heads around something that intensive. On the other hand, I have certain pool player acquaintances that have other things in common with me or that I know through non pool playing friends so it's not always black and white.
 
Your comments are true with me.

The last couple years I have taken the time to make notes on my performance while at a regional tourny. When I go back and review them that 2nd world feeling creeps back. Yep it's like two separate worlds for me also.
 
Breaking Bad...........

Basement Dweller,

You did a great job writing about this DID phenomena. It reminds me of the song by The Eagles, "Hotel California".

I like the way you wrote that opening to the thread.

------------------

"Hotel California"

On a dark desert highway, cool wind in my hair
Warm smell of colitas, rising up through the air
Up ahead in the distance, I saw a shimmering light
My head grew heavy and my sight grew dim
I had to stop for the night
There she stood in the doorway;
I heard the mission bell
And I was thinking to myself,
"This could be Heaven or this could be Hell"
Then she lit up a candle and she showed me the way
There were voices down the corridor,
I thought I heard them say...

Welcome to the Hotel California
Such a lovely place (Such a lovely place)
Such a lovely face
Plenty of room at the Hotel California
Any time of year (Any time of year)
You can find it here

Her mind is Tiffany-twisted, she got the Mercedes bends
She got a lot of pretty, pretty boys she calls friends
How they dance in the courtyard, sweet summer sweat.
Some dance to remember, some dance to forget

So I called up the Captain,
"Please bring me my wine"
He said, "We haven't had that spirit here since nineteen sixty nine"
And still those voices are calling from far away,
Wake you up in the middle of the night
Just to hear them say...

Welcome to the Hotel California
Such a lovely place (Such a lovely place)
Such a lovely face
They livin' it up at the Hotel California
What a nice surprise (what a nice surprise)
Bring your alibis

Mirrors on the ceiling,
The pink champagne on ice
And she said "We are all just prisoners here, of our own device"
And in the master's chambers,
They gathered for the feast
They stab it with their steely knives,
But they just can't kill the beast

Last thing I remember, I was
Running for the door
I had to find the passage back
To the place I was before
"Relax, " said the night man,
"We are programmed to receive.
You can check-out any time you like,
But you can never leave!
"


And yeah, I feel that way too.

Two separate lives for decades, but now after so many years of keeping the two personas apart, one of them keeps on fighting to take over the other and I don't know if I can or want to stop him this time.

JoeyA
 
Real life and pool life and rarely the twain meet.

Sometimes a neighbor will see me in the garage with my case slung over my shoulder; one time someone who knew I played asked me over to try out their new 8' foot home table and asked if I knew any trick shots.

That's about it.

Lou Figueroa
 
never really thought of it that way.....interesting.

For me it's yet another form of competition. At one time, that mostly revolved around baseball, with the occasional pick up game of basketball, or going to a buddy's house playing pool or ping pong; heck, I'll race ya home from the bus stop....

Doesn't matter what it is, golf, pool, a game of horse, trivia crack, etc. I wanna compete. I don't think I've ever taken something up that didn't have competition as a main drive to get better. I've tried playing instruments, and even dabbled into some art, but since they seemed to me to be more introspective, and passion driven, they didn't last all that long. Truth is, I'm not sure I've ever even been passionate about the things I do enjoy competing in. The drive to get better for me has only one goal - WIN more!!!

So, the fact that there are those that feel they live double lives to participate in something is a little foreign to me. If you see me at work, the poolhall, at my boy's school function, the golf course, or out to eat with the family; I'm likely no different. I may ask you to race to the car still though :p:cool:
 
Well said. I am so thankful I have a table at my house and when I get home from work, I go practice and not one thought crosses my mind about work that day, how bad traffic was driving home, or any thing else. As you stated, I feel I am in a separate world and it is great!
 
Great post pretty close to real life besides the kids and dash lights for me I work on cars and buy and sell and dash lights drive me nuts lol :thumbup:
 
I agree. basementdweller's description hits the mark for me and is very well done.

I'll take it to even a bit of a more micro level, though. When I'm "in the zone" while playing, whether it's at a regional or national tournament, at regular league nights, playing at the neighborhood bar on Saturday night, or just hittin' em at home, virtually everything outside the rails disappears. All the sights, sounds, smells, etc. outside the confines of the table become like white noise. All the distractions of "real life" fade away right there, as my entire existence at that moment is inside the rails.

I know I'm not alone in this.
 
My interpretation: Whoever invented the check engine light should be executed.

Seriously though, good write up Chris!
 
Great description. I teach high school for a living, and the pool world is a pleasant break from my "reality".

Thanks. Glad you enjoyed it.

This is pretty much dead on as far as I am concerned. It's a time capsule that you have hidden away and only visit a few times a year at most.

Sounds about exactly how I see it. Thanks for reading.

I agree with that. I usually don't tell people I play pool unless they're pool players themselves or have known me for a long time. It's just difficult for people to wrap their heads around something that intensive. On the other hand, I have certain pool player acquaintances that have other things in common with me or that I know through non pool playing friends so it's not always black and white.

I can't get my wife to really understand it, let alone other family members or even friends. I guess that's why I ended up on AZ.

The last couple years I have taken the time to make notes on my performance while at a regional tourny. When I go back and review them that 2nd world feeling creeps back. Yep it's like two separate worlds for me also.

It's nice to know we aren't alone.
 
Basement Dweller,

[...]

Last thing I remember, I was
Running for the door
I had to find the passage back
To the place I was before
"Relax, " said the night man,
"We are programmed to receive.
You can check-out any time you like,
But you can never leave!
"


And yeah, I feel that way too.

Two separate lives for decades, but now after so many years of keeping the two personas apart, one of them keeps on fighting to take over the other and I don't know if I can or want to stop him this time.

JoeyA

Thanks for chiming in JoeyA.

"But you can never leave." Pool really does get into your blood after a while and it becomes impossible to go without it. If my wife tried to pursuade me to give up pool at this point it wouldn't really be much different than her trying to pursuade me to give up food.

I will say though - the wife and kids are now and will always be higher up on the priority list for me. Part of the reason things seem to be working for me is I have a table at home. I've never really understood how anyone who loves pool and has a family could maintain their sanity WITHOUT having a pool table at home. I would go nuts without one.

Hang in there JoeyA. You're a good man.
 
This is a great post. It definitely relates to me without a doubt. I started playing in 2004, I was just old enough to get into the local pool establishment which had Diamond tables and about 20 local teams. I was hooked, not only by the game it self but also by the way it was able to, for the most part, feel like a place that was completely off the grid. Everyone has their reason for wanting a place like this whether it be a sick family member, a shitty job or just utterly obsessed with the game.
 
Real life and pool life and rarely the twain meet.

Sometimes a neighbor will see me in the garage with my case slung over my shoulder; one time someone who knew I played asked me over to try out their new 8' foot home table and asked if I knew any trick shots.

That's about it.

Lou Figueroa

I love the family friend that finds out about the pool obsession and then says "I used to play a lot in college. As a matter fact, I paid my way through hustling pool. We should play sometime."

I think I played THAT guy once. Now I just cringe at the thought.
 
never really thought of it that way.....interesting.

For me it's yet another form of competition. At one time, that mostly revolved around baseball, with the occasional pick up game of basketball, or going to a buddy's house playing pool or ping pong; heck, I'll race ya home from the bus stop....

Doesn't matter what it is, golf, pool, a game of horse, trivia crack, etc. I wanna compete. I don't think I've ever taken something up that didn't have competition as a main drive to get better. I've tried playing instruments, and even dabbled into some art, but since they seemed to me to be more introspective, and passion driven, they didn't last all that long. Truth is, I'm not sure I've ever even been passionate about the things I do enjoy competing in. The drive to get better for me has only one goal - WIN more!!!

So, the fact that there are those that feel they live double lives to participate in something is a little foreign to me. If you see me at work, the poolhall, at my boy's school function, the golf course, or out to eat with the family; I'm likely no different. I may ask you to race to the car still though :p:cool:

It's competiion for me too but I guess the reason it became such an obsession was because in those other sports I was focused on competing solely against my opponent. Whereas with pool, if you're not competing directly against an opponent you are still constantly competing against yourself.

It really is interesting reading your take on it even if it's a bit different than mine. Thanks for sharing.

Well said. I am so thankful I have a table at my house and when I get home from work, I go practice and not one thought crosses my mind about work that day, how bad traffic was driving home, or any thing else. As you stated, I feel I am in a separate world and it is great!

We are diffently on the same page.

There's a world outside the pool hall? Who knew?

But there's only two worlds and they are completely seperate.

Great post pretty close to real life besides the kids and dash lights for me I work on cars and buy and sell and dash lights drive me nuts lol :thumbup:

Where were you when I needed you? I''ve been driving around with that light on forever now.

I agree. basementdweller's description hits the mark for me and is very well done.

I'll take it to even a bit of a more micro level, though. When I'm "in the zone" while playing, whether it's at a regional or national tournament, at regular league nights, playing at the neighborhood bar on Saturday night, or just hittin' em at home, virtually everything outside the rails disappears. All the sights, sounds, smells, etc. outside the confines of the table become like white noise. All the distractions of "real life" fade away right there, as my entire existence at that moment is inside the rails.

I know I'm not alone in this.

You're definitely not alone. Thanks for expanding on my thread. Everything you said I can relate to.

My interpretation: Whoever invented the check engine light should be executed.

Seriously though, good write up Chris!

Thanks -- glad you liked it.
 
This is a great post. It definitely relates to me without a doubt. I started playing in 2004, I was just old enough to get into the local pool establishment which had Diamond tables and about 20 local teams. I was hooked, not only by the game it self but also by the way it was able to, for the most part, feel like a place that was completely off the grid. Everyone has their reason for wanting a place like this whether it be a sick family member, a shitty job or just utterly obsessed with the game.

Exactly. And we can all come together and leave all that stuff behind us. Not to mention,our political and religous philosophies can be left at home. People from all different backgrounds, whether they are rich or poor, white or black, skinny or fat, we can all come together and just play pool.

That's pretty cool.
 
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