Local girl from my pool hall was killed yesterday

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PlynSets

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There's an up and coming player named Billy that plays out of Encinitas (Pacific Q). It's not what I'd consider a real "pool hall" where there's alot of action etc.. More just bangers, with the occasional small 5 dollar sets going on. Every now and again I can get a pretty good game in there, but it's rare. I've known Billy for about 4 years now, and he's been a banger (shot maker) for most of that time.. About a year ago he started taking it more seriously, and him and one of his closest friends Grant both stepped their game up quite a bit and raised the bar to low to average B players with ungodly shot making abillities. Billy had always been a bit of a ladies man around there, always showing up with some lil cutie here and there, but about a year and a half ago he met Kimberly. I always gave him shit for robbing the cradle (He was 20 and she was 16 or 17 at the time?) and he would always tell me "It's not going to matter when I'm 26 and she's 22, or 40 and 36 etc.." Kind of weird but he more or less "knew" that she was the chick for him the day he met her.

They immediately started dating and had been together going on 2 years now (a little over a year and a half I think?). Most of the young girls that hang around the pool hall kinda of irritate me, but Kimberly was exceptionally mature for her age. She was always pleasant to be around, and was one of those that you were just kind of happy to see walk through the door. This last Wednesday Billy came in and played the tournament, he was telling my g/f and I about how he was going to take a road trip with Kim (pretty sure this weekend) to Northern California. They were going to go up to Sequoya's (spelling?) and other spots like that, and just go sight seeing etc.. He was asking if we knew any good spots to stop or sight see etc. My g/f was actually giving me the eye becuase we don't do enough things like that.

Billy went on to defeat my g/f and onto the finals. He ended up winning the tournament on wednesday and was pretty happy about it as it's been awhile for him. He seemed pretty stoked that he had some extra cash, to which I assumed he would use on their road trip. I got a phone call yesterday from a friend at the pool hall saying Kimberly was killed yesterday afternoon. She was riding a mountain bike around town on a nice afternoon, and went into a intersection getting hit buy a large work truck. I feel so bad for Billy, that I'm not even sure what to say to him the next time I see him, I can only imagine the world he's in right now.

This is 3rd terrible thing that's happened to one of the regulars at Pacific Q in the last 2 - 3 months. It's like every other pool hall where there's a tight nit group of regulars and it's been a rough year so far for our group.

Here's A link to the local news story

http://www.10news.com/news/8517144/detail.html#

I think I'm going to take Stacy up the coast here pretty soon..

DJ
 
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Truly sad.

I'm a cyclist and I've seen a lot of "biker killed by car" posts on various mountain/road biking sites. The circumstances vary - the worst being the drunk guy weaving onto the shoulder and nailing a biker. I myself once nearly had my head taken off by a passing pickup's side mirror as the guy blazed past me, way too close during a road ride, when the guy had plenty of room otherwise.
 
Even though it is hard to find words to express how awful you feel for Billy, make sure you say them anyway. Avoiding the subject is not what he needs right now. He needs to feel the love and support from people who knew Kimberly and can understand his loss. Even if all you can do is offer a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen.

And I'm glad you are spending time with Stacy. Sometimes good things like appreciating your own loved ones, comes from the death of someone close.

I am so sorry for everyone, but especially Billy, who definitely wanted to spend his future with Kimberly. I will pray that his grief is eased somehow through his remaining friends and family.
 
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Im very sorry to hear this, please tell your friend that I, and I am sure others here, send their condolences. :(
 
That's a terrible tragedy DJ. Don't remain silent. Tell Billy that you are sorry for his loss and ask him if there is anything that you can do? Then keep quiet and listen.

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PlynSets said:
There's an up and coming player named Billy that plays out of Encinitas (Pacific Q). It's not what I'd consider a real "pool hall" where there's alot of action etc.. More just bangers, with the occasional small 5 dollar sets going on. Every now and again I can get a pretty good game in there, but it's rare. I've known Billy for about 4 years now, and he's been a banger (shot maker) for most of that time.. About a year ago he started taking it more seriously, and him and one of his closest friends Grant both stepped their game up quite a bit and raised the bar to low to average B players with ungodly shot making abillities. Billy had always been a bit of a ladies man around there, always showing up with some lil cutie here and there, but about a year and a half ago he met Kimberly. I always gave him shit for robbing the cradle (He was 20 and she was 16 or 17 at the time?) and he would always tell me "It's not going to matter when I'm 26 and she's 22, or 40 and 36 etc.." Kind of weird but he more or less "knew" that she was the chick for him the day he met her.

They immediately started dating and had been together going on 2 years now (a little over a year and a half I think?). Most of the young girls that hang around the pool hall kinda of irritate me, but Kimberly was exceptionally mature for her age. She was always pleasant to be around, and was one of those that you were just kind of happy to see walk through the door. This last Wednesday Billy came in and played the tournament, he was telling my g/f and I about how he was going to take a road trip with Kim (pretty sure this weekend) to Northern California. They were going to go up to Sequoya's (spelling?) and other spots like that, and just go sight seeing etc.. He was asking if we knew any good spots to stop or sight see etc. My g/f was actually giving me the eye becuase we don't do enough things like that.

Billy went on to defeat my g/f and onto the finals. He ended up winning the tournament on wednesday and was pretty happy about it as it's been awhile for him. He seemed pretty stoked that he had some extra cash, to which I assumed he would use on their road trip. I got a phone call yesterday from a friend at the pool hall saying Kimberly was killed yesterday afternoon. She was riding a mountain bike around town on a nice afternoon, and went into a intersection getting hit buy a large work truck. I feel so bad for Billy, that I'm not even sure what to say to him the next time I see him, I can only imagine the world he's in right now.

This is 3rd terrible thing that's happened to one of the regulars at Pacific Q in the last 2 - 3 months. It's like every other pool hall where there's a tight nit group of regulars and it's been a rough year so far for our group.

Here's A link to the local news story

http://www.10news.com/news/8517144/detail.html#

I think I'm going to take Stacy up the coast here pretty soon..

DJ
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That is horrible and goes to show us how precious life really is, my condolensces go out to Billy and Kimberly's family.
 
I am very sad to hear...

DJ, I am very sad to hear of your loss. I will keep you and all affected in my prayers and pray that God gives you the strength and wisdom to deal with this tragedy.
Very sad, in deed :(
 
Sorry DJ

Terrible news my friend. Support Billy anyway you can. There is nothing worse than losing the love of your life.

It is better to love and lose it than to never have loved at all.

Everywhere the flower of love blooms, the seed of tradgedy is planted.

These two sayings have always helped me when going thru the loss of a loved one.

I am very sorry. Purdman:(
 
I haven't seen Billy sense his g/f died. :( Late last week I had to do alot of work around the house to get it ready for the g/f's housewarming party (some candle party thing?) that she had going on this weekend. After her candle party a bunch of people cruised over for a BBQ, and playing pool all night (just got our table setup the night before), Billy was suppose to show up but he never did. Damn near everyone from the pool hall was over (including the owner) shooting all night, and we kept on expecting him to show up any minute. I'm probably going to go see him tonight just to see how he's doing. From what I heard he's not doing well, but everybody is doing everything they can for him. That's one nice thing about being a regular at a hall.. It's kind of an extended family that takes care of someone when there down. Some people were a little worried that he might do something stupid so people have been taking turns kinda hanging out with him. I guess he's been down to the pool hall everynight to be with friends etc.. The owner pretty much told him anything he wants is on the house for as long as he wants. I heard he usually only goes down for a short while though and then starts to tear up and bolts for awhile. I dunno.. I feel terrible for the kid, I hope there's something I can do for him, but honestly other then maybe just talking to him, and offering him a beer I think it's kinda outta my realm.

DJ
 
a truly tragic story, and i'm so sorry for you and everybody else affected. and at eighteen as well, she's missed out on so much. :(

just be there so he can talk to you as well btw, even if you aint saying much it's some company to listen to him, and it'll help. other than that it's mainly down to how he copes. :(
 
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worriedbeef said:
a truly tragic story, and i'm so sorry for you and everybody else affected. and at eighteen as well, she's missed out on so much. :(

just be there so he can talk to you as well btw, even if you aint saying much it's some company to listen to him, and it'll help. other than that it's mainly down to how he copes. :(
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So true , I have been there and know that your friend will appreciate just having you around , Your friend may not acknowledge it but will know that you were there just the same and that says more than mere words can express ...

My best friends wife was crushed by a super dump truck loaded with gravel when her brakes failed leaving him 2 young children (3 months and a 3 year old)
to raise ....Just be there !

Ratchet - my prayers go out to your friend and her family
 
Prayers to all

Although I did not personally know Kimberly, my heartfelt prayers and condolences go out to her family and friends. I have spent a lot of time in that area have been to Pacific cue many times. I know quite a few of the pool players inthe area. Many of you have purchase cues or cases from me. Jim the owner is a stand up guy. Its great for him to offer gratis to help Billy thru. You DJ just need to be the friend you are. Some of you older guys like Kyle, Larry, Rocky and David please help out however you can. I am planning a trip down that way. I will make sure I stop by and convey my personal condolences. So Sorry, Jeff
 
Even without knowing anyone on this case my heartfelt condolences to her family and friends.


It's not easy to really help on that kind of a situation but mostly what you can do and what at least helps a bit is to listen, really listen and not even talk so much. Even if the other one is not saying so many words he might be saying a lot. And don't forget that we all have our own ways of recovery so give him some space too, let him scream out the anger and frustration that comes from not being able to protect the loved one.
 
Billy has been coming over to my house for the last few nights (not last night) and playing some pool. My roomate / girlfriend and myself as well as his friend Grant had some long talks, and mostly just listened. It's amazing to me how strong this kid is, much stronger then I could ever be given the situation.

I went to the funeral/memorial today and along with the regular friends and family the entire list of regulars from the pool hall were there. Definately shows how close of a group the regulars really are, and that everyone is there for someone when they are down. Many people gave rememberances, and the Hall itself (Pacific Q) was mentioned in most of them becuase both of them spent so much time there. Jim (owner of Pacific Q) went up and delivered a brief but fantasticly worded and endearing commentation on watching there reationship sprout and grow and what he learned from that.. I couldn't find the words so I sat in silence which I regret now. Overall though if there's one thing about the game of pool, it's that the "regulars" in any hall across the country are more of a second family then they are casual acquantances. Not sure I ever realized that to be more true then today.

DJ
 
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