To: Brady & Danny
Melinda said:
I think this is very good advice. Good post, JoeyA.
While I am sorry Danny is having a difficult time with this issue, I am just not one to bring my business to the public forums like this and actually agree with branpureza in that regard. But, maybe this was a last resort?
-Melinda
Melinda,
When private conversations and intermediaries fail to solve problems, going public or a lawsuit are the only other things left to try.
It is embarassing to both Brady and Danny to have this story told, IMHO.
Since I am on a roll, this one is for Brady.
Brady,
I was a young man once, not unlike yourself and made mistakes that I wish I had not made. I would give anything to not have made some of those mistakes but we all make mistakes in life. The difference in who comes out looking like a real man is the one who decides to accept responsbility for the mistake. You have already done that in this medium and that is pretty sporty for a guy your age. It isn't easy to admit you're wrong at any age. Kudos to you for doing that. The second part isn't much easier:
You and Danny need to put aside the testosterone, the Internet admonishing and PM each other or private email each other or better yet, call each other on the telephone and hash this out to both of your satisfactions. Perhaps the two of you could agree on a compromise although I can't speak for either of you. It is just something to consider. You seem like you have matured a lot since this terrible piece of bad luck and I think you are owed some respect for admitting that you're wrong.
Maybe some of the other posters (and AZersplease don't email me about --well if he --- did this -- if he did that--) might consider getting off of your case too.
I think Danny is a mature young man who might be willing to listen to what you have to say. This has gone on far too long for both of you. The TWO of you need to decide what is acceptable to the both of you and try to reconcile your differences.
You both love pool - that is quite obvious. You are both hurting yourselves. Quit discussing this on this medium. Make the PM to Danny, offer the apology and offer to reconcile the financials to the BEST OF YOUR ABILITY. Danny is owed the full amount, whatever that is. You took a beating on something that went out of your control. I think Danny can understand that and might be willing to consider that as well.
Danny: I'm sure you have been in some difficult situations before and wish that someone had cut you some slack and I would be a bit surprised if you told me, no one ever cut you any slack in your life. Even if no one ever did, you know that could have made all the difference in the world at that point in time. Perhaps this is one of those times and perhaps you are on the side of fence to accept a compromise or not. It is your decision and your alone. And just in case Brady decides to PM you, it means he is taking the big step in trying to reconcile this. You then need to meet Brady half way by handling this in a mature manner. Keep the details off of the Internet and keep it private BETWEEN TWO MEN. If it does work out for the two of you, just let us know on AZ that it is all done and you both are happy with the PRIVATE RESOLUTION. You both have supporters and we want to see the both of you contributing more to our beloved sport.
For the record: I have never spoken or written and email to Danny or Brady about this subject and I don't speak for either of them and have never spoken to either on the telephone, although I did once have a brief conversation about tips with Danny many years ago at the Sport Palace in New Orleans. I don't want to discuss my position or who's right or who's wrong or to pick apart anyone's argument or to defend mine. I'm really not into arguing especially when its not my ox getting gored. I'm just on a roll right now and would like to see two young men get past this.
Best Regards,
JoeyA (will be at the U.S. Open Friday and Saturday also at Master Q's for a little "practice" with Jay Helfert).