I channel my psychopatic alter ego. A psychopath will be positive even when all hope seems lost. Down 10-0 in a race to 11? No worries, my opponent can't possibly win because I will. I keep a smile on my face because that will make me positive wether I want to or not, just watch Efren. I recently started working on not letting my opponent or their game enter my mind, that will cause some serious problems for some of us. If I actually manage to do my best on every shot there will be no negative thoughts when in the chair.
I know my limits and I accept them when in a match and stay positive.
Golf is not a Game of Perfect!
Amateurs tend to criticize them selves harder than the pros'.
“No matter what happens with any shot you hit, accept it. Acceptance is the last step in a sound routine”
Good golfers have to get over the notion that they only want to win by hitting perfect shots. They have to learn to enjoy winning ugly. And that entails acceptance of all the shots they hit, not just the good ones.
The best golfers strive to minimise their mistakes, but they don’t expect to eliminate them. And they understand that it’s most important to respond well to the mistakes they inevitably do make.
If you want to eliminate anything, eliminate smothering perfectionism.
You must throw away your expectations when you walk onto a golf course and just play.
You must become your own best friend and not berate yourself constantly during practice and play. You have to be non-judgemental, be honest with yourself and work on your weaknesses but not on the golf course. There you must stay optimistic and enthusiastic.
Acceptance allows a golfer to be patient and patience is one of the necessary virtues in golf.
Golf is not a game of justice.
You have to learn how to wait. But you have to learn to wait with confidence.
A successful player has to develop the ability to evaluate himself objectively to work harder when he needs more practice, but to ease up when he’s tempted to push too hard.
You have to remember to throw away expectations, just to have fun and see what’s the lowest score you can shoot. You have to attend to the process and not concern yourself with the results.
http://www.amazon.com/Golf-Is-Not-Game-Perfect/dp/B0000547FP
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