I recently screwed up a completely custom cue order. I had notes & such with his specifics but still missed a lot of them. I wasn't purposely being negligent but just my absent minded self. I essentially wasted years of both of our lives with this cue build when I should never have accepted the order in the first place because it was so far out of the spec of my own formula. And I should have explained it to him when we were discussing the details of the build. Then he could have accepted my formula or else moved along to a builder who is good with custom specs. Instead I took the build on with every intention of nailing it right on the way he wanted. I didn't need the money. In fact I gave it to him at about half rate. I like the guy & wanted to make him happy, as well as have fun doing what I do, which is building cues.
Anyway, I learned a valuable lesson about myself. This situation made me sit back & evaluate myself, my buyer base, and our industry as a whole. I realized that from the very beginning I always felt pressure to please people. They expect us builders to be almost god like sometimes, and it's totally understandable considering the money they pay for cues. Cues are very expensive novelty items. The buyers rarely consider that we are grossly underpaid, only that they are paying a lot of cash for a pool cue. We, or at least I, often feel a little guilty charging fairly because it is a lot of money. I often under charge because of it. I'm very blessed & lucky that I don't need to make money from building cues. Rather, I can afford to build cues. I admire but don't envy the guys scraping out a living with cues. Heaven forbid something go wrong with a buyer. They think they have our balls with these forums & can put a lot of pressure on us. Luckily my buyer is a gentleman but I know one builder who recently had to deal with a buyer who had that mentality. Building cues is a tough gig, even for hobbyists.
I am at a point where I either quit building cues or come to terms with who I am as a cuemaker. I have always expressed myself as carefree but in actuality I always try hard to make folks happy. I can't please everybody. And i'm not going to try. I will build what I want, when I want, for whom I want. Don't ask me for specs that are outside of my formula & I won't make promises I can't keep. I like my cues, not yours. So don't ask me to build your cue. I'm not being an ass. I'm being honest. When i'm comfortable & happy I do my best work. When i'm trying to please & meet demands I screw things up, which sucks for everybody. It is what it is & it's who I am. So i'm just going with it. It's who I am.
Who are you as a cue maker? Have you come to terms with your limitations vs. strengths? Do you feel pressured to please folks & if so for what reasons? Where are you going with cues & what steps are you taking to get there? No need to answer on here, just a few questions I asked myself & it kinda put things into perspective. Sorry for the lengthy post. I was just sharing thoughts & experiences. I wonder if any other builders contemplate these things.