I don't want to derail the thread and I think this is sorta on track. I hate to lose and when I do, I dwell on it for a few days. I even have dreams about it. Especially if I should have won.
Yesterday I played a great tournament in my area. It was a different format than I'm used to. The field was limited to 25 players and we played round robin. At the end of the round robin, a point system was used to calculate where you were. The game was 8 ball and the field was open to all, no handicap. If you win you get 10 points and if you lose you get a point for every ball you pocket. The top four players have a play off for the money. I finished 5th, 4 points out of the top 4 and therefore out of the money. This really made me think about times when I made mistakes that were avoidable. 1 more game won or 5 more balls pocketed and I would have been in.
Anyway, to JR's, post above. One of those situations came up where I was down on the ball and started having those thoughts. I didn't stand up and go through my routine again. I had just come off of running 3 racks and broke and had a road map on the fourth. It was close to the end and I was aware of the scores. I knew that if I made that last 8 ball I would more than likely make the money based on my upcoming competition. Guess what I did...I dogged it. The guy got up and ran out just like you are supposed to in 8 ball. So, on the learning how to win aspect of the thread, what do you do in those situations as far as clearing your head and getting your mind back right?