Congrats to you both. With how much me and my new bride of four years are at eachother's throats it's hard to believe we'll ever be together that long. Not trying to hijack your thread but I have a question for you guys. I've had tons of people tell me "you're newly weds and the world is carefree and you haven't seen anything yet." Then there are others who tell me their first 5 years of marriage are the toughest. This seems to be the way it's going for me and my wife. Between me being out of work and the bills piling up we can't even consider having kids and we'll both be 30 next year. Not looking for sympathy, rather looking for some people who have been through it and know sometimes the first part of a marriage ain't always so grand.
I understand you looking for answers when things aren't going smoothly, but I cannot give you any advice. Diane & I were just right for each other and getting married was an extension of our friendship and wasn't work. Of course we had/have arguments, but we never felt it to be work to stay together. I wish you and your wife the best in the future, I hope you get in a good rhythm with your life together.
Dave