Thanks Jay. I appreciate your input. And, you're right, I really didn't have any business playing a stranger.
I do want to say, I don't approach matches like this from a perspective of trying to make money. I'm trying to get better. I believe I have to play better player to achieve my goals. I would be perfectly happy playing these better players for free but they won't play that way.
Steven
Steven,
I don't know your age and I guess it doesn't really matter unless you are really, really old or just in poor health. I get the impression that you are neither.
If you seldom win at gambling matches you are probably in a bad game most of the time.
It's great that you don't mind gambling with the better players. Neither do I but we both know we're going to get more than our share of being whipped on.
It definitely helps to play better players but to get better faster, you have to practice, take lessons, not just from gamblers but from people who play better than you do. I tell people to practice on the pool table by themselves, shooting the same shots over and over until you can make those shots in your sleep.
As to knowing whether you are in a bad game or not, sometimes it requires testing your opponent. If you threaten to quit them because you just can't beat them and their game then gets a little worse and you seem to be holding your own but still not winning, you are most likely in a bad game.
If you seem to lose the game more often than when your opponent simply runs out, you are also most likely in a bad game. Good gamblers have a way of allowing the lesser player to lose the games rather than for them to just run out and beat the players with their shooting.
If the other player is patronizing you with comments about when you make a good shot, he is probably trying to boost your morale to keep you playing. Gamblers if they have any really good will to share, share it best when they are winning. Maybe 10% of all of the gamblers in the world compliment you when you are winning , an occasional compliment when you are losing, just to keep your ego from deflating entirely.
For the most part, I think you can trust your instincts when you feel like you are in a bad game, unless your ego gets in the way of seeing the reality of what's actually happening. The old saying, "To thine own self, be true." is probably something that you really have to take to heart because if you can't be honest with yourself, you can't trust yourself to know if you're in a bad game.
Keep playing the good players (especially for cheap stakes as they will appreciate the action and will realize that you aren't actually trying to get their cheese) but in addition, get some pool lessons and practice, practice, practice.
Good luck.