It appears that you have got a pretty good dose of how slow play is looked upon, so I won't add much
BUT
since people that play slow is the No. 1 thing that gets a rise out of me, allow me a few moments to get some free therapy by expressing my thoughts
Early on in my pool life, I would play about anyone, which unfortunately included slow players. It is then that I learned that they DRIVE ME OUT OF MY MIND! It is then that I also learned that my game suffered greatly while playing those players. I found myself doing the following while waiting for them to shoot.
* cursing them violently under my breath
* fighting back urges to scream "Shoot the f*&$*ng ball!
* slumping in my chair so much my shoulder blades were in the seat
* letting out heavy sighs
* tellling myself over and over "I am NEVER playing this person again"
* staring at them and wondering what the hell is wrong with them
* wondering how in the hell they got any enjoyment out of playing
* wondering what I was going to eat later
* staring at the heavens above while rolling my eyes
* sitting with my head in my hands pondering the meaning of life
* leaning my stick against the wall and kicking back
* telling myself, I have to quit this game
* deciding to lose intentionally just to get this nightmare over
Well.... you get the idea:grin:
Now I realize, to each their own. I'm a fast shooter. At this point in my life, I shoot because I love the game and enjoy it. I'm not in the position to play hardly any tournaments and I can't find any action, so I just enjoy playing by myself, if there's no other choice. BUT, if I'm practicing and someone comes up to me wanting to play, the first thing I tell them is "if you are a slow shooter, I would rather just practice myself" I'm blunt about it, because I do not even want to play one game with a slow player, let along some race. I don't care if it's for 50 bucks and I got the nuts. I could use the money, but it's just not worth it to me.
I could never be a hustler or road player, because I can't do what it takes to get the cash. I am weak in that area, so I accept that and take that out of the equation. I don't get to play much anymore, so any time I do get to play, I"m not going to waste it staring at some dude slowly chalking his stick while he's staring at each ball on the table. Then getting down from 5 different angles to stare at the cueball, then the same thing on the object ball, then getting down to saw endlessly back and forth, only to get up when I think the torture is just about over to do it all over again.
I"m checking out the lay of the table while I'm sitting, I'm determining where the problem balls are and how I'm going to deal with them. Unless he hits every ball on the table, I already have a idea of what I'm going to do if I get a turn. When I get up from my chair, I'm scanning the table for what I'm going to do, as I go to where the chalk is at I'm scanning the table, as I quickly chalk my tip, I am deciding what to do, so when I get to where the cueball is at, I know what I need to do. I already know how to hit the cueball to get to where I'm going so no time is needed for that. I get down, take a few warm up strokes and hit the damn ball. I am a very fast player on all the basic shots and only take some time when the shot is difficult or I need to figure out some complicated things.
So in closing, yes, many people will not even play you if you're slow. Many people might think they can deal with it, but after being exposed to it in a race, will decide against it in the future. Many people will be so exasperated, that they just shoot at whatever when it's finally their turn, just to get it over with. Basically just giving up because they want it to be over with before they intentionally impale themselves with their own cue. People might only play you if the bet is high enough to compensate for the torture they must endure.
I know the obvious.... you are entitled to play however you wish, except for tournaments when there's a reasonable expectation to get the match over with, so you don't hold up the whole tournament. I know I am supposed to deal with whatever situations come up, including slow players. I know I"m not supposed to let it bother me, you know, with my steel like concentration and my attitude of I will play whatever lies when it's my turn... yeah, yeah... whatever. I'm a weakling in that area. I'm never going to be any champion so the hell with all that

I'm selfish now in my old age and I'm going to use the little time I get to play, enjoying myself and playing slow players is the absolute worst torture I can imagine.
Advice?? I would say since you're learning the game, to practice learning about how to control the cueball on your own time. If you can know HOW to get to where you need to go quickly, that's one thing off the table. If the main holdup is what pattern to take, stop trying to figure out every possible scenerio on how to achieve the end result. Pick one early on and go with it. Pick the one that is least likely to hit other balls even if it's a little more delicate of a shot. Nothing will screw up your plan more then having whitey hit another ball... THEN you have to completely RETHINK the whole plan over again

Maybe your're trying to plan the whole rack out, I don't know, but plan only a few shots ahead until you get quicker on your decision making.
Good luck... anyone deserves to enjoy this wonderful game of pool, but I cannot, myself, see how anyone could enjoy staring at a table for minutes on end.... get up there and SHOOT! That's where the enjoyment lies... is quickly making a decision, knowing you know how to execute it and watching it all unfold as you wished. Think about it... if you spend a hour at the table and you spend 75% of it chalking your cue and doing bending exercises from all angles and 25% of it actually shooting the ball and watching the path it takes, how much fun could that be?
And if we just ever happen to meet, please do not even THINK about asking me to play, and if I ask you to play, say you're arms broke or something.:grin:
Thanks and Good Luck!